Had a brief relationship with this guy, he's lovely and going through a tough time so we broke up. I have sent him a couple of emails but have heard nothing back and figure he doesn't want to hear from me so I don't want to write again. I've got the message ;-)
BUT we were working on a mutual project that I am nearly finished with but need to ask him some info. Should I send him the mail with the questions or should I just 'make up' his answers?
I do find his ignoring my emails a bit hurtful too so am reluctant for that reason as well but his help on the questions would be brilliant. Help.
2007-03-20 07:08:59 · 37 answers · asked by Fletch2066 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Quick update and thanks to every one who took the time to answer! I went with the majority vote and emailed him. And he replied. A good reply too so that's great.
2007-03-21 23:10:34 · update #1
Do not mix "business" with personal issues.. If you really believe that his info will be of value, go ahead, send him the mail as if nothing had ever happened between you two, be strictly "business". No jokes, no complains, nothing personal.
You are right , his ignoring your mails makes you sad. To save your dignity, do not complain, do not show your distress. Just be polite and businesslike. In case he tries to explain his behaviour and his absence, listen to him if this makes you feel a little better, and it is up to you whether you believe his possible excuses or not.
Good luck
2007-03-20 07:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely send the email! Even if he doesn't reply to the email if you see him around town or work or wherever stop and talk to him. Tell him " hey how are you" you know open up the conversation, then say " well I needed some help on the project we were working on...." you could ask him if this is a good time, if he looks like he is in a hurry or something but also kind of warn him nicely that you expect to get some answers to your questions. Maybe after that you can get a better bond between the two of you going again!
2007-03-20 07:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by smartfashiondiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a "brief relationship" with this guy and he no longer answers regular emails.................he's a total Jerk ! But he should still at the very least finish a work project that he started. I say give it a try but keep it strictly business , title the email subject line as" final work questions" or some such.
If you get no reply then just pick up your lower lip and move on with the project without him. your a Big Girl . Life goes on . Just don't make the same mistake again. work and private life don't mix.
Oh ! How hard would it be to find someone else to ask the qusetions ?
2007-03-20 07:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by huntnyou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL IF HIS THE ONLY PERSON COULD ANSWER THAT QUESTION I GUESS U DONT HAVE OPTION RIGHT??
but like u mention his ignoring u...so if u send that email dont expect a lot so later if ever he didnt reply it wont hurt ur feelings....
i know its hard to be on that situation...my suggestion dear...give him some space plus by annoying him...he might run away forever w/u...is that what u want??? ofcourse not right??
dont worry everything will be fine its take some time...
if u could make ur self busier than usual thats gonna make u think less about him...
i wish that everything turn out fine after u send that email...good luck dear!!!
2007-03-20 07:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to call him?
his email server (ISP) may have a problem and he may not have been able to log in.
so make that voice call, say hi i'm calling about the project we were working on, i need your help to get it finished.
steer clear of talking about what went on to cause the reason for him not calling or speaking.
yes it hurts he has not called you. but some guys see not calling as the kindest way of saying it's over move on, i have. without having to go through the arguments and ear ache that a break up can cause.
so try to look at it this way his email address may be down as i said. so don't take it personally that he has not replied.
some servers can be down from a couple of minutes to several days depending on what caused the error on the server that required it to be shut down.
so in this instance email should not be your only means of communication. a simple telephone call or old fashioned hand written or typed letter sent in the regular paper post!
whatever good luck!
2007-03-20 08:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was wondering about u how u have forced urself (projected urself) b4 someone who is not giving u time and space all relationships demand that...so when it does not happen u should not force urself on pretext of your earlier experiece...things do change on matter of time..which takes you also in this..so better carry on ur project and try to avoid speculation game as the other side is human and has emotions...when want to ask something u ask him directly if possible or speak rather than monitoring how he receives mails how he responds mails...is like a child's babble
when grown up we should avoid these school tactics...hope you will resolve this soon and let me know the aftermaths!!
2007-03-20 07:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by syedsafi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a mutual project, if he wants any credit for it he'll have to contribute. Let him know in your "questions" email that you will take 100% credit for the project if you don't hear back from him with his answers, and see if that motivates him at all. Give it a couple of days and if you don't hear back, send a final email letting him know that's exactly what you have done and fill him in on your made-up answers.
2007-03-20 07:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him an email asking about that project and nothing more. If he does not respond then you will be on your own on that project. After that I would advise you to no longer email him. Could be he just wants time alone to sort out things going on in his life, or that he is not interested in continuing any relationship with you. Either way, you will have to respect his wish to not email. Hope it all turns out well for you.
2007-03-20 07:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem.. I email him and email him and he doesn't get back to me at all so I just decided to stop all connection with him what so ever. Considering you have a project due in what ever amount of time you have, you should either call him or meet up with him somewhere to get his answers. Just because he doesn't want to talk with you anymore doesn't mean he can ignore you and the project and destroy both of your grades or jobs. Good luck!
2007-03-20 07:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kendra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's likely that he'll misinterpret your communication as a ploy to get him to respond. He's apparently aware of the on-going joint project and if he wanted to remain involved he would have. I think I'd leave it alone and complete the project without him. In the unlikely event that he questions you later as to why you didn't continue to involve him you can simply explain that you attempted to continue communications and it was apparent he did not desire to respond. His assistance might be helpful, but it may not be an option. Consider how you're going to feel after you sent yet another e-mail and he still doesn't respond.
2007-03-20 07:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋