ok the love of my life proposed to me lastnight & im REALLY happy i luv my sailor with all my heart but im REALLY scared is this normal cuz the wedding is so far way its April 2008 cuz he is in the NAVY & can't get married till then
2007-03-20 06:58:41 · 15 answers · asked by Heather'smommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
im just scared it will not work out
2007-03-20 07:06:30 · update #1
it's perfectly normal to have a long engagement - and, in your case, it could be very beneficial. it's always nice to have lots of time to plan the wedding (which is SO time consuming), and you have lots of time to find out whether or not it really will work before you take the plunge. you shouldn't worry too much about this - if he breaks it off before the wedding, consider yourself lucky that you got out before you took the plunge.
2007-03-20 07:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by trillian 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Congrats! Take a deep breath and relax. It's normal to feel scared and there will be plenty of times between now and then that you will feel this way. This is also a fun and exciting time for you so enjoy yourself and have fun making all the plans. When things get overwhelming, don't forget to take some time for yourself and do something you enjoy. Good luck
Don't even put out those thoughts that it won't work out. Sure, it seems like a long way away, especially with him in the Navy, but it will go by quickly. Finding your true love is the hardest part. He wants to marry you so have faith in him and your love. All will be fine
2007-03-20 14:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by abbacat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all congrats!!!! I guess I'm wondering what exactly are you scared about???? Its normal to be scared to make such a big transition. I was terrified about loosing my identity, changing my last name, and no longer being "free" but I think with any big change comes some sort of fear. We are now having our first child and while we couldn't be happier we are also scared. Its the fear of the unknown.
If you are scared about things other than this I would question what that is. You said you are scared about it not working out, what the marriage? The long engagement? The distance if he is away? Ask yourself why you feel this way. I come from a divorced family, my mom was divorced 3 times so I was scared to death to do the same. I talked with my fiance about this and he said I was so afraid of that happening that there was no way I would do that. I am aware of it and things to avoid to put myself in a situation to do that.
Just ask yourself why you feel the way you do and the evaluate the situation. Best of luck!
2007-03-20 15:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ambre B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, it is a scary thing since its probably something you've never done before. Just think about it this way, you have plenty of time to plan it and if he's the one then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Now, since he's in the military, are you prepared for him going on leave often & stuff? That's something you have to know ahead of time if you can deal with. I'd say that's one of the biggest things. I have a very good friend that's in the marines and he got married right before he was deployed to Iraq. His wife didn't handle it all well. She ended up cheating on him and its sad. Please don't do that to him. There are support groups on base of other wives and girlfriends who's men are deployed with your man and it helps tremendously.
If you love this guy, don't sweat it! You will be fine. Just be happy that you are engaged and he loves you too! :) Have fun planning the wedding!!!
2007-03-20 16:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be a bit nervous and scared at first but just stay calm and think of it as extra time to plan the wedding!! Our wedding isn't until May of 2010 and I'm not a bit worried that it won't happen because of the time. I'm just excited that I have 3 years to make it perfect!
2007-03-20 15:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by jessicamichelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby to-be is gone a lot for work too. sometime I feel like whats the point in being married to a man whos never there. I even went to pre-marital counceling to make sure I wasn't over reacting! But when he walks in the door from being gone for a month....nothing else matters in the world but him and I. It's like we're a brand new couple and I can't imagin being without him. There are time's though that I wish he would go away for a month just so that we can have that feeling again! LOL!
Trust me your going to have so much planning to do while he's gone ~ time will fly by!
2007-03-20 14:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by jaxons mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scared, I dont know. Maybe you're really nervous and that is extremely common for a bride. Of course you would be nervous. Its a major life change, but its also one of the most beautiful life changes. I have been married for 3 years and 9 months and I'm loving every minute of it. Have fun planning your wedding.
2007-03-20 14:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats, first of all and second marriage is scary,love is a great thing, the wedding isn't that far off, a year is not that long at all. there many things that you are going to have to do to get ready to get married in the first place time, will just fly by. But soon you and your Navy man will be married good luck and again congrats.
2007-03-20 14:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I suppose you could get married in April 2007 instead. By April 2008, you'll know whether it will work out. Seriously, by waiting, you gain the advantage of learning whether your love is long term.
2007-03-20 14:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. It's good to have a long engagement. I got engaged last year and we are not getting married until May of 2008.
2007-03-20 14:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋