While my boy friend of 7 years and I took a break I slept with his best friend more than once, my boyfriend and I are back together and they are still best friends. Should I tell my boy friend? His best friend has not said anything to anyone about it. We still all hang out together and there is no tension between me and the best friend.
2007-03-20 06:49:45 · 15 answers · asked by Cuddles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
start off the affair again u didnt get caught did u
2007-03-20 06:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by huw r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy oh boy! Cuddles you surely have a dilemma here. Part of me wants to say that the truth will come out eventually and then he might never forgive you. On the other hand, if things have settled back into normal and this other guy is still in your lifes without a problem I tend to lean towards "'let sleeping dogs lie". What I would probably do if I was in your shoes is to talk to the "friend" and to make sure that he keeps his mouth shut. Yeah, I know that sounds bad, but you weren't alone in this. On the other hand, the other guy claims to be your man's best friend and I could have understood a spare of the moment "onsie" but you said it was more than once. Are you sure he is not "hanging around" because of you? Sure, maybe they were best buddies before you but no best friend does that. There is an ancient unwritten rule and I am sure you are already aware of this. It's "hands off my gf/bf". You and your boyfriend have had 7 yrs. together and something caused the temporary breakup, didn't it? Could it be that this other guy had something to do with it? Then went after what he wanted [you] and now, is trying to get back between you guys. Be careful! No, don't even talk to him first. Tell your boyfriend. Yes, that is my final answer! I am not trying to turn this into something of a laughing matter, but the more I thought about it, the more I became certain that is would be your best option. Like I said in the beginning, if you don't tell and it comes out (and believe me, it always does!) the chances of ever patching up your relationship with your boyfriend are very slim. If he loves you, he'll forgive you but the friend has to go. One way or another. He'll cause more problems somewhere down the line. Trust me!
Good luck and be strong...
MsB.
2007-03-20 14:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by MSB1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever ,evernever, neverever... tell your boyfriend!!! Evernever, nevernever...neverever !!!!!
Unfortunately... sooner or later... at some point in time.. there is a very high probability the truth will come out.
Classic example : Both friends have an argument, are really pissed off at each other and your friend will say.. "Oh.. yeah ??! Well I f*cked your girlfriend!!!" Cause he knows that will hurt him. At that exact moment.. you will loose your boyfriend or husband.
Make sure on your end you will tell NOBODY (and I mean no-frickin-body) this secret, no matter how much you trust him or her . If your serious about your relationship with your boyfriend, pray to god the other friend moves away and looses contact with your boyfriend forever.
2007-03-20 14:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by lambcrawler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had this happen to me me and my boyfriend were together for a year and i slept with his best friend when we were on a "break" and some how it came out with out me or the best friend telling about it...so either the best friend told or someone else knew and did.....but anyways i would sit down with him talk to over and go from there the longer u don't say anything the worse it is going to get trust me...
2007-03-20 13:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by ashley G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..that's really messed up. FIrst of all if you were on a break and you needed to get some..Why would you go to his best friend? THat's a really low blow, and on top of that the best friend used you, because obviously he didn't want anything more from you, just sex. I would tell the boyfriend, because he will find out anyway, and if he ends it with you, you should understand, good luck
2007-03-20 13:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Future Mrs. Hamlet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B9 is right, the truth will always come out one way or another and you don't want your boyfriend to hear it from somone else who may not tell the emotions behind it. You need to take him to happy hour, fix a nice meal afterward, work up the most tears you have ever done; I'm talking red, puffy eyes and drippy nose tears! and let him know. He may forgive you.
2007-03-20 13:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. What if, one day the best friend decided to tell the guy "guess what, i slept with your girl". Wouldn't it be better if you were honest with your man and it came from you instead of the friend? If the friend tells him your guy will know that you were trying to keep something from him. Good luck.
2007-03-20 13:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because you would do it only to ease your own guilty conscience. You would do nothing but hurt your b/f and could lose him. You were on a break so you could be with anyone you wanted to be. It was pretty sleazy to be with his best friend, but as long as you're both willing to put it in the past, leave it there.
2007-03-20 13:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... that is a hard one. if you two were on a break then you can do whatever you want... however you chose to sleep with his BEST friend. that is not very respectful.
if you plan on marrying this guy then you should tell him... if not, then stop dating him and just be friends with both of them. eitherway the truth will come out eventually.
2007-03-20 13:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel that ur bf will understand den yeh, if he wnt leave u in easier wrds....u guys did take a break so its not like u cheated but sometimes guys do say sleepin w/ their best friend is cheatin so it depends on the type of person that ur bf is
2007-03-20 14:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by 123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋