What should I do with a stalker?

Question

A man have been stalking me around lately...what can I do about him? Should I inform the police? However, I've been told by my friends that there's nothing the police can do unless he has done something to me. What should I do? I live in Singapore by the way.

I just found out that I've been blocked by my stalker at wikipedia even though I did nothing!

Answer 1

My friend had such a case before, it was her ex-boyfriend who keep stalking her even at her workplace and even at her home such that she was so petrified, she had to run away via the fire escape route at her workplace and had to walk through another block of flats to reach her flat (they are inter-linked) cause the guy was waiting for her underneath her flat! :X

I would advise you NOT to bring a knife with you cause theres a law in Singapore that do not allow people to put knife in their bag or carry the knife around (to prevent gang fights where they use parangs and stuff) however you can bring an umbrella with you and whack him in self-defence if he attacks you though I don't think it will happen, as you can just scream and the entire neighbourhood or passenger-bys will rush over and help you in no time.

I think you should confront him and ask him what hes up to BUT you should only confront him when you have a male escort with you and theres alot of people around you guys so that he won't dare do anything to you and under such duress, he will succumb to pressure and confess why he has been stalking you!

If there is like no one around you guys (a male escort with you is a MUST), best is to confront him somewhere where a police station is like one step away!

When you confront him, do not giggle like HEEhee or whatsoever and do not have a friendly tone. Be extremely firm and demanding in your tone, ask him "Im extremely sure that you have been following me for these past few days. What do you want?" DO NOT be afraid as he is the one who should be afraid not you (furthermore if you show him that you are afraid (in your tones or actions), he will take advantage of the situation (by harming you) and you will be at the losing end)

Listen to his explainations, if his intentions are bad, warn him not to harass you again or else you will go to the police. If he still follows you even after you have warned him, get your father or elder brother to talk to him and warn him. When all else fails, go to the police and see what they can do.

For these 2 months, even after you have confronted him, get some classmate to escort you home everyday (to the lift at your home, at least) to gurantee your safety as for all you may know, this guy maybe a lunatic! :X Although Singapore is extremely safe even to walk around at night, it is still best to protect yourself right? Hope this helps and wish you will see stalker-free days ahead! :)

Answer 2

I do not know what the laws and regulations are in Singapore, as I reside in the USA; but I am sure that there are laws to protect you against things like this.

You should contact your local police department, and tell them what is going on. I don't know if they can stop the man from following you around or not; but at least you will feel a bit more confident that you are not alone in worrying about this.

If you have any male friends or family members that you could involve in this, it could not hurt. Some stalkers will only follow women when they are alone, this is part of their method of intimidation. You may be able to break his apparent fascination with you, just by having another male with you.

If he does not leave you alone, you can keep track of all the incidences, and just keep reporting him to the police. I do not know if mace or pepper spray is legal in Singapore, but if it is carry some and learn how to use it.

You can also check with the police department and see if they offer any self-defence courses for women and take one. Then if this stalker attempts to get too "up close and personal," you will be able to defend yourself and get safely away. I would not be giving him a chance to do anything to me.

Best of luck and I hope you can get rid of this stalker, we have enough stress in our lives without having to put up with this kind of nonsense.

Answer 3

Call your local police and find out if Singapore has a stalking type law. Here in Canada, we have a charge called criminal harassment. It is against the law to follow/watch someone or communicate with them against their will. The victim must reasonably fear for their safety because of the harassment. This law is relatively new here (about 12-15years). Before this law victims did have to wait for "something" to happen.
Let's hope that Singapore is an enlightened place and they have their own version of criminal harassment.

Let me know when you find out?

Answer 4

Don't go anywhere without an escort. Always carry with you a sharp object or anything that can be used to defend yourself like pepper spray. For all you know he is a police man. They won't help you until you've been raped, kidnapped or murdered. Get someone to kick his *** knowing me I'll do it.

Answer 5

Report every instance of stalking he is doing because that will build up a record of known to hang around you to an unhealthy extent.
If he rapes you this will allow them to target him as a possible suspect in any investigation that takes place.

Answer 6

Call the police! Tell them!

Answer 7

Go directly to police, buy something to portect yourself, pepper spray, etc... If you have brother, father, husband, co-workers, any males, point the guy out to them, they may scare him away...

Answer 8

Ask him to stop. then file harassment charges against him, if that doesn't help get some pepper spray and tell him if he comes around again you'll spray him.

Answer 9

I remember when they used to be called "secret admirers".

First, tell him to leave you alone, and if he does not call the police and tell them he is harassing you.

Answer 10

Say hello.