Okay so, my boyfriend of about one year is going to be moving away out of state and i am completely recked by this. i love my boyfriend soo much and he is leaving. Eventually, i am going to have to move on, and latly i have beedn having dreams and stuff about my boyfriend moving away and me dating his best friend justin. justin and i are very good friends too. justin, austin (my bf), and i are a triangle of best friends we hangout all of the time and we all go places together. ever since i have been having these dreams my feelings are going up and down. my boyfriend and i are going to have to break up because of his move, he is moving ion june and we are going to stay together until then for sure, but after he moves we both decided that we should move on. i'm not sitting here trying to say that i have the next guy palnned out, but latly i have just been thinking that me and justin are going to end up together when my boyfriend moves away. Is that just morally wrong?
2007-03-20 06:25:05 · 7 answers · asked by shannon b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's not wrong if you and justin really like each other. but it sounds like you're looking for backup security. don't be afraid to be alone for awhile and get over your bf. don't rush into anything with anyone, especially his best friend. continue being friends with him and if something happens, it happens. but don't think about it now and make the best of the time you have left with your current boyfriend.
2007-03-20 06:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by alice_aires 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have both already decided to break up when he leaves in june, then why are you two hanging out and just making the breakup harder? the longer you stay together the more it wil hurt when you end it.
the feelings for justin are normal. you are probably just trying to replace the void you feel by loosing austin.. and justin (being your best friend and all) sounds like a good candidate to replace that.
don't go for justin now... but after austin leaves, if things progress, then austin should be happy for the two of you because his 2 best friends are happy together.
2007-03-20 13:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course that's not morally wrong - it's quite natural actually. You have a comfort level with Justin that is simply there. One thing I would like to caution you about though - make sure that Justin feels the same way about you before you let your daydreaming take you too far.
2007-03-20 13:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not morally wrong. You are turning to the next closest person to you for comfort because you feel like your boyfriend is abandoning you. You haven't cheated on him with Justin. You are just having thoughts and dreams. It's natural to feel abandoned in situations like this, and to turn to someone else you care about for comfort. It may happen, or it may not, but just thinking about it doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you a real person.
2007-03-20 13:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Catherine T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's naturally natural! Who cares?? Justin and Austin aren't gonna be best friends after he moves. Justin is the closest thing to your BF, nothing wrong in hanging out w/him, or whatever, until you're over Austin.
2007-03-20 13:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, who am I to judge? After your boyfriend moves...try to give yourself a little time to heal..You never know how you'll feel. You might want to be by yourself for a little while. You don't HAVE TO run into someone else's arms immeadiately you know...Besides he might not even be the one..The attraction could be merely physical.
2007-03-20 13:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by hunnybee032001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep i think so ..just ASK him
2007-03-20 13:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by the_road_i_am_on 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋