What would you do if love isn't the option?

Question

I truthfully know that it is wrong to destroy people's relationships.And I will not destroy his relationship.But if love isn't the option,what do i do to forget him eventhough i tried since the past 4 years?When i want to forget abt him, I ended up praying for his happiness and wish that he gets all the happiness he deserves.I feel that he is unforgettable and he appears in my vision.When i close my eyes,i see him.I dream abt him.why does this happen to me?I know that i dont deserve to love a guy like him but it appears to me that i really cannot forget abt him and be like some normal person.I know this sounds crazy.But what do i do if i've love him so much that i will sacrifice this love and keep it to myself till eternity.he's the only guy that have stolen my heart.and i do not knw how it happened.

Answer 1

Boring............get over him he doesnt want you...you are obsessed..get a life.

Answer 2

Sounds very noble - like a faithful dog waiting for the master to return. You're not a dog but your devotion is dog-like. If you don't want to destroy his relationship, then don't. If you want to get over him, then you have to stop being the faithful dog and become the playful cat, living in the moment and enjoying your independence. You have to actively seek other people to love as much: don't go through each social encounter measuring every guy against him. How can anyone measure up when you worship the master? Instead, try to see how a guy can be an interesting person for you to get to know. Try to get to know someone, first as a friend, maybe and then there is at least the possiblity that 1) you will be distracted by interacting personally with someone and 2) it could develop into a caring relationship and you could be head over heels again.

Answer 3

WHAT? Look this is past unhealthy. Obviously he has moved on. You need to do the same because if you don't you are going to end up in a straight jacket. No one likes the psychotic ex-lover. Now, I don't necessarily think you are psychotic. God says you should love everyone, but you don't have to like them. God also says that you are a good person for praying for someone else's happiness. Hopefully you pray for your own. You need some, and could possibly use something else. Nothin like a little somethin' somethin' to take the edge off and forget about things you don't need to think about anymore. You will find love again, but not where you are looking right now. Confucious say, "Look elsewhere."

Answer 4

dont always rely on the heart.if you do, you will be in the position you are currently on.when you love somebody, dont give it all.save some love for yourself.when things get ugly, the pain will not be that bad and you will have a faster turn around time.treat your relationship with the guy as a lesson so that the next time you enter another chaotic relationship, you will know what to do.and also give yourself some alone time so that you can evaluate the pros and cons of the relationship

Answer 5

I am in the same position that you are in. I like this guy and I also Iove him.He says that he is in a relationship with someone else. All of my friends say that he will realize the you are the one for him and the two of you are meant to be together. I think of him every day and I dream about him and me being married every night. He is in my heart all the time. He is a very attractive, very handsome and very good-looking man.

Answer 6

You have to get up in the morning, go outside, let the sun hit your face, go out and meet the day and hope to make it better. Don't be a marter for someone that isn't there for you. Life is really short, and it's a waste to do otherwise. trust me, there is nothing romantic about it. It just becomes a sad waste of your life. Everyone else will go on with their lives, find love have families. While yours is trapped being the sacrificial marter, unable to move forward in life. There is someone out there for you, but only if you're open to it. You are at this time mourning for love that isn't yours. While in mourning, the love of your life could come at you strait on, and he would be waved on by, because your not looking. But he won't, because your in mourning. Love hurts, but it's worth finding, and a joy to keep. It will pick you up, thrill you, drop you on your head, and run you down like a truck. But you have to get up and buy another ticket. It's a heck of a ride, but you have to get on, don't watch from the fence. Don't wake up old, wishing you got on the ride. Now it hurts real bad, I know, but it won't mend waiting. I really hope this helps.

Answer 7

Listen sweetheart, if there is one truth it is that there is more than one person out there for everybody. That is a painful truth and one that I am trying to accept as I am going through this breakup of mine. I've been in love before, I've been married before. Those people have moved on with their lives and although I was crushed when I couldn't be with them I had to learn how to move on too. I prayed for them to be happy too but I wanted so bad for that happiness to include me in it. I moved on before, and I know that I will move on again. It is never easy no matter how long you have been in love. The other posts are right that love has to be two sided for it to be a healthy kind of love. You will never forget this guy but you shouldn't dwell on him either.
Hang in there kiddo

Answer 8

Look mate I know how you feel, Ive felt like this b4 as youve probably read in my other answer I gave you. Its ok to pray for someone elses happiness , but hun how about praying for your own happiness now ayez. If you 2 we're meant to be together it will eventually get there. So 4 now pray for your own happiness mate cause yknw he'll always be there while you do alittle happiness searching 4 yourslf. Give that a go and see where that takes trust me, you'll be surprised with the outcome.

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Answer 9

You don't want to intrude on his happiness. Congratulations, you're a good person. If he is the prince that you think he is, he'll want you to be happy too. (If he isn't a "prince", he's not worth it anyway.) Find someone else to share your time with who makes you happy. We all have that one person in our past who we wonder how things might have turned out if things had happened a little differently. (For me, her name is Shannon.) In time you may come to believe that there are a number of people you can be happy with.

Answer 10

I know you're not going to like me for this but...... Are you even old enough to know what true love is? Are you so willing to sacrifice everything? You don't know what is out there for you.. I my self felt the same way you do now..Unfortunately I went all the way to Alaska to get married. I spent every dime I had to get there. 3 days after I arrived she said she didn't want to see me no more..Needless to say I was crushed..At the time I thought I knew what love was... I was 21..Boy did I learn...I did not know squat...Even to this day I still get confused..I still struggle to learn what true love is.. I may never know.. But I'm not going to give up..And neither should you... There is someone out there for you...Just be patient..

Answer 11

Simply put: Get A LIFE, he definitely has one hell according to you he has at least two -- but who knows their may be more. Move on -- it has passed get out and get on going on your way. It was fun, now it is all played out. Find someone who has time for you and only you.

If you continue to down grade yourself -- you will be stuck with that trash for a long time. And he will continue to use and abuse you emotionally as long as he can. BOY, he he getting his cake and eating it Too. Girl -- go get your own CAKE. and I mean now.

Time for some new dreams of you and someone new, Hell -- I am available -- come talk to me -- just get away from him.

Good luck>