Okay so, my boyfriend of about one year is going to be moving away out of state and i am completely recked by this. i love my boyfriend soo much and he is leaving. Eventually, i am going to have to move on, and latly i have beedn having dreams and stuff about my boyfriend moving away and me dating his best friend justin. justin and i are very good friends too. justin, austin (my bf), and i are a triangle of best friends we hangout all of the time and we all go places together. ever since i have been having these dreams my feelings are going up and down. my boyfriend and i are going to have to break up because of his move, he is moving ion june and we are going to stay together until then for sure, but after he moves we both decided that we should move on. i'm not sitting here trying to say that i have the next guy palnned out, but latly i have just been thinking that me and justin are going to end up together when my boyfriend moves away. Is that just morally wrong?
2007-03-20 06:19:05 · 8 answers · asked by shannon b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well how old are you that will help us decide what to say if you are still in high school or Jr high then i think it is normal to have feelings for you friends
all my good relationships started as friends and then just blossomed into something more
BUT there are some things you need to make sure of before you go through with this k
* first do you think dating justin would hurt austin
*will it hurt there relationship
* are you ready to move on (it is always good to take about a month after a break up and be alone becuase you want this to work with justin right? so then you need to make sure that he is not just a rebound guy and the only way to do that is to stay single until you are ok with being alone)
* now this is a BIG one does justin like you back cus when your boyfriend leaves it will be a hard time for you (it is for anyone losing a loved one) and you dont want to push justin to like you as a girlfriend and lose him as your bestfriend he will be there for you always as a friend but there is a chance that he just wants to be friends so be careful hun
oh and dont worry about the dreams its OK to have them i am dating the greatest guy in the world and sometI'mes i still dream about my EX, but most the time in the dreams im kicking my ex in the butt lol but its normal so dont worry a bit
2007-03-20 06:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily immoral, but it's a bad idea if you want to stay friends with your boyfriend, and you won't really be moving on, because you're just replacing your boyfriend with the next best thing. You and Justin will just talk about all the great times you had with Austin, and then you'll grow resentful Justin doesn't act like Austin did. Whenever Austin comes back to visit, he'll be the odd man out and feel forgotten.
This is something that only works in movies.
2007-03-20 13:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by halie_blue 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hi,
c what r u telling that is not rite, if u love ur bf somuch and if he is going out of state then let him go, coz may b due some reason he is going, u shud sit and talk wit him and have to knw from him that is he going to get married to u after a time or what!!! and if he said that yes than u shud have a faith on him and if he say no, than what ur doing is absolutely rite,,, but c after allu r a girl,,,, a boy a do a lot of things and their name doesnt spoil and if a girl even try to do sumthing they can easily spoil their name,,,,,
so whatever u do just close ur eyes and think overit again,, i knw wht u r really trying to say,,,,, c a friend is after all a friend but a bf is future husband,,,,, and afterall u knw that marriages are made is heavan!!!
all the best from me!!!!
2007-03-20 18:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was old days when people thought that "A bird in hand is worth two in bushes"
dear girl..now the days have changed now it's " a bush in hand is worth many bushes"
Keep the one you have in hand and also keep a spare one who knows the Austin who is "Just In" my move out like Justin
2007-03-20 13:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by Memoirs_Chateau 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U seem to be very clear about everything. Not morally wrong. If u r good friends, u still can maintain ur relation with Justin. :-)
2007-03-20 13:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Smile- conquers the world 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg.. this happened to me without my boyfriend moving away... um.. in my situation it was wrong... but since you arent going with your boyfriend to move with him and you to obviously wont be together... and justin is staying... it should be ok... maybe you should even talk to austin about it and see how he feels... maybe he will be ok with it... The reason I would talk to him is cuz i wouldnt wanna ruin justin and austins friend relationship... good luck sweetie!!! ⥠Madison
2007-03-20 13:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey shanon
i dont think it wrong or somethin....... i guess it fine to move on and esp. that ur bf wants to do the same..so i guess its fine
listen to ur heart girl...
good luck
2007-03-20 13:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by ami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
2007-03-20 13:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋