ok, so i've been talking to this guy for awhile now, and he sort of told me he had a crush for me. but the thing is, we have NEVER talked in person before. we just know each other from myspace (how romantic...right :P). however, it isnt really dangerous because i have friends who know him. so its not some random 80 year old person from mexico or whatever.
my problem is... he wants me to come to his work tonight ( he works at a teen/under age club ) and then he said we could chill or whatever afterwards. and i want to get to know him...but ahhh! im too shy of a person to take and offer like this one.
AND i think he's a freshman in college, and im a freshman in highschool...yeah HUGE difference. so the question is, should i go or not? i need answers as soon as possible for this one. thank you so much!
2007-03-20 06:16:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, first of all, don't go unless you're totally sure people know this guy. Maybe some friends of yours say they know him but only know him from myspace. Just make sure they actually know him in person so he doesn't try to kidnap you. Myspace IS being sued for things like this.
Second, if he does seem like a nice guy, go for it! This teen club would probably be one of the best places to go, seeing as it is a public place and all. You'd be safe. And I'm also shy. There's this guy I met at work and I would never talk or anything around him but he did tell me he liked me and we started hanging out and I was still shy but things just started getting easier. Just, if the guy asks you whats wrong with you, just tell him you're a little nervous! He'll understand. I'm sure he's probably not Mr. Confident, unless he's a cocky b@stard.
Thirdly, wow. That's a pretty big age difference. Actually, pretty illegal. But i'd go see him tonight anyway. Maybe he isn't like most guys and is a respectable gentleman and wouldn't try anything on you. As previously used in an example, the guy i've been hanging out with ( almost dating ) is 19 and I'm 17. My mom has freaked out about this even though it's not THAT big of an age difference but this guy is totally respectable and hasn't tried to pressure me into doing anything with him. He tells me he doesn't wanna make me uncomfortable. So, if this guy is anything like this, he's a keeper. Besides, Who knows, you guys could turn out to be the next Ashton and Demi :]
2007-03-20 06:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go! If you are already ify about this guy and the age difference then don't go. And you two are at very different places in your lives so a relationship would not be the greatest idea. You should ask yourself why he can't get a girl his own age? Please don't go, you have no idea what could happen. Myspace and Facebook are great, I know I use them too, but don't risk meeting someone you don't know really. He could easily be acting like a nice guy and who knows what he'll be like in person. If you are a freshman in high school then I know there are tons of guys at school that you can meet .
2007-03-20 13:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by kMaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure about his age or school grade, you don't know him enough to meet him. And he sort of told you he had a crush on you. By his age he should know better than just "sort of". I really don't have a good feeling about this. If you want to see what he's really thinking, tell him you want to bring your mom or another family member- No, it is not pathetic, and if he doesn't respect and understand that, he will just take advantage of you. I am wondering if you have told you family about him. If no, why not? If you are uncomfortable, and think that it would be a bad idea to tell anyone what you are thinking- Then it would be a bad idea to meet him.
2007-03-20 13:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he want to meet you, pick a place to meet that is safe and there are a lot of other people around. Don't meet him at his work, pick another place that is not going to be empty and late. Also, make sure someone knows where you are going and when you will be home. I would take a rain check and meet earlier some other night at Starbucks or a restaurant or something like that. Be safe
2007-03-20 13:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by K L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to go and see him, which it sounds like you do, then get a couple of friends to go with you. Don't go alone. Then with friends there, you know that you won't be taken advantge of and you don't have to worry about being too shy because it won't just be you and him. But be careful, because as you said, that is a big age difference.
2007-03-20 13:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by kris08baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to go. I'm sorry. But freshman in college have one thing on their mind, and it's not studying. Maybe he's a nice guy, but you shouldn't meet him alone. You should meet him with a group of friends. It's just safer.
2007-03-20 13:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, i wouldnt. for starters, if he is that interested in you he can put forth a little more effort than going to the club HE works at. this takes no effort at all on his part. make him work for you. secondly, he is legally not even allowed to think about dating you due to the age difference. thirdly, if he is in college, he will more than likely use you until someone older comes along. you will save face with your own peers/classmates, if you turn this guy down. it will say you are better than him (thus, making the guys you go to school with intrigued by you) and it will save you from embarassement in the long run.
2007-03-20 13:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by in2one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE LISTEN! I know you're probably mature for your age and when I was your age I dated way older but I didn't realize what was wrong with it until I became older. There is something very wrong with him being ok with him dating you. Here's a test see if he will bring you around his parents or his college friends., he won't because he's know what he's doing. Don't go he's only going to attempt to take advantage of you.!
2007-03-20 13:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having this much concern about meeting him they you probably shouldn't do it. why is a freshman in college trying to date a freshman in highschool? seriously think about this... why can't he get girls his own age?
if you really want to go... then date a bunch of friends with you. you may see this guy and think hes a big creep. at least you can still have fun with your friends and definately do not leave them to go off with this guy. arrive with your friends and leave with them.
2007-03-20 13:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont waste your time. Go and find someone you dont doubt about.
I had once the same experience with a girl who was even younger than me but she turned so different than what she was pretending to be and i almost wanted to leave her in the middle of our first conversation.
Besided, it doesnt sound a safe plan for you to be invited to his workplace at night for the first meeting. it sounds weird.
Good luck
2007-03-20 13:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by fredy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋