There is this guy that I have had a crush on for about a month now. We work together, in an indescribably laid back environment. We flirt a lot and I'd say it is pretty clear there is some chemistry. At one point I think he ALMOST asked me out [see my questions] but I was too scared to actually ask him. Anyway, I have STRONGLY hinted to his half proposition, basically giving him an opening to ask me. I know that he unerstands, but says that he works too much and doesn't have a life, and that his work is his life. He REALLY does work a lot. He is in the coast guard and works with me at this place. He works almost 40h/wk with me and I don't even know how much in the guard. So, it is clear that he does not have time for me. It is killing me though, because he still flirts. I am extremely fond of him, and I am unsure if I could completely walk away. Should I just give him space? Let things take it's course and maybe he'll come around? Or should I give up, or keep activly trying? Opinions?
2007-03-20 06:10:38 · 5 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand and respect his lifestyle. I actually would not mind if he didn't have all the time in the world to spend on me. If it were ever to get to the point of a relationship, I can respect his lack of time, as long as I got SOME of it. I do not mind waiting, being flexible. I also do not want to make him uncomforatble or add any stress. He tells me that he doesn't have time, so I don't want to keep pushing him to spend time with me? I dont know!
2007-03-20 06:19:15 · update #1
let be fare
if he really like u, i mean really really like you, this will do anything to make time just to see you or hear you voice.
it 's his problem, stay away a little, let it pressure u.
the way he is acting if you get too close, he will be turn off, i am saying this because you say u like him, it u want something out of this let him chase u.
2007-03-20 06:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no point getting all wrapped up in a guy that has no time for you. if he has no time for you now and you notice it... it will really affect things if you pursued a relationship with him.
don't get yourself into a relationship when you are already unhappy about an aspect of his life.
flirt with him for fun but don't take it to the next level until his schedule make room for you.
2007-03-20 06:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Bex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with bex. if u notice something that u dont like nothing is gonna make it change once a relationship forms. think about it, let him know how u feel about him and if he's interested in u then ask him if he will have time for u.
2007-03-20 06:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ma Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Tell him it is time to either be the man you think he can be or move on.
2007-03-20 06:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel.
2007-03-20 06:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋