O.K My girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She gave pretty feeble excuses, and we had been dating for a year. I had no contact whatsoever with her, until she asked the other day if i would mind going for a drink with her as friends. I went along...we just argued...and she spent the whole time telling me about a guy friend she met up wiv 4 1st time in 3yr...i stupidly admitted i loved her, and said that this whole friends thing wasnt working, and i walked out of the room. Since, I get texts saying how hurtful she was,sorry,& could we be friends.i ignored her.she then asks my friends have they seen me today cos she's worried about me!Anyway,yest i had enough,& textd her back saying that she hurt me 2much & to leave me alone,i said u've moved on,so should i.anyway,she replied saying she still has feelings 4me,& misses parts of our relationship,but doesnt want to date again.i've agreed to meet her 4drink 2moro, and have now backed out..she said she was naive 2 think friends would work
2007-03-20 05:59:00 · 15 answers · asked by Rejhaven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys are trying this friends thing a little too soon. I read in "It's called a break-up because it's broken" that you need at least 60 days free of that person if possible. It's like a cleansing period, let yourself begin to recover(both of you) and after that break period then try going out for drinks...maybe with a couple of mutual friends so you guys won't feel as free to argue. Just give it time, thats the only thing that can heal you.
2007-03-20 06:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by kMaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was her, I would contact you again but only to talk and see if we could be friends, but I far as I can tell, You still are getting over the split as it's only been two weeks and maybe she is to as well just wants to make you jealous about the other guy, My advice would be to give her some time let her get things straight on her part and while she is doing that you should think about you and just be ready next time she wants to try the friends thing again, Dont put any pressure on you guys being friends or it's not going to be good, Go with what/how you feel, Good luck to you and her seperate or together....
2007-03-20 06:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy to *Jordan Ibrahim* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was naive to think that. Like you said, she was able to move on and you should be able to as well. The fact that she was able to do it and still remain friends doesn't mean that you can. She should respect the fact that you are hurt and that you can't be around her without it getting worse. Really it's not about her. You sound like you are in a position where you need to just avoid unneccessary contact with her. It's only going to make you feel worse. You aren't ready to be in contact with her and you may not be for a while. Trying to be friends with her to make her feel good isn't worth putting yourself through that. It's not like you are insulting her. It's just that you are doing what's best for you. You didn't do anything wrong. You should call her and let her know that you aren't going to meet her though.
2007-03-20 06:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, dating someone for a year and then having a one-sided breakup is HARD. she should understand that you're hurting and should let you be upset. being friends with someone like that is not easy; there are still so many feelings there of love AND disappointment. she obviously still cares about you, otherwise she wouldn't call your friends or even try to contact you. BUT she needs to give you time and space to try and get over her. yeah you can be friends, but that isn't an overnight thing. you're right in hurting and you're right to get upset that she's talking about another guy so soon after She breaks up with You. You both need to give each other some space. it won't be easy, but if that's what needs to be done, then that's what you need to do. back off for awhile and collect your thoughts and feelings and try to get on with YOUR life and what's best for you.
2007-03-20 06:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by alice_aires 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said she misses parts of the relationship. but is it you who she really misses. well yeah you should think that question through. it sounds like its more on her though if you let her decide your fate and not so much on yourself. i mean since she says that shes somewhat starting over with someone else whats holding you back, i think she might be the reason.it seems that she might not want you to find someone but she wants you to keep thinking about her.if she said that she has moved on already and how she has found another guy then i think you should probably try to do the same. it seems like you probably don't want to be with her but when she says these things to you you start to think that maybe.... there might be a chance. yeah you did do the right thing. and maybe after i thought things through a bit then yea i would consider talking to you again.but as of her way of thinking i don't know if she would, personally. well good luck on deciding what to do.
2007-03-20 06:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by tina2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least she told you to your face about this other man. If you can't handle being friends with her, then you had better just let her go and tell her. She saw a good friend in you and thats it. One day when she settles in more she will wish she never left you. You can stay friends with her and wait till shes through having her fun or move on now.
2007-03-20 06:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 04:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by lipton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both sending mixed signals. If you're too hurt to be friends with her, then tell her so. Don't let her play games with you. Leave her alone and get someone less stressful.
2007-03-20 06:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Nathan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing, and that you should continue on with your life. Seeing her react like this must not make you feel good, and I think seeing to people will bright up your life.
Good luck,
Kristine
2007-03-20 06:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think when your girlfriend was talking about that guy she met.. it's not because she likes him, maybe she talked about it to make you jealous... to see your reaction. in that way, she could tell if you still have feelings for her without swallowing her pride of asking you if you still love her. i think your girlfriend, still loves you.. why not tell her how you really feel? maybe you might not work as friends, but instead.. LOVERS! ^_^ goodluck!
2007-03-20 06:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Caj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋