My story starts on march 1st 2007 it is a very hard reailty that
parents face on an everyday basis and i would like some help and know how on how to change a law. you see on march 1st i walked in my kids room and caught my 13 yearold doing something with my 4 yearold . i was in shock ,but instead of beating the heck out of my 13 yearold i called the cops and he was arrested for lued and lavious molestion on a minor child.
This has really rocked our world right now . and i have been looking for help and open to suggestions in all forms but it is impossible becaause hillsbough county don't carry the law we need to proctect our victims when they are in the same home. I am being forced to take my 13 yearold on march 21st and put him back in my home with the victim. if i do not comply with the state i willl get arrested. and i have been threatned so.All i want to do is protect my baby from futher harm and abuse from my 13 yearold. How is she suppose to do this?
Please don't answer silly
2007-03-20 05:46:37 · 16 answers · asked by Lovable 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
OK most of you are taking this wrong...she has called for Counceling, FBI, Residental Programs and No one will accept him, they say he has to affend 2 more times to be placed in some kind of treatment and this is 2 brothers not a boy and girl. she has called the governers office trying to get help and there is nothing she can do other than let him come home! another thing she really doesn't have alot of money for a lawyer and as far as their bedrooms go they are seperate they were in the play room. they don't sleep together we have created a group JuvenileHelp@yahoogroups.com if anyone would like to take a look there!
the state of florida is not providing a facility for young sex offenders nor help and we are tryign to pass a law to HELP these children!
2007-03-20 06:09:47 · update #1
Is there a place that you can send him (?) to?? Like a camp or home for children who have been sex offenders? This is where I would look first. Maybe you can sign him over to a place like that for a while and he'll get the help he needs.
I just want to tell you, when I read this it broke my heart. I have 2 little girls (3 & 4) and I don't know what I would do if this happened to me. Your family will be in my thoughts.
2007-03-20 05:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear what happened to your 4 year old!!! I have never heard that you have to take your 13 year old back. I would look into rehab places or something like that. I would also talk to an lawyer and try and fight it. I don't plame you for not wanting the 13 year old back in your house and that you want to protect you 4 years old. All I can say is that I have 2 little girls and I don't know how I would act if I found out that someone molested them. I so sorry you and your wife have to go though this. Just ry and find out if you can put the13 year old in some kinda placement. I hope this helps and I will keep you in my prays!!!!!!!
2007-03-20 06:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a really hard subject, but yes, I think you should let him back in your home, becuase he is still your child. And remember, he is only a child. If he is doing that stuff, clearly he has problems and NEEDS HELP! But he does not need to be abandoned or shunned by his parents.
Make sure you never, ever leave him alone with the other child. Make sure they have separate rooms, and maybe have the younger child sleep in your room, so you can make sure he is safe. Talk to your kid. Find out why he did that. What was he thinking? And get therapy for him!! I would insist that the courts provide your son with counseling.
Good luck.
2007-03-20 06:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Gummybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can understand you wanting to protect your baby.. but shouldn't you be wanting to help the 13 yr old more. They are obviously needing some type of resource counseling with this issue and where have they learned it? Did someone touch them at a young age you are not aware of it. I know you are angry and I would be too.. but also at the same time you need to reach out and help this older child or it will lead to more abuse later in life. I suggest you all go to a counselor and get to the bottom of this.. and see why it even happened to begin with. I pray that you can go to the means it takes to help both children and yourself.
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2016-09-05 09:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok the way it seems is ur completely not caring about ur 13 year old, he might of done something bad but hes 13...i can understand because my cousin molested mef or a year when i was 3-4...she was about 12-13 also...i am female so was she...she got it from her parents...but it seems ur 13 year old didnt get it from u or his fater, so it was only curiousity...i think u should talk to him instead of letting cops takecare of it. he needs help more than the victim. if my cousin could gethelp a lot of people would of been alrigth..she has 2 kids now..and it tears me and my mom apart knowing she molests them..just like almost every cousin in this family. she is the type a parent should call police on..ur little boy doesntsound like that. he needs counseling. thast a definite. its wrong but hes still young. knowing personally...ur 4 year old might forget about it..maybe not completely but dont stress the situation with her. keep an eye on her. ur 13 year old might of learned his lesson, depending on his circumstances is how u should treat the situation at this point, talk to him.
2007-03-20 05:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should hire a lawyer and figure out a way to keep your 13 year old out of the home...If you no longer wish to have the child around your home put the child in a foster home. There are things you can have done if you speak to an attorney about it...good luck
2007-03-20 05:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Tabatha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont see how they can put your 13 y/o back in your home!! I never heard of anything like that. you need to send him somewhere where he/she can get some help. I would not let the child back in your home. most likely the child will do it again. or maybe you need a lawyer.
2007-03-20 05:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by kristinad21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people are forgetting they are both your children. Just do not leave them alone. Put your 13 year old in counseling. Also, try not to bring it up around your 4 year old. Hopefully she will forget.
2007-03-20 05:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never leave them alone again.
Get your older child into counseling.
Find out if there is some kind of residental program that he could be enrolled in to help him.
2007-03-20 05:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋