self image?

Question

im 17 and i have very low self esteem and no social life and friends in the world will this go away im a very shy person and need advice personally i think it's from my mother who has a drug problem but im very blessed to have my grandma who supports and family but i need some friends i can talk not my parents i need advice not stupid answer either?

i do have friends no that i dont hang out with like go to the mall and stuff girl thing i have only one friend and he is a boy

i do have friends no that i dont hang out with like go to the mall and stuff girl thing i have only one friend and he is a boy

Answer 1

Being shy is really hard. The best advice I can give:
1Practice talking in the mirror - you feel goofy, but it helps!
2Keep up with current events, you will never feel like you do not have an opinion or something to say.
3Find a job that suits you. There is something about work and a job well-done that is satisfying to a human soul. If you are shy, try working @ a library.
4Volunteer - become a hero in someones eyes by making their life better. Visit nursing homes, work at an afternoon program with kids, help animals in the animal shelter etc.
5Focus on becoming an interesting person. Develop some hobbies that are unique or at least really interesting to you.
6 I 100% guarantee there is a person close to your age at school who thinks that they should commit suicide because no one is their friend. Find that person! They need you, only you can understand and fill in the gap! Start a "club" of lonely people ~ soon you won't be loners, you'll be a strong group!
7 The best way to have friends is to be a friend.
8. If no one is headed in the same direction as you are, then LEAD. (I know it sounds scary, but if I can do it so can you!!)
9. Never follow a crowd just to fit in. Never don't follow the crowd just to stand out.
10. Find God. He knows where you are - do you know where he is? Good Luck on becoming a leader of your community. Show the world what you have got!!!

Answer 2

Hello,
If you want to improve your self-esteem, here are some steps to start empowering yourself:
Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself. If you're used to focusing on your shortcomings, start thinking about positive aspects of yourself that outweigh them. When you catch yourself being too critical, counter it by saying something positive about yourself. Each day, write down three things about yourself that make you happy.
Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection. Some people become paralyzed by perfection. Instead of holding yourself back with thoughts like, "I won't audition for the play until I lose 10 pounds," think about what you're good at and what you enjoy, and go for it.
View mistakes as learning opportunities. Accept that you will make mistakes because everyone does. Mistakes are part of learning. Remind yourself that a person's talents are constantly developing, and everyone excels at different things — it's what makes people interesting.
Try new things. Experiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents. Then take pride in new skills you develop.
Recognize what you can change and what you can't. If you realize that you're unhappy with something about yourself that you can change, then start today. If it's something you can't change (like your height), then start to work toward loving yourself the way you are.
Set goals. Think about what you'd like to accomplish, then make a plan for how to do it. Stick with your plan and keep track of your progress.
Take pride in your opinions and ideas. Don't be afraid to voice them.
Make a contribution. Tutor a classmate who's having trouble, help clean up your neighborhood, participate in a walk-a-thon for a good cause, or volunteer your time in some other way. Feeling like you're making a difference and that your help is valued can do wonders to improve self-esteem.
Exercise! You'll relieve stress, and be healthier and happier.
Have fun. Ever found yourself thinking stuff like "I'd have more friends if I were thinner"? Enjoy spending time with the people you care about and doing the things you love. Relax and have a good time — and avoid putting your life on hold.
I hope that help you.

Answer 3

Hey! I am so sorry that you feel alone, but i am sure you have at least one friend? Your grandmother seems like a pretty good one she takes care of your family, i think you are so brave to have grown up in a family like you have! The courage it takes for you to wake up every morning is wonderful! I am so sorry that you got dealt crappy cards in this game, but i think you should befriend someone at your school or a nice kid in your neighboorhood if the friends arent coming to you, come to the friends. I really wish you good luck and i think you are an Amazing person keep striving to be an awesome example to everyone around you!

Answer 4

well this is how i see it. You are your own person and it dont matter what your family does or who they are. you are you and nobody else can be you. if you ever need a friend you can always talk to your counslor at school or even god, hey you can write me on here if you need to. just be you and nobody else.