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Question

I have a young brother. He's in eight grade right now and I really dont think he's going in the right track. He lies about trivial things such as playing on the computer, TV, etc. etc. He's getting C's in his classes. But, he's such a genius as in he has so much potential in fields of science and math...but he just won't try, or listen. I tried talking to him but he doesnt care and always gets really angry. I feel like I am not doing my job as a sister. We used to get along so well but now we are drifting apart. My dad doesnt really pay attention to my brother and my mom tries so hard to create a positive environment and all that. I don't even think he will pass school or whatever. What should I do? Or Am i overreacting....im scared to death. I dont want him to fall into a wrong path and suffer his entire life.. any answers will be appreciated. thank you

Answer 1

The issue here is that YOUR DAD DOESN'T PAY ANY ATTENTION TO HIM. You're mother is compensating for that and this kid sees these things whether or not he registers it consciously and is affected by that. He's gained a lower level of self appreciation becuase of Dad and is stifled by Mom because she's so "positive". He retreats becuase of Mom and acts poorly consistantly to get attention from Dad. It's a tough situation here, but if you try to build a bond with your brother and show him that there are unhealthy things going on in the world but he can be a healthy person despite that. Encourage him and let him know you're there as a stable entity. Have fun with him and show him how to take responsibility.

Answer 2

this is a lot of responsibility that should not be on you. Your parents have to be told and it is down to them to help your brother, sure he may be upset with you for a while, but that will die down quicker than the amount of time this could go on for you as things are now. Your own school work may start to suffer if you keep worrying like this, if you dont want to talk to your parents how about a teacher at school, they will talk to your parents and your brother wont know it was you, he will think the school got in touch, you really need to get some help on this one, good luck to you

Answer 3

Picture this:

One generation down the line - ur children and ur bro's children. How close would they be? Would they know each other; all of them?

Two generations down the line - how close will your grandchildren and his be?

Three generations - ur great grands, how close will they be? Will they be doing dinner in each other's houses just because 'our great grandmother was a sister to our great grandfather?'

Look at it wide. You are bro & sis but two different nations couple of years ahead. I would say do not beat yourself over it, probably it's a growing up thing which will go away after leaving it's mark on him -that's how we all learn. Do not tell him what to do or not to do, tell him the consequences of the choices he makes or fails to make.

And,...pray about it (it will leave you at a lesser risk of having health issues with you body.)

Answer 4

Sounds like more book sense than common sense. He's just a typical boy going through that stage. Don't give up on him and let him know you care about his future behavior. Get him involved in some kind of sports. That usually works.

Answer 5

Well there's nothing much you can do. He has to realize it himself. On a good day, explain to him what are the consequences if he did fail in school and drop out.

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Answer 7

sounds like a normal teenager..