i was deeply in love wid dis guy and we decided to get married when my girlfriend told me dat i should break up wid him..she said that he was flirting wid her..so i decided to believe her..i knew her for more than 4 yrs and i totally trusted her..so i broke up wid him..although he denied it all..but i couldn't believe him.. it's been 2 months since then...he left the country coz he said dat he was disappointed wid wat had happened..he emailed me a couple of days ago..he said that he's still in love wid me and that he wants me back...i'm not over him yet..i still love him but i can't go pass the idea that he cheated on me with my best friend..although she could be lying..what should i do..im really confused..i'd be really grateful for your answers
2007-03-20 05:28:51 · 24 answers · asked by leema 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my advise to you would be to hear both sides of the story. personally i think what you did is wrong. you should not have listened to your best friend without getting his side of the story. I'm not saying that your friend is lying but I'm not saying that shes telling the truth either. i think you should talk to both of them together. only then can you make a decision on who's telling the truth or who's lying. don't make an emotional decision. make a decision with your mind and not your heart OK*
2007-03-21 07:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by loveless* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think that flirting is considered cheating. If a guy and a girl are talking and laughing, everyone automatically assumes that they are flirting and that they like each other. But I don't see it that way. I think that it is good that you trust your girl friends over your boyfriend, because that is the only safe bet. But I think you should give him a second chance. You two obviously had something special together if you have been separated for awhile and still have feelings for each other. Go for it, your friend will understand!
2007-03-20 12:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you decide for yourself what you think is good for you .If you though your friend was lying why did you break up with him. obviously you didn't trust him enough to marry him or maybe you wanted an excuse not to marry him at that time. if you didn't trust him then do you now ? if you don't trust him now and you take him back you may not be happy anyway. if you truly love him get over it and face the fact that it may happen again. can deal you with that? if not then save yourself some drama and move on. once again decide for yourself it's your life. good luck
2007-03-20 12:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is taken way too seriously in a casual relationship or even in a marriage. To cheat is to experience another person as a friend, a lover, and deal with casual sex. Each of these is a learning experience and will usually return the explorer back to where they started, but much more the wiser.
The more experienced your lover is the more fun the two or three or four of you can experience.
2007-03-20 12:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so either your boy friend is a cheater or your best friend is a liar.What are you thinking? I would find a new boyfriend and a new best friend. It seems like you have to much drama with the both of them around. I don't think you have forgiven him, so ask yourself "what good could possible come of this?''Your relationship could never never work without TRUST.
2007-03-20 12:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lionel F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to get down to the correct answer before you can decide whether to go back with him or not. In the end, it may just be an issue of trust. Who do you trust more? And who are you willing to lose?
2007-03-20 12:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by dousmile4jesus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give him another chance. But if you get more reports of cheating from him, then kick him to the curb. You also need to set some ground rules before you take him back. Maybe he doesn't consider flirting cheating, so you need to let him know that you do.
2007-03-20 12:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be a shamed of yourself. you sholud NOT have believed your friend have you ever thought that she might want him so she just made it up. when your in love with someone you dont cheat on them so what gave you reason to believe that he cheated. im surprised he wants you back you better make it up to him really good and stop being friends with the other girl. when your in a realtionship all you really need is each other no one else
2007-03-20 12:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Sheri M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend get jealous of u a lot? That's the only reason she would lie. If she is someone u trust..u were right to believe her. I personally wouldn't give him a second chance
2007-03-20 12:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by *VS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur girlfriend could be jealous and start the rumor so u can stay single like her forever. when it comes to love u have to listen to your heart don't let anybody or anyone stands in your way from being with the guy that u r in love with. if you think he is being sincere with you i think u should give him a second chance and try to separate ur best friend from ur love life.
2007-03-20 12:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋