It's not being apart from his mom but rather from me. I have cared for him since birth. But working a full 8 hours on weekdays, caring for him some evenings and on weekends and caring for my ailing mother has taken a toll on me mentally and physically. Recently,my daughter was able to get another daycare provider (she has two). The problem has been that she does not have a set work schedule (always works weekends). For example she works 1 day from 2:00 to 10:30 p.m. The first provider will care for him until 6:00 p.m. but then I pick him up and take him to the other day care provider and he just has a meltdown! He now wakes up with night terrors. It's been a big change for him and I sense he is feeling abandoned although I do watch him for 1 or 2 evenings week and reassure him but his understanding right now is limited to his age.... On top of that my daughter comes home exhausted and loses her temper with him. Any and all suggestions are welcome!
2007-03-20 05:22:27 · 3 answers · asked by na na 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
OMG ,its like my mom is asking this question..hehe
my mom took care of my son since birth and my son got
very attached to her. until he was 3 it was very hard that he would not through a tantrums everytime i took him away from her ... it was very hard to cut that but its possible after a while. there is really nothing for you to do. i use to loose my temper when these things happened also. but its just a stage he is going through and there is no way to avoid it. he will learn trust me. i know you are his grandma and it hurts you seeing him cry for you. but he will learn dont worry. this is thebest i could tell you.
2007-03-20 05:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by mom_princess77 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No surprise. My son is exactly like that as my mum helps look after him since birth. From my experience, you may have to put up with it till he is much older. You really don't want him to feel abandon. I am a hypnotherapist and I know how much our mind could remember "unpleasant" incidents and stays on and affect us later in life without us realising it at all. Yes, even to a 2 1/2 yrs old. If it is traumatic, it is simply no good to him. Try talking to him. Always re-assuring him that grand is not leaving him, that he is going to a daycare to learn new things, make new friends and of course to find out what new toys they have...
I wish you luck but please put the child's emotion first.
2007-03-20 06:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by BF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to try to find someone that can watch him for her whole shift. It is not fair to him to have to be suffled around like that. How about his dad? Are they together? If not, is he involved at all? Kids need stability in their lives, because this is exactly what happens. Have her place an ad on craigslist to try to find someone that can be his sole caregiver.
2007-03-20 05:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋