So we dated for 6 years. Along the way I cheated several times she knew about only 2. I made a comitment never to cheat again last year and I haven’t since. A few months she asked for a break. We fought about it but then I said fine. She came back a week later and said I want to get back together. Then she broke up with me a few times but we got back together the same night. Then in January we broke up for real she said she woulnd’t be seeing any other guys but I recently found out she has. We were still talking and having sex. She claims their was no relationship with the guy just a few casual dates. Now she wants me back for good, when I graduate college in a month, she claims. Should I trust her or will she break my heart even worse. She seems like she really wants me back but i don't want to be blinded by love.
2007-03-20 05:17:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never, never, never trust a women that gone behind your back.
2007-03-20 05:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Texan 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I can not believe that someone would have same exact situation is mine. i hope you are not my ex gf and asking this question just to see my point of view.
anyways mine was only 2 years and i made that mistake of trusting her. she wanted me for good and i graduated while she was still in school . recently i found out that she has been sleeping with and dating several guys here and there at school and i am here talking to her every day thinking that she is changed.
Once you lose the trust between each other its almost impossible to go back to normal. your GF is always going to think that " ohh he cheated on me , so i am allowed to do same thing " and everything she gets apportunity she will take a " BREAK " hook up with another guy and come right back to you asking you to get back together. and she will do this only so she will not feel bad about it since technically it is not cheating!!
make sure you think before jumping in. The end in this kind of situation is always sad for us guys. and just keep one thing in mind.
if you dont stand up for something , you will fall for anything !
this is my experiance i dont know how much it will help but good luck
2007-03-20 05:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you bypass right into a relationship you open your self as much as the potential of having harm. that's the way it truly is. that's a possibility. there is not any assure which you in simple terms isn't betrayed. you may in simple terms desire. you may under no circumstances dictate the movements of your spouse, so the potential of being harm by means of him is there. particularly circumstances you would be shocked how a lot you do not comprehend a individual no rely how long you have regular him. I comprehend which you would be jaded in spite of each little thing this. making an investment a lot to easily get harm interior the top. i think of the reason you may not recover from it truly is because of the fact your satisfaction substitute into harm. How can a guy who has each little thing he needs in a woman buddy cheat? i think because of the fact some human beings do exactly not comprehend a thank you to value what they have. they are in simple terms under no circumstances happy. that's his loss. do not challenge, you nevertheless have your satisfaction and dignity intact 'cuz you stepped out and left him the 2nd you found out quite than stayed and often taking place the placement. fee all of it to adventure. don't be afraid to possibility returned. that's area of life. If it takes place(returned), p.c. your self up, dirt your self, and shop on jogging, do not look returned. there's a asserting that in case you supply a individual your hand and he grabs your arm, he isn't a powerful individual, so pay attention. Set useful limits to what you will supply/do in a relationship. in the adventure that your spouse calls for greater or forces then you that is a warning.
2016-12-19 09:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, correct me if I'm wrong. You cheated on her several times WHILE YOU WERE STILL COMMITTED TO THE RELATIONSHIP and never came clean that it was quite a few times more than what she thinks.
She broke up with you but was still seeing you occasionally. She lied about seeing other guys as well.
Go ahead and hit the thumbs down, baby, cause you won't like this at all. She is a liar. But you, you are cheat. I think you need to step out of your glass house before you throw stones. This relationship is no good for either of you.
2007-03-20 05:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cheated on her and she trusted you enough when you said you wouldn't do it again. Why can't you trust her, when you cheated on her don't you think it broke her heart? If you ask me your not being truthful because you didn't tell her about the other times you cheated on her. Ya'll both need to be truthful give her another chance and this time if she does break up with you agian then call it quits for good. You should at least give her another chance. Think about it this way ya'll both messed up in a way.
2007-03-20 05:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two are clearly not made for each other. First you didnt love her enough so you cheated on her then she felt the same way. In a REAL RELATIONSHIP where you love the person you dont cheat lie and your willing to work it out before breaking up or just giving up on it. you two need to find the right people
2007-03-20 05:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sheri M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like both of you are bad for each other. It's really hard to earn trust back after lying, it sounds like this is one of those cases. Learn from the experience, and just think that you wont make the same mistakes with the next girl you meet.
2007-03-20 05:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Natalia O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude. im going through this same thing. i've had some trouble spots too, and i've cheated on my gf once, she found out, and i've made up greatly for it. and we've tried taking breaks, but it never lasts more then a day. I love the girl, just like you say you do. She says she wants you back. Then make her show you. Do not get too attached for a little while. Make her fight to show you she loves you, and dont fight to make it work. If its made to be, she'll work to make it good again. If not..... then you have to make the choice to leave her. you dont want something like that to hold you back.
2007-03-20 05:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This whole relationship is a terrible mess, cut anchor start fresh with somebody new. Clearly you 2 won't be able to trust each other, which will just lead to more problems.
2007-03-20 05:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by RDubs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh grow up! Neither one of you sound mature enough for a lasting relationship. Being able to get someone to go to bed with you is not love. It seems that neither of you have proved yourself loving in this relationship and I wouldn't trust either of you!
2007-03-20 05:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two are not good for each other. You cannot force a relationship to work. Break it off once and for all.
2007-03-20 05:20:27 · answer #11 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋