I am a very shy person and don't know how to initiate sex with my b/f. I really want to do different things with him but it's hard because of my shyness.
2007-03-20 05:13:31 · 13 answers · asked by lovemuffin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is easy to solve because I did this with my ex who was a virgin before we did anything. First, have your b/f tell you what he wants. He should make sure you are comfortable and ask if you are okay with doing whatever he wants to do. Let him guide you into doing the things and discuss with him want you want to do. If you want to do different things, talk about it with him and let him initiate those things until you are comfortable initiating it yourself.
All this is to make you more comfortable with sex. He has to make you feel comfortable about sex so you can initiate sex when you feel like it. I hope this helps.
2007-03-20 05:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Super Haitian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will happen naturally.If your boyfriend is shy then it may be a little difficult.I recommend that you have an open talk about sex,and what you want and tell him that you want to please him and that he should do the same for you.If you have an open talk then it will be a little easier.Dim the lights or put a small candle near the bed or sofa or table wherever you choose to get your groove on,and enjoy yourself.Remember,don't be too assertive because men sometimes feel inadequate if the woman is the first to make the move.Good luck.
2007-03-20 05:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling totally comfortable with him is the best way to do it and that, as you know, takes time and patience on your boyfriend's side. I have been married almost 6 years and I'm having a better time now then I did in the beginning because I feel so comfortable with my husband that I can relax. The first few times we had sex, I had to tell myself to relax over and over again because I was nervous and inexperienced. If your boyfriend is too demanding or doesn't get that, maybe he's not for you.
2007-03-20 05:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try dressing up in something that'll make you feel sexy. It may help you to "pretend" you're a little freakier if you feel like you're in a disguise. You have to take baby-steps. Read up on ways to spice it up in the bedroom and try small different things that you feel comfortable with. You don't have to transform yourself into a huge freak and try a million different things and overwhelm him. Just do one or two new things that you feel okay with. Once you see how much it pleases him it will hopefully help you to feel more comfortable with expanding your sexual taste. If all else fails, a little liquid courage always works for lowering my inhibitions...but just don't become too dependent on that!
2007-03-20 05:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Be all that You can Be! The best part about a bedroom is when each person acts just the way they are!! As time goes on, you will learn what you love to do and what he loves for you to do. If this is the real partner you want, you will be shy no more!!
2007-03-20 05:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BF likes you for who you are and that should kinda ease up your shyness just a bit. I suggest you have a very intimate night where its just you, him a bottle of wine(if you are of age to drink...sparkling cider will do if not) and a candle lite room. Tell him that tonite is his night and he can do wit you as he pleases...and when he does wat he does let him know how you feel, tell him you like it this way or you like it that way. If you dont feel comfortable doing something just use ure sexiest voice and say something like "not like that baby, like this..I like it like this"..that way you will flip from that into something else much to ure comfrot level.....other than that just relax and enjoy some ravishing sex...
I wish you all the best ...
Good Luck...
2007-03-20 05:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by ask n ye shall recieve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it rather is a basic one, you look the conservetive sort and theres no longer something incorrect with that we adult males like a women people that incorporates herself with admire , somebody we are in a position to take domicile to mom and dad and proudly, yet because of the fact the asserting is going a woman in the line and a freak in the sheets is what we adult males rather desire, and for you being greater aggressive he might mean he needs you to be the single to enishate in intercourse ,marvel him in the morning with sturdy intercourse commencing with a BJ.
2016-10-19 04:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.
the first thing u should do is going to a stag shop and buy some sluty uniform, put some sluty make up on, and talk like a whore. it will turn him on eventually. after u have good sex, go to downtown and stand in a corner, then cars start pulling over for u, and see what they will offer, if it is a good deal take it. bj start at 20 dollars, dont go any lower. that is it, u shy person u.
Thanks
Dr. love
2007-03-20 05:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Rafi N 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
WeLL....IF UR NOT A FREAKY PERSON, Y WOULD U WANT TO MAKE UR SELF THAT WAY FOR SOMEONE ELSE?! BE WHO YOU ARE..I MEAN ONE THING EVENTUALLY LEADS TO ANOTHER AND THEN YOU TRY ALL DIFFERENT SORT OF STUFF! IF UR SHY MAYB ITS BECAUSE UR NOT FULLY COMFORTABLE..AND THATS FINE! JUST TAKE IT STEP BY STEP!
2007-03-20 05:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by JB. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try watchin porn
go and get video on sex (not porn) learning videos
and then initate it
u need to be a good lover to keep a man
remember that
ohh yah if u dont do this now
start
u need to swallow too
not to be disrespectful but its the truth
2007-03-20 06:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋