I am 14 years old, I do act very mature for my age, and I look 18 according to everyone. I was dating a guy who is 16 for almost 4 months. I cheated on him at a party, and I guess it was a stupid thing to do. But it was with his 25 year old brother. We very much like eachother, but he also has a 4 year old daughter. Is there absolutly any hope for this relationship? And my ex boyfriend is going to Europe for 5 months, and he is leaving in a few days. Should I tell him that I cheated on him with his brother, and sacrifice being friends with him, or should I forget it happened and go on?
2007-03-20 05:13:03 · 31 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The relationship is not sexual, therfore it's not illegal.
2007-03-20 05:13:39 · update #1
I made out with his brother, I didn't have sex with him. But some people consider kissing another guy cheating.
2007-03-20 05:17:10 · update #2
I broke up with my ex boyfriend the day after it happened. I couldn't make up a good excuse, so I just said it was because he's going to Europe for so long. I want to remain friends with him, but it's his brother. And no, I'm not going to get pregnant.
2007-03-20 05:24:29 · update #3
If its not sexual then how dod you cheat on him????? Details please
2007-03-20 05:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Dirty Sanchez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, honey, don't tell your ex you cheated with his brother. Just leave that alone. I know the 25 year old guy may seem like a good deal right now, but you have plenty of time to get serious with someone. Enjoy being your age (I know you said you look and act at least 18) for a little while longer. I don't think a relationship with a 25 year old guy is the best situation for you right now. Maybe when you're 18.
2007-03-20 12:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When situations happen like that this is why women cant find guys that are right because of the women in the past do to the men... But I am just going to let you know this...Yes you are 14 years old and you think that you are mature for your age but you need to remember that you are a child and a child should stay in a child's place. Try not to grow up to fast. My quote to you is" Live life on the edge". If you call yourself mature why are you cheating. You have a long way to go for maturity. Also in a relationship you have to become a friend. So, if you are a friend you need to let him know what you did wrong... GOOD LUCK!!! and you need to look at yourself sometimes so that you can see what I am saying to you.
2007-03-20 12:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by rican mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby you're probably not going to like me after this- but you say you are mature so you should be able to handle it then. What in the hell are you doing going ou t with a 25-year old, man with a child? Don't you know this 25 year old person is taking advantage of you, and if he hasn't he will. I can Absolutely -Assure you he Will. Be Certain of that!! Darlin you need to slow down - You are going to be rode hard and hung up wet before you know it!!! You put your question on here so you better be prepared for a lot of different answers! If you've got any sense-Get out of this crazy scene you are living in. You better create a safer enviroment for yourself and Focus on your Future- Someday you will have to support your self or at least I hope you are mature enough that this is what you want. Your own Financial Freedom-That comes with a price. And it won't come living a life like a 25-year old. Take it from a Women who has lived and knows- I see you headed for a Freight-Train if you don't jump out right now.Now!!
2007-03-20 12:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
emm, I met a girl on a plane to Europe once who was 14 but looked 25. She was dating guys much too old for her and was actually messed up because she missed some things that everyone should go through when growing up. Stop wrecking yourself just because you look old enough to do so. You have your whole lifetime to be an adult. Forget it happened... keep getting up for Jr. Highschool and make sure you treat yourself right! Don't screw yourself over in life with stupid decisions... or you'll end up living with your parents and your baby, single, little education and a mediocre career not of your choice. I'm serious... I see this happen to the pretty and mature looking ones all the time.
God bless
2007-03-20 12:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there's no hope for that relationship.
1) You're 14. He's 11 years your senior. Once again...you're 14. It's not only the fact that you cheat with him, but it's the fact that he's committed statuary rape! He could go to prison for that!!
2) YES! You NEED to tell your ex the truth! Don't be a ***** and leave him wondering. Come up front and tell him EXACTLY what happened. Do you REALLY think he won't find out?
3) You can't just forget this. Are you pregnant? Unless you used protection, I hope you're okay with being a mom at 14.
2007-03-20 12:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you have strong feelings for him and im sorry to say but you might look mature for your age but you are acting like you are 14 im not trying to be mean but it doesnt sound like you are ready for a serious adult relationship there are two reason one your only 14 and if you want the relationship to STAY legal no sex and i dont know any 25 year old man who will be in a relationship with know sex exspecialy when he already has a child .Secondly i know your not ready because youve just cheated on your current boyfreind .Also he isnt acting his age either for 25 he should not be having a relationship with a 14 .I hope your freinds are telling you the same thing this relationship doesnt have a chance i hope you can see that .What about the childs mom is she in the picture ?Are you ready to except the fact that he might want to get back with her.As far as telling your boy freind i think you have to if you want to be freinds because if you forget it happend chances are it will come out later and then it will really be hard to get him back as a freind i cant believe this guy did that to his brother,ask your self if he can do that to his brother do you think he will think twice befor cheating on you and if you find out he cheated imagine what his excuse will be "You cheated on my brother to be with me".Sorry i dont see a better solution hope it all works out any other questions fill free to email me kkwants to help .good luck!
2007-03-20 12:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by kkwants to help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it happened .. don't tell him.. and leave the 25 yr. old alone..ur only 14 I dont care how mature u are for your age you are still a kid (teen.. I don't mean it to be offensive) and you have a lot of growing up to do in a lot of ways u have things to experience this guy is 25 he has lived life and experienced things it is not fair for u to not have that ooportunity.. trust me I've been there I started datin my b/f when we were both 15 and by 16 I was a mother...I missed alot and u deserve alot more than to be tied down to anybody..have fun live life and dont try so hard to grow up so fast because when u are grown u r gonna wish u were 14 again! u might not think there is ne thing wrong with ur situation now but 10 yrs from now u r gona wish u did things different...dont worry about guys right now dating someone ur own age is fine but sex shouldnt even be involved yet...give it time and wait a couple more yrs.. it will be worth it trust me!
2007-03-20 12:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not tell your ex that you cheated. You do that to ease YOUR conscience and make yourself feel better and all it does is make him feel worse.
And this COULD turn sexual in the next couple years so it could wind up being illegal. That is just nasty a 25 year old guy hooking up with a 14 year old girl even if you look 18. Date guys more your own age.
2007-03-20 12:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is somethign you may not want to hear, but someone who is 25 yrs old that kisses a 14 yr old in a sexual manner is not someone normal. Its not right. I know for you it may be exciting or great because he is 25, but he should really be ashamed of himself. I dont think your ex bf will be happy if he finds out his older brother is doing this with you. PLEASE don't go further with this 25 yr old man. He will ruin your life, and probably get you pregnant. Your makeing the biggest mistake of your life. You may not see it or feel it, but you will sooner or later. Think about it, he is 25 yrs old. I dont consider him a respectful guy if he is messing around with someone your age. Be careful, he may be using you for his own sexual desires. If anyone finds out he can get into much trouble with the law. STop it all together.
2007-03-20 23:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you act mature for your age and then tell us details of proof to the contrary. Frankly you're not mature enough to handle a relationship with either brother. The most important aspects of relationships that are lasting are honesty and integrity and you seem to have a character completely void of those vital aspects. I would suggest that you avoid all emotional relationships until you not only look mature but are. It is not a matter of being able to attract a mate but in being able to act responsibly with one when the time comes. Good luck when the time comes you're not a bad person you're just ahead of yourself in the game. Slow down your time will come.
2007-03-20 12:19:46 · answer #11 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋