I am a 17, almost 18 year old girl. For 7 months now i have been going out with a fantastic guy called sam. But, he is over a year younger than me, and lives 250 miles away. we met through my cousin, but i have only seen him 3 times in all the time we have been together, although we used to talk almost every day. we still do really, but he is getting really clingy and im not sure what to do
then, back in december i met an amazing guy through my mates. He is my age, single, lives in the town next door and is mental about me. we talk a lot, and i care very deeply for him. he knows about sam, but he hopes there is still a chance for us. he says nothing can happen unless i am single
i had dumped sam for him but nothing happened, then i got back with sam, but now i think i want him again. however, i dont want to hurt sam. what should i do!!!
2007-03-20 05:08:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ditch Sam regardless of anything. It's a shame that you don't live closer as he's fantastic but you're at an age where their are so many opportunities out their and so much fun to be had that you don't need to be tied down to a long distance relationship like that, especially when you're not really sure you about him - you'd regret it later on. Sounds like you and Sam may just be good friends now, it's hard without physical intimacy and just hanging out like a normal couple.
Then you should see what happens with this new guy, and if it doesn't happen then don't go running back to Sam again as you're just hurting him.
Stay friends with Sam if you can, but for now you're better off seing whats out there!
Good luck x
2007-03-20 05:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump Sam because it is not going anywhere. Meeting 3 times in 7 months does not constitute a relationship. I would hurry up and do it if I were you because the other guy will get fed up with waiting and move on. Good luck!
2007-03-20 05:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young, be free and single for a while and work out what you really want give yourself time it will all work out in the end. From what you have said i dont think this thing with Sam is really going anywhere do you ? he maybe a good friend so try to let him down gentley best of luck hun x
2007-03-20 07:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in all fairness you should reconsider what kind of relationship you have with Sam. Experience has shown that long distance relationships rarely work out and at such a tender age I think you should look towards meeting someone who is local to where you live. Good luck x
2007-03-20 05:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by flipflop_76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if anything will happen between you and that guy before you do anything drastic. It seems like you really don't care about Sam if you could just break up with him just to be with someone else....thats not love at all. If you are unsure of what to do you need to stop being with Sam and figure out what you want....you can't just keep dragging him alone until you figure out what you want.
2007-03-20 05:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lost in a Relationship 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu sound so mixed up girl. What do YOU want????
I admire the lad in your town for saying he wont go with you until you ditch sam.
How come nothing happened then when you ditched sam????
You need to do some talking and sort things out for good.
2007-03-20 05:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget SAM or just be pen pals,do you honestly think he is sat at home 250 miles away thinking about you. sorry.
he is probably with someone right now,and he can tell you what he wants over the phone , long distance relationships don't usually work.
2007-03-20 05:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart, plus I know how hard the long distance relationships can be. If you can do it, more power to you, but it didn't work out for me. You also need to have an open line of communication between both parties, but be sure that you do what you want to do and be honest with yourself. Good Luck.
2007-03-20 05:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. One was a fling, and your doing the other wrong by still liking the other and seeing him. Confess to the one near you, and if he still wants to see you, then see him. Him he dumps you, then you have learned a lesson, 1 guy at a time.
2007-03-20 05:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and think of who makes you happier. Sam or the other guy.
2007-03-20 05:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by lovemuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋