We are totally in love, we live together, we both know we are the ones for each other and are soul mates. Here's the kicker, we've been together for three months. I know it sounds short, but we're both very old souls, but young in earth years. I'm 25, she's 23. We've both been through a lot, we're both very attractive and have dated many many people, and we have both found exactly what we're looking for in each other. We both have careers and make very good money. We moved in together and everyday is exciting and beautiful. So why rush you ask? We're not rushing, we want to share in what we know is love and committment and want to show the whole world. So how long should I wait? I was thinking of proposing in July, would be 7 months dating, then get married in 9 months from then. We would have been together for over a year at that point. What do you think people?
2007-03-20 05:07:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your timeline sounds good. Yes, it does sound "too soon", but not everyone needs years to figure out what they want. I knew a couple of months after meeting my husband that I wanted to marry him; we moved in together after 3 months of dating, got engaged a year later, and married within 4 months after that. It's been great. Congrats, and good luck.
2007-03-20 06:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, love is amazing isn't it? Here's the thing you already live together, so you should ask her now and get married in the fall. That will giver her enough time to plan. If you know you want to get married, there is no rule on how long you should wait. Go for it. Propose on easter, hide the ring in an egg or something, plan it as a secret with your family. Best of luck!
2007-03-20 05:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by JJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, wait a year. I was with this guy and I thought we were perfect for each other. We always had a blast together, never fought/argued etc.. When our 1 yr anniv came around, it was like we were a totally different couple. We stayed together another year, but the spark had faded.
I know you two are really in love, but I'd wait because of my own personal experiences. I've been with my current bf for almost 5 years and we're just now talking marriage.
2007-03-20 05:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're bound to hear some people being in support of you proposing and some against it. The only advice that I have is to do what your heart tells you. Only you and her understand the depths of the love in your relationship. I mean, there are people who wait a long time to get married, and that does not necesarily mean that their marriages last.
I personally dating my 7th grade boyfriend for 8 years!!! Everyone kept telling us that we were too young to get married, and that we were rushing things. Finally we announced that we would be getting married this past September (we both were 21). We knew that we wanted to be with eachother. So we got married and everyone was okay about it. Now all we regret is having waited so long.
So, DO WHAT YOUR HEARTS TELLS YOU IS RIGHT. Now one will know that but you...
2007-03-20 05:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by LR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to get married after three months is rushing it a little. Right now, you are very much in love and unable to see things clearly. Despite being old souls, 23 is a lot different than 25. The typical 23 year old is just getting out of college and starting a career - a 25 year ld has been out in the world for at least two years and is being to get settled. Wait at least a year to propose....from the time you moved in together. You don't want to jump into something that a divorce attorney will have to get you out of.
2007-03-20 05:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cambrianna S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would wait if i were you.. like someone else said, if you see spending the rest of your life with this girl then you have forever to get married. I'm currently engaged to my boyfriend of 2 years and we are getting married on our 3rd year anniversary.. but we've lived together for well over a year and a half.. there's a lot you guys still have to learn about yourself also. but ultimately, it's all up to you! and you'll know when the time is right.
2016-03-16 09:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is usually exciting and beautiful during the first few months to a year. If you want to give her a ring, go for it, but I'd take a year to plan the wedding to give yourself some cushion time on the off chance the relationship takes a bad turn. You'll still be living together and committed to each other, but trust me, in the event you have to call off your wedding, it's much better than going through a divorce.
2007-03-20 05:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Propose when you feel it's right. But do live with each other for awhile before getting married. I know from experience that living together for a few months then getting married less than a year together, ends up in heart break.
2007-03-20 05:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should wait until you have lived together for a year and are "settled". Nothing wrong with buying the ring if you know she is the one but I would definately wait just a little longer. Do the Christmas Eve at midnight proposal, if you celebrate Christmas.
2007-03-20 05:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by kauai_lvr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are both ready for it.
Go ahead, propose to her. There's people who have been in relationships 3 years, as opposed to your 3 months, who aren't ready for that kind of thing ... I think you should relish in the fact that you two are ready to commit to each other in such a way and just go for it!
Who cares what others will say of it, as long as you know in your heart it is the right decision for you two?
2007-03-20 05:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by ♦ Tiff ♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋