My cousin, who has a 4yo son thru a previous relationshp (nvr married) has been seeing a guy since Jan. He's a nice guy, even tho she was a bit skeptical about his just having gotten out of a 3yr on/off relationshp the month before they were set up on a blind date. She did feel threatened about that past girl because of the history & because still sometimes talk via a mutual friend (his roommate). Nothing major, just hi how are you's & catching up when she calls. He assured her (my friend) that she has nothing to worry about bcause they are done, & he was the one who broke up w/ her.
It's been pretty fast & intense. She met his family, went on a trip with his family & her son, I love you's have been exchanged, & now she wants him to move in with her, which he is going to do.
Am I being wrong for worrying about this? Is it true love or insecurity? Will it last? What about her son? The new guy seems like such a kid himself. But they are in their early 30s, so maybe it can work?
2007-03-20 05:01:29 · 4 answers · asked by Toni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not wrong for worrying about this. It's barely been 3 months and they are already "in love" and going to move in together? That's a huge step and when there's a kid involved, imo anyway, you can't just jump into stuff like that. It's confusing to the child and with all the pedophiles around these days I'd be hesitant to bring any Tom, Dick and Harry around my kid. Have you voiced your concerns? If you have and she's still insistant upon doing it, you have no choice but to let her make her own mistakes. Support her and be there for her even if you don't agree with her decisions.
2007-03-20 05:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welllll, its kinda soon for a move-in situation, in my opinion. Has her son agreed or at least open to the idea? Its just not worth it at this early stage in the relationship because she has a young boy who will not understand or be very hurt if/when they break up. If she really, really wants him to move in, I'd tell her to at least ease him in the situation, not like share a bed for a short while or make it like he's "sleeping over" alot. In the end, who is more important: her son or the new boyfriend?
2007-03-20 05:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of your business to pry. All you should do is be her friend. Give her an opportunity to talk to you. She's a big girl who needs to make her own decisions.
2007-03-20 05:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her life.
You love her so of course you are normal for worrying!
But that's ALL you can do.
2007-03-20 05:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋