I did a search on my boyfriends email name and came up with a list (mostly from ebay which I know are his) but also came up with a profile on a p o r n site. We're both religious and our church has strong views against p o r n. I am also strongly against p o r n o g r a p h y. Do you think this profile on the p o r n site is his? or not? What should I do?
2007-03-20 04:58:25 · 26 answers · asked by DebChick 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm 25 and female. The only reason I even checked was because he googled my screen name first.
2007-03-20 05:03:26 · update #1
I think you should ask him. Also I am afraid to tell you that I don't think that your relationship will last much longer if the two of you don't trust one another enough and have to find out what the other is up to all the time. Trust is one of the most important parts of any relationship. I hope things work out for the best for the two of you though.
Blessed Be )O(
2007-03-20 05:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is it a profile for someone looking for a date ? or is it just a membership profile of someone looking at the site ?
i understand why you want to know what you're talking about before asking since you don't exactly want to broadcast the fact that you did a search on him . but if it is his email address then it's probably him . there might be a simple answer for it... like it was old and he set it up a long time ago . so i would definitely confront him on it . you have a right to know if your boyfriend is looking at porn . i would just advise you to not be emotional, judgemental or confrontational right off the bat so he doesn't feel cornered and feels comfortable enough telling you the truth . then whatever the answer is, you can have a constructive conversation about it . could be a good opportunity to get to know each other better and understand your points of view . good luck . i'm sure it's nothing to worry about .
2007-03-20 05:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by * whatever * 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to know is by asking him. You can also look at the "history" on his computer and his "cookies." And do a search of all the pictures that are on his computer. But the first way is the best.
I have a very close friend whose husband did the same thing, then accused her of joining a porn site. It turns out he was wrong, but before he was through, their marriage was ruined. Please don't jump to conclusions. Talk to him and if you think he's not telling the truth, search his computer for evidence.
2007-03-20 05:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say you should just go sit down and talk to him about it. Many guys struggle with this issue, both christian and non-christian. Maybe drop a line like, ask him what he thinks of it. And if he thinks it's wrong. I don't know if there really is a way of finding out other than asking him.
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2007-03-20 05:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Varsitykid07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it relies upon on the e-mail call... is it elementary, or is it very unique and extraordinary? If the latter, then your BF has a profile on a porn website. you're able to do considered one of two issues. Anonymously touch him, utilising a pretend profile on that comparable internet website, and spot how your BF responds, if in certainty it rather is him. the different selection is to flat out ask him. women folk are very adept in determining while a guy is mendacity. sturdy success, and let us know what happens.
2016-10-19 04:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly , there is nothing wrong with porn, it is mealy watching an act of sex that you are either engaged in or was, or wanted to be involved in.. In my case memories.. Church people are the most likely people to have double and triple, to the power of 47 standards than a non believer in the area.. As the news papers almost daily are printing new claims of abuse in Christian schools and convents etc..If you are such a prude, then I suggest you seek counselling as you are the one who is making a mountain out of a molehill.. Blessed Be.. )O(
2007-03-20 05:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bunge 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take a look at the p o r n (...that's kinda fun, spacing the letters out like that so it's not an actual word. I'm going to do that to the rest of my answer so that it will consist of everything except real words.)
Y o u l e a v e i t a l o n e . W h a t h e d o e s b e h i n d c l o s e d d o o r s i s n o n e o f y o u r b u s i n e s s .
2007-03-20 05:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If the site has the full email address then more than likely yes your boyfriend has been on the site.
Pornography is unlikely to change your boyfriend, perhaps you should confront him about it in a non threatening way.
Also, this is simply personal opinion, but you shouldn't live your life for your church. Let your boyfriend know that you don't like him looking at it, but realise that if he does look at it, nothing will change at all in your life.
2007-03-20 05:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by chazt 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It could just be junk mail or spam. However, the best thing for you to do is talk to him about it and don't get frustrated no matter what the answer is that he gives you. Work with him and trust him to be honest.
2007-03-20 05:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could visit the porn site and see if it's him. If you can't bring yourself to look then ask him but if it is him don't expect the truth since he will already have been lying about it
2007-03-20 05:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Murazor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋