its my 21 birthday in 3 weeks and i live with my bf and his mum. his mum wants to take me for a meal with the family at there county park hotel. and have a little party thing. but i get very nevers when pepole look at me when eating at the table and stuff and dont feel very comfterble so i wouldnt really enjoye it. so do i just go and have the meal or should i just tell her to leve it and i will just got out with my bf andmates for a night out. one thing my birthday is on the monday and i am going to spain for a week on the sunday before monday so i wont be at home to celebratie am gonig to spain to see my bf dad this is a birthday treat to. so i wont be able to go out with my mates and bf at home. plus its the big 1 and i have to make my mind up what to do. what would you do thanks x
2007-03-20 04:53:28 · 8 answers · asked by shell 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's your birthday and first and last time 21.
I say follow your heart and tell your real feelings as not to hurt people around you. Be true to yourself. Once in a lifetime, enjoy whatever YOU decide, don't feel bad
2007-03-21 01:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by Busgirl2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go have a nice meal.
It's nice that your boyfriend's mum likes you enough to make an occasion for your birthday. If every girl was that lucky!
At 21.... or should I say approximately between ages 12 and 23 or so everyone feels that they are being watched and judged... believe me when I tell you this.... unless you are a celebrity or inconceivably beautiful or a freak with two noses no one will stare at you...maybe an occasional look to see if you are having a nice time.
If everyone else is eating they'll be too busy with what they are doing.
It's a tough thing to get over what you are worried about but you are restricting yourself from being with certain people by being shy in that manner.
Have a night out with your mates and BF either before or afterwards. Last I heard there's no set rule for celebrating on the day of your birthday.
Hope your enjoy your 21st birthday! Enjoy the attention now so you have some fond memories to look back on.
That's what I would do...spend a couple days celebrating with people who enjoy my company and I, theirs.
Have fun and relax!!
2007-03-20 12:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by Gigi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
admittedly, i'm a little confused with your description of the events...still, i'll try to help.
with regards to the nervous bit, that's really understandable. the thing of it is, you got to try to figure out what makes you nervous around them. often, it's because you aren't that close to them. just think, this might be the opportunity for you to get to know them better. after all, there doesn't seem to be much harm in doing that. at least, when they get to know you and you get to know them, perhaps you'd feel a bit more welcome (maybe even feel like part of the family).
well, honestly, the choice is yours. either way, since it's your special day, it's best if you choose something that you know would definitely make you happy. consider what both options have to offer. you could get to know a family over a meal or re-celebrate the bond you have with your mates. consider that perhaps one option may only happen once or even just a few times in a lifetime while the other could be done some other time. try to be objective about your choice. if you really can't choose, try to come to a compromise between the activities. maybe you could have lunch with the family then go out with your mates for a night at the movies...or even let them accompany you during the meal. it's your call and it's your day. so what matter's most is that you're happy. good luck!
2007-03-21 03:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by changing_sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really nervous when you are eating best not to put yourself through this on what should be a carefree day. However, it is a lovely thought from your bf's mum so tread carefully in order not to hurt her. Speak to her on your own and tell her truthfully how appreciative you are but can't help about how nervous you would be. Try and compromise with either something like drinks and nibbles at her house or at the the hotel. Happy 21st!!!
2007-03-20 19:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do all of it! How nice of bf's mum to take you out for a nice posh meal. No-one will be looking at you, as you will all be chatting among yourselves, and concentrating on your own meals. You will probably have a nice toast with champagne, and a cake.
Then have your night out. No-one will mind when it is, as you are getting all these treats and it will be on a day when you can do it.
Enjoy your holiday, and your birthday. Let it stretch out, and have fun!
2007-03-20 13:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mum that u dont want a meal just a party with foods to pick at.
have fun and happy birthday x
2007-03-20 11:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by addicted to this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should nt do that you supposed to be a matured baby ok.
2007-03-21 06:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...luv, have you been to school then?
2007-03-20 12:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋