Me and my Boyfriend have been dating for 5 months and he asked me to marry him and i said yes but im only 16 but i love him so much and im sure thats the person for me! But what should i do im so confused
2007-03-20 04:51:21 · 23 answers · asked by Kbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only thing for you to do is WAIT!!!! If you two love each other as much as you say you do, there's no need to rush. You two are no where near being ready for marriage. If you two are smart you will pursure your futures and have a plan. I have an idea. Why don't you two just make a promise to love and stick by each other until you are old enough to go through with this. You have only been together 5 months and haven't been through hard times or struggle yet. I'm not going to tell you that your not in love because I don't know you. If you two are having sex, I can tell you that your not in love, your in lust. Big difference. If you two love each other as much as you say you do, you will slow down and think about the lives you have ahead of you. What you do now can affect your entire future.
2007-03-20 05:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're confused or have any doubts at all, then you should always wait and give the matter some more thought. Besides, you're only 16, and in most states you can't legally get married yet anyway.
Also, if you're so sure you love him and want to spend the next 60 years with him, surely you can wait a couple more years.
Marriage is about more than just being in love, although that's an essential ingredient. It's about living together and sharing your lives together, it's about paying bills and deciding whose turn it is to wash the dishes, it's about commitment and patience and understanding. So consider the practical aspects - are you ready to move out and live on your own (with him)? Who will pay the rent, who will work, will you finish school, what are your long-term plans?
Also, you've only been dating 5 months, and while that might seem like forever in high school, in the context of your entire life it's scarely a moment in time. Date him for *at least* a year before you make any decision like this.
2007-03-20 05:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly dont think you should be getting married at 16. Let me ask you this...How old is your Boyfriend?? If he's an older guy he's probably trying to take advantage of you. Is he your first boyfriend? You may be blinded by the feeling of love. I'm not saying you're not in love. If you say you are, then I'm sure you are. But alot of things will change in the next 3-5 years and it seems like a long time, but its not. It flies. I recommend that if you guys love each other so much, wait a few more years to get married. I got married when I was 20 years old and still people tell me I was too young. But I can guarantee that I was a completely different person at 20 than I was at 16. I wanted totally different things and you will feel the same. I dont want you to regret getting married in high school. Why not wait at least until after high school when you get to be out on your own and know what life is like at least a little bit on your own.
2007-03-20 05:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that five months is long enough to know if you love someone. The problem is that when you are young, things change and most of all YOU change. The things you want when you are thirty are different than the things you think you want when you are sixteen.
If you love him and you want to marry him say "yes"...but make sure that you have a VERY LONG engagement. Obviously you need to finish school before you even think about a wedding.
If you have a long engagement, you can get to know each other better, finish high school, plan a career and set goals. Time is to your advantage because if you still want to get married three years from now, chances are you will have a long happy marriage. Anything worth having is worth waiting for. If you feel like you need to rush, your relationship might not be real.
If things don't work out, that means that it just wasn't meant to be. At least you will have a high school diploma under your belt and the rest of your life to look forward to! Good luck!
2007-03-20 05:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by FormerGiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 years old. You're still in the early stages of learning about life. Your focus should be school and making a better life for yourself and not marrying a guy you've been dating for five months. At 16, you have a very romantic view of marriage. You need to sit down and think about what marriage is all about and trust me... romance is only a small part of a marriage.
2007-03-20 05:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cambrianna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you said yes doesn't mean you have to get married right away. If you still love each other in 5 years than go for it. Don't rush into anything - no matter how in love you are. Besides that I don't think you can legally get married until you are 18, but I could be wrong.
2007-03-20 05:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend waiting until you have at least graduated high school, if not college. People change A LOT from the age of 16 - 26 (or even 30). Take time to find out who you are as a person first and then if you guys are still together after a couple of years together, then go for it! Good Luck!
2007-03-20 05:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 16! Give yourself at least 5 years to grow up and know what really is necessary to find in a man for a long marriage relationship. Think back to what you thought was the best just two years ago...it won't be the same as you would think now. The same goes with what you think is great in a guy.
2007-03-20 05:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say give it at least another year to know each other more. Spend time with his family and friends. And start asking all the hard questions that life throws at you. Don't know the hard questions? Ask married people, and they'll tell you what they wish they had known coming in.
In 5 months, the two of you haven't gotten over the freshness, the "puppy love" newness of being together. Let some of that new excitement fade and see how you REALLY feel about him.
2007-03-20 05:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by kevness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you're not in a rush so have a long engagement and get through school - help eachother through school and get a career started. Then when you're ready to have kids and start a family get married. You've got many many years ahead of you, think to yourself and ask him - why does it have to be RIGHT now?! besides it will be easier if you wait till at least 18. Me and my bf knew we would get married 3 months after we started dating but it was way to early (we were 16 too). Now we're engaged and will be marrried at age 21. We've kept building our relationship and making it stronger for when we get married. Remember it's a very important decission - you only get married once!
God Bless!
2007-03-20 05:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋