Me and my Boyfriend have been dating for 5 months and he asked me to marry him and i said yes but im only 16 but i love him so much and im sure thats the person for me! But what should i do im so confused
2007-03-20 04:51:08 · 43 answers · asked by Kbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my advice for u never never marry him at this young age
u still learn from life and u will lose ur future by thise marriage
tell him that no one from ur family will accept that and u still young for marriage and and house resposibilities
feel this words and dont waste ur life
he may play with u , why not ?
tell him to wait till at least 4 years and then get marry
2007-03-20 04:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You should not marry someone you've only known for 5 months, regardless of your age, and the fact that you'd consider such a rash step just shows your immaturity. What about your education, and how will you support yourselves? Living the life of an adult is much more involved than just marrying. Secure yourselves financially first, then marry after several more years of getting to know each other.
I know you won't understand this right now, but I am a totally different person today at 37 than I was at 16, and when I think back to the boys I dated and was crazy about back then, all I can think is thank God I didn't end up with any of them--I don't think my experience is unique.
2007-03-20 04:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be getting married. You should get engaged, because that will make you two feel like you belong together and that you're tied to each other in a way, but won't get badly hurt if it doesn't work out. I had a 2 year relationship which went pretty good, but it still ended.. After 5 moths you can't really know if it's going to last... not ever a year. I think you shouldn't get married before you're 21.. and what's the rush? How will your lives change if you get married now? Can't it wait a few more years? Finish your high-school, a college, and build yourself a future. After that you will still have time to get married. I hope he will understand and you two will be together even after 5 years. Good luck!
2007-03-20 05:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by baba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw... young love... I remember those days!! Sweetheard i know exactly how you feel.. Iv been there... when i was 16 i thought i had found the love of my life... I moved in with him and we lived together for a whole 3 years... I left him when i was 19... people grow up so much between those ages.. and i grew out of loving him.. it was just puppy love... and then we had to deal with selling the house and everything at such a young age.. i really think you should wait.. just date him for a couple years first... Im 23 now and i have been with my "new" boyfriend for 2 years now.. iam also 11 weeks pregnant... we still decided not to get married right now... even though im having his baby.. because you really shouldnt rush into it.. we know we love each other .. we dont need a wedding to prove it!! Good luck sweetie!!
2007-03-20 04:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by MandiGurl M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always say Yes, but its not official until the papers are signed, so if something happens you always have time to change your mind. From exp, I would suggest waiting though. I think making that kind of a decision is a huge step and it will completely change your life. Some good, some not so good. But after all that is marriage. If you guys are serious, I would suggest taking one of those courses since you are so young, so that you are aware of what all marriage really about. At your age, its hard to say if in a year you wants and dreams will stay the same or change. I wouldn't rush it, just take your time and if in a year or two you guys still feel the same... then concider following through. Good luck, and congrats.
2007-03-20 04:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by JustHeather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five months is not a very long time at all. What will it hurt if you just wait a little bit longer. If you plan to be together forever anyways than it won't hurt to wait. That way if things don't work out then you don't have to go through messy things such as divorce. What do your parents think about it? Because being 16 you would need your parents permission. You still have so many things going on in life. What about school and all the things teens your age should be doing. If your confused about it hun I really suggest that you wait. But nobody can really tell you what to do. So listen to your heart and don't let him convince you that this is what you need to do in order to be together. If he really loves you he should be willing to wait. Good luck!
2007-03-20 04:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Meiko420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say yes, but then have a very long engagement (over a year). Just don't set a date. After all, you're only 16 and marriage takes more than just love. You also need financial security, respect and a lot of hard work. Enjoy being young and in love, but don't rush out to tie the knot.
2007-03-20 04:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you know what love is, but you don't really have the first clue as to what it is. Puppy love, maybe. Real love, no way! Your most memorable experience to date is either a class prom or getting your learners permit. Experience life before you jump in. You'll date 10 guys before you find the right one. Get married now, and you be divorced within a year, or drop out of school and live in a trailor. You make the call. Stupid decisions stay with you for a lifetime.
2007-03-20 05:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was proposed to twice before age 17, presented with rings and everything... I'm really glad I said no even though I thought I loved them, I knew I was too young. A couple years later, with some more experience and wisdom under my belt I found true love and have been happily married ever since. There's nothing wrong with being committed at your age, but wait until you're closer to 20 *at least* before becoming engaged. What I thought was love at your age did not compare to the deeper relationship I discovered when I was just a bit older.
2007-03-20 04:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by Bored Enough To Be Here 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kbaby, you are too young to be getting married. I know what it's like to be young and in love, but if you two truly love each other, then the love will last. Stay in school, go to college, both of you. Go to the same college if possible, then it won't be long distance. Finish your education, then start your careers. Then get married and start a family if that's what you want to do. But don't get married so young. Live life for yourself first.
2007-03-20 04:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what you should do. all i can do, is tell you what i did.
my bf and i had been together for 18 months, when he said that he wanted to marry me. (we were 16 and 17) and i said that i wanted to marry him too. i just knew in my heart that he was the one, and that we were going to be together forever.
then about a month later he decided that when he was 18 he wanted to join the navy. but i wouldnt turn 18 for 9 months after that. so he said that he would go,and on my 18th b-day, we could elope.
it then suddenly clicked that i didnt want to do that. but i didnt tell him.
he started getting ready for the navy, and he even asked the commanding officer about housing for a young married couple. i started really thinking about it, and decided that i didnt want to marry him. i really couldnt see us together forever.
so a week after we hit 20 months, i broke up with him. and he was devistated. i told him. i just dont see us together. it really is not working.
you have at least 2 years until you can actually get married, and i am sure that you are going to change your mind. if not, then i wish you luck. and many years of happiness.
hope that helped some. what you think you want, you will disagree with tomorrow.
2007-03-20 04:58:58 · answer #11 · answered by smcopeland16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋