I've been with my BF 4 10mos. He's done a lot of lying, which has caused me to be uncomfortable. He asked me to always be honest. He got a business number that he didn't want to give to me, so my friend at verizon looked it up for me. I called it once from an anonymous number, to make sure it was the right one.
He asked me if I had the number & in an attempt to be honest, I told him that I did, but I couldn't tell him how I got it so that my friend wouldn't get in trouble. I know I violated his trust, his privacy & his space, but I didn't feel comfortable with him not wanting me to have it. He said I was possessive & had violated him. I feel so guilty & don't think he'll ever forgive me for this. My friend said I should've lied about knowing it because now he's going to think all these negative things about me. Do I deserve forgiveness or did I hang my self by being too nosey & honest?
2007-03-20 04:33:35 · 12 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
listen he had no reason to be mad at you.,....you need to get away from this guy...hes controlling and emotionally abusing you and he is probably cheating on you..you do not deserve that.....think about it he lies all the time and he didnt want you to have a business number...and he got overly mad for no reason....get out of that relationship now before it starts getting worse
2007-03-20 04:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd be curious and maybe suspicious too if a guy had a number he didn't want me to have. You said he'd done a lot of lying before, which gives you even more right to be suspicious, and he shouldn't be surprised.
I guess you did invade his privacy, but unless he's able to prove that he's worthy of your trust after all the lying he did, he shouldn't be surprised that you'll need to sometimes check things out.
MY question is, why are you with a guy where trust and honesty are such issues? Maybe the things he lied about aren't that important, but why are you so concerned about the privacy of someone who's used your trust to betray you in the past? Better yet, why are you with him?
2007-03-20 04:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did both. It was the right thing to be blunt honest. That's what we all need in relationships, never hide anything from each other.
But, honestly speaking, it was wrong to invade his privacy. It showed that you doubted him. Simply saying that you didn't trust him that much, which makes him hurt.
You deserve forgiveness, and he also deserves an apology.
Apology for distrusting him, and invading his privacy. But you deserve a forgiveness, because your possessiveness just proves how much you love him!
Don't give up on him - not today... 'cause you love him incredibly...
2007-03-20 04:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by Pseudosophy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-02 07:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep u deserve forgiveness. He is being secretive w/ u so maybe u should debate whether your relationship is even worth it I mean he's been lying and then you found out about it now u did something that he found out about it and u were completely honest and if can't be honest w/ u maybe u should get out of the relationship b4 u completely lose all trust in him
2007-03-20 04:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nique 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you deserve to be forgiven,you said he lied to you
in the past so how can you trust him?you need to think about
what is keeping you to this man,do you want to be always lied
to,don,t you know that you deserve better? why are you wasting your life and body with a liar,he need to know that
he can,t do that to u,and by doing that let his a-- go,you don,t
think you beautiful enough to have someone who love only you
and is honest to you,you are getting taken for aride. the only
reason why he is doing because you forgave him and he
know he got you and you will stay,leave the man,and get your
life back so you can be you again,he taking from your spirit.
2007-03-20 04:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he doesn't trust you to have the number and you've essentially told him you don't trust him to have it. This relationship has bigger issues then a business phone number. You deserve forgiveness only if here has been some sort of repentance.
2007-03-20 04:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not worried I really think is his fault.As matter of fact he should not lie to you. I really think he does not deserve you. I once was in a similar situation an I dump my ex-boyfriend. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)
Just remember this!!!!!
2007-03-20 04:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by Arelex 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, he is cheating on you. You have a REASON to be nosy. You're asking if you diserve forgiveness?? He's the one that should be asking. There's no reason for him not to give you his work number. Very fishy if you ask me. Kick him to the curb.
2007-03-20 04:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lilith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you deserve forgiveness....Why is he being so secretive? Seems a little odd to me...hmmm!
2007-03-20 04:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋