Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years and we have a beautiful five month son together, but the problem is our family. My mama always has something negetive to say and always in his and our business. Another thing is his family treats him like total crap and are always worried bout what he is doing. Every body keeps putting him down and making him feel so low.This last past weekend he quit/lose his job because he didnt feel comfortable there. Now everybody has made our relationship worse. I really dont know what to do anymore. Plz help me out.
2007-03-20 04:28:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont worry about what other people say....if your happy then who cares what your families have to say about your relationship....what you can do is help him find a job that he enjoys...that way you both are showing your families that you can make it work and they will stop puttin him down....good luck
2007-03-20 04:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let other people run your relationship. You are stressed out because you care too much about what others say about your relationship. If you love him like you say you do, then stop worrying about what others say. He needs to know that you have his back no matter what, and he needs to have yours. No matter what his family or your family say, in the end, it will be you are him living your relationship. If you loose what you have because of outsiders, you honestly can't blame them. It is still your fault, because you let what they said move you to what they wanted to happen. Tell you what, I was currently in a six year relationship that ended up producing my now 4 year old. My mom didn't like him for one reason or another. My older sister almost caused us to break up for good. His parents always put him down because they didn't think he was smart enough. For a long time, our relationship teetered from one end to the next. As of right now, we have been married for over a month. All we did was stop worrying about people and brought our problems to God. It is human nature to not want someone else to be happy if they are not happy. When in doubt ask God. Nobody else can give you better advice than him.
2007-03-20 04:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
this is your relationship - You and Your boyfriend. You need to push aside what everyone else says about the two of you and concentrate on the two of you and making your relationship better. Be the one that pushes him up when everyone else pushes him down, be the one to commend him when everyone is disapproving him. Be to him the one most important thing that he needs right now - BE HIS GIRLFRIEND!!Let him know that you will stand by him come rain or sunshine........and i know the two of you will survive. I have been there and am telling you this from my experience.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-20 05:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to other people, you know so often in dealing with human nature in my day to day, I see so many that deal with all of thier problems by listening to someone elses view.... why do we as humans do this? I don't know.... YOU have to make decisions without your Television.... you have have to know and do what is best for you. You have to be yourself. If you are in love, its a whole different ball game. You not only have to love and make decisions for you, you have to with that other person as well. You have to work together. You can't just feel sorry and leave. Thats what my ex-fiance did. I love and hate her for that. Just don't give up on him. It sounds like he is going through a lot of what i went through. Rough waters lie ahead for him. Just keep the faith and stick with him, Screw what everyone says.
2007-03-20 04:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best solution to this is that the both of you remain strongly committed to each other, be supportive of him. It seems like you and your son are the only two people who are there for him unconditionally. Have you tried talking to ur mom? tell her that she will ruin ur relationship and when all is said and done, who will be there for you and the baby if ur man leaves? ask them that. Will ur Mom and his family help raise the baby? if they cannot commit then they need to back off and let u two be.
2007-03-20 04:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ursula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1, forget what anyone else says
2, focus on you, your partner and son
3, be supportive of your partner
4, and...tell the family where to go because it is none of their business what goes on in your relationship..or you could just not speak to them for awhile..thats what i would do.
2007-03-20 04:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by neonblast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you mama her negativity is bothering you and tell the man to be a man!
You have a baby neither of you can take it lightly ! so cut the drama and get it moving.....
2007-03-20 04:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by i am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life and why should other interfere, be brave and face the world.
2007-03-20 04:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Khurram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to all **** off. It's not their life. Why do you let them interfere? worry only what you and your bf want, no one else...
2007-03-20 04:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
smack em all
2007-03-20 04:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋