I don't even know myself anymore because of all the damage that took place between me and my ex.
2007-03-20 04:25:45 · 19 answers · asked by princess_09_r_s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
pray about this sweetheart! look to the lord,he will tell you what to do and where to go! he always does. god bless you and your in my prayers!
2007-03-28 04:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this happen many times. People change themselves so that someone "might" like them.
I have seen people go from being promising young adults to being complete losers just because they want a friend. Then that friend leaves them because they are too much of a loser, and the person is actually worse off than before.
People can avoid this by learning a couple of simple things, first is be happy with yourself. Do not try to be someone else as they are already taken.
Second keep your own moral code. Do not compromise your ethical self just to do what "might"make someone else happy.
If you want to know what will make a person happy just ask them, rather than commit acts that may very well backfire on you.
Last but not least, Change is always constant, but always try to change for the better. That new person you meet may be able to change your idea about something but should not change who you are.
2007-03-20 04:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. I've been with men who I think damaged my self-image. I don't think it is an easy thing to emerge unscathed from a broken relationship. Remember how positive it felt at the beginning? I always felt like I got harder and harder with hurt feelings from relationships... protecting myself, I guess. But is that such a bad thing? You never stay the same - everything changes you. If you didn't have strong reactions, you 'd just be an empty robot, taking it all as it came your way and spouting politically correct sitcom lines when faced with conflict.
I want to be the person I was but then again, I want to be 22 again. That's not going to happen!
2007-03-27 19:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex definitely "damaged" me a little bit, and I didn't really know myself for a while. How long has it been since you and your ex split?
It's been about 3 years for me, and I'm finally starting to heal. I'm still much different than I was before him and I started dating, but now I feel that I have changed for the better (in most ways). I know what to stay away from, I know what I'm worth, and I'm stronger. Give it some time.
2007-03-20 04:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Delvala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will eventually find yourself again. I understand completely. I am going through the same thing right now. However I can't get out of the situation for a few more weeks. I wish he loved me but *shakes head* he doesn't.
Be good to yourself
God Bless
2007-03-28 03:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty common. Take a huge step back and reexplore yourself. Do some soul searching and spend some quiet peaceful time. Time heals all wounds. You just have to make an effort to search for change. You have to be the change you want to see...
2007-03-27 19:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by Starlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my ex was a terrible **** who didn't give a rats *** about me. The more the person you love ignores you the more you feel like a **** and the more you don't care about anybody. You turn into a mean person cause your always in a bad mood. That's why I ended it I was starting to take my misery out on our children. They sure didn't deserve it
2007-03-27 08:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, that has never happen to me. I am going to be who I am always. If I have to change who I am for no apparent reason then it is not going to happen. I am as good as I am going to get. Cannot do no better than I am now. That is the attitude that you have to have when entering a relationship. Unfortunately for you, you did not have that attitude when you entered that relationship. Now you have to go about obtain that attitude. I suggest mirror exercises. Look in the mirror every day and say something to rebuild your confidence. Allright! Good! That'll be $50.
2007-03-27 19:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been with someone who initially made me feel that way when it was over. But you HAVE to find a way to look on the bright side. Once you do, you'll have changed for the best, because you'll see the bigger picture.
2007-03-28 04:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by MLRatyahoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have met some one that has changed me for the worse. But don't let that happen any more. Next time you might not live.
2007-03-27 11:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Aila126 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have, but that is just all the proof that you need that someone is not the person for you. The right person should make you feel the best about yourself. That you can do anything.
2007-03-20 04:31:45 · answer #11 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋