So I am ready to and I believe I am going to have sex with my boyfriend. I am 19 and he is 20. I just want people's thoughts on it...is it too young, even though I am ready? And does anyone regret losing it before marriage? Also, protection will definitely be used and I will be careful as possible.
2007-03-20 04:25:09 · 20 answers · asked by cross_countrystar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think that's too young, but make sure that this guy is worthy. Imagine if in ten years, you're a famous celebrity and he comes forward and says he slept with you first, would you be ashamed or not. Would he cut and run if you got pregnant or got into any other trouble? If the answer is yes, then wait a while. If you're sure he's trustworthy and you're proud to be with him, then just be careful. Sex is wonderful, but only if you're with someone who will respect and care for you and make sure that you will respect and care for yourself, too.
2007-03-20 04:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have to believe if you were truly ready, you'd not be asking this question. I am sure that you think that you know and that it's just to that breaking point now where you think you can not hold back any further, but you have to ask yourself if he's been in your life for say a couple of years and therefore establishing he's not going to bail on you right after and you are 19 and able to make this decision on your own but you are still very impressionable and boys at 20 aren't all that mature typically. They can hurt without really understanding the importance of this for you. You have to really think long about this one. It will be very hurtful and you will have a whole lot of regret for a whole long period of time if you haven't thought it through in every scenario and if he hasn't been your boyfriend for at least 2 years.
Good luck
2007-03-20 04:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go one ahead and do it. U already stated that u r ready so do u. Jus don't get 2 caught up in the moment that u forget to use protection i.e. a condom. HAVE FUN SEX IS GREAT and I hope that u r not disappointed after. But I do forget losing my virginity and not b/c of not being married but b/c I should of waited for someone I really cared 4 and not someone I thought I did. But ya know we learn from our mistakes.
2007-03-20 04:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Nique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are sure that you are ready then go for it. Just make sure that the situation is the way you want it to be and that in 3 years you wont wish you hadn't done it. Make sure that you wont have any regrets. I didn't wait for marriage and I'm not killing myself over the fact that I didn't wait, but I am over who I lost it to. And as young as people are losing it these days, 19-20 is pretty old. But overall, my advice to you is to make sure YOU are ready.
2007-03-20 04:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by en.williams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U sound like you are at the right age to do so, most girls have sex around 15 yrs old.
Guess there is no regrets about losing it before marriage,cause if you wait til after marriage sometimes, it doesn't work out and then u end up in divorce.
Just relax and go with the flow
2007-03-20 04:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you seem a mature person, and the actual age is not a mesure of that. if you feel you are ready, you love him, he loves you, then it's fine. as for the problem of waiting until marriage. you don't need to wait until marriage, you wait until you find your special someone. if now it seems that he is the one, than do it. People only regret loosing it before marriage, because of two reasons: they weren't ready or they didn't love the person deeply enough. if you are a religious person, think like this, marriage is between two people, not between you and god, if you love this person, than you are connected with him. and it's perfectly natural to have sex with him. even if you don't marry this guy, it will remain a nice memory.
2007-03-20 04:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no young and old when it comes to sex...what matters is, can you handle the result after doing it? Just by simply asking your question in this room...it signifies that you are not ready even if you think so you are. Otherwise, if you truly are ready to do it, you should have not let anyone know about it and you just did. You are afraid yet...think about it
2007-03-20 04:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Maricor D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 15, could have waited. Looking back now, we really didn't know anything about pleasing each other. I would suggest that if you feel ready and comfortable with your partner, go for it. Just ask him to be slow and gentle and once you don't feel "weird", ask him to go a little faster. I'm sure you'll enjoy that. Then, learn about each other. The best sex is through education. Be safe!
2007-03-20 04:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing with most young girls who think that they r really "ready" is that they r only ready cuz they dont wanna lose their bf. i understand completetly if u KNO in ur heart u r ready.... becuz its ur body and nobody make u do something u dont want. love is also an issue. be sure that in the future u wont look back on this (unless ya'll r still 2gether, that would be awesome.) and think it was the biggest mistak eof my life. jus tak eit slow and think about it. also save it for somethin special. like anniversary. jus sayin! good luck! ;)
2007-03-20 04:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, sex before marriage is fine. One thing I strongly urge though, is that the person you choose should be a person you truely love.
2007-03-20 04:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Harry D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋