my ex and i broke up three weeks ago. the last time we had sex he pulled out. i thought nothing of it but now im 3 maybe 4 days late for my period. i dont know what to do. i love him, but he told me he wants nothing to do with me. he doesnt know about this. but im only 18 and not to ready for a baby but im agenst the ways og getting rid of it. he is also 39 with two kids of his own. should i be worried. what do i do?
2007-03-20 04:19:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and if i am going to have his baby i dont want to give him/her up
2007-03-20 04:30:03 · update #1
You have reason to be worried or you wouldn't have posted the question-for 3 maybe 4 days late I'm reading 4 maybe 5.
You need to go and get yourself a pregnancy test. If you can, get one that literally spells out to you 'pregnant' or 'not pregnant'. That way there's no room for 'am I?, aren't I?' with little lines/crosses and stuff.
If he is 39 and has two children already then he should be more than aware that it only takes one swimmer to make a baby-and that 'pulling out' is not a reliable method of contraception-shame on him(and you, but he's a fully grown adult-he is literally old enough to be your dad for crying out loud).
If the test comes back 'pregnant' then you really need to start talking to him regardless of whether he 'wants anything to do with you' at the moment because if you decide that you're continuing with the pregnancy then he's going to have reason to talk to you for the rest of your natural life.
If the test comes back 'not pregnant' then breathe a huge sigh of relief and next time you're tempted to 'paddle without wellies' think about how you feel right now and DON'T!
2007-03-20 04:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your cycle is usually like clockwork, being late 3 or 4 days doesn't necessarily mean you're pregnant. Take a home test, and go from there.
If you are pregnant, and you don't want to have an abortion, you need to let the guy know. Even if he doesn't want to have anything to do with you, he has a right to know he's half responsible for bringing another kid into the world, and his response might affect your decision.
If he doesn't want the baby either, you can either give the baby up for adoption or keep it. If you decide to keep it, he's financially responsible for the baby whether he wants to be in its life or not, so be prepared to get a DNA test to prove paternity, and go to court.
You say you aren't ready for a baby, and I agree that raising a child at your age is a challenge, but women have done it before. Hopefully you have the help and support of family and friends if you decide to go that route. I hate to say it, but your very own words give one of the reasons why people shouldn't have sex until they're married. There's no 100 per cent sure-fire way to keep from becoming pregnant or getting a disease except for abstinance.
And for some reason you didn't have the confidence or the self-love and self-concern to insist on protection. If you dodge the bullet this time, I hope you won't make the same mistake again. I hope this serves as a wake-up call for you.
2007-03-20 11:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your doctor check to see if you are pregnant. Withdrawal is not effective birth control, so you could be pregnant. I think that 39 year old man is disgraceful to exploit an eighteen year old girl. You also made a big mistake, my dear. You had unprotected sex, which is risky. You have to take some responsibility in this too. You took on an older man with two kids and now that he has had his fun he wants to move on. Many others have made that same mistake and now you will have to grow up. If you are pregnant, you need to prepare to battle in the courts to have this man support your child if he refuses to be responsible. Since he did play, he must pay.
2007-03-20 11:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a pregnancy test. "ept." has one that can tell real early. If you are, you could keep it & he'll have to be resposible by ordered by the courts, if you seek child services financial help. Too bad if he already has some kids. He deffinately knew the consenquences from his own experiences of fathering. You could also give it up for adoption & it will grow up w/ abandonment issues of you throwing it away. You too, knew better, so live up to your responsilities. First, go get a pregnancy test. Then, get on the pill. Also use condoms so you don't get HIV. Condoms are free at your local health clinic.
2007-03-20 11:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O honey,, where are your parents.. what the hell are you doing with a sick perverted 39 yrd old sleeping with a baby. I think you should talk to your parent or someone you trust cuz it seems like you are looking for a daddy or something. I'm sorry. I hope that you are not pregnant. You still have your whole life ahead of you to get mixed up with a petifile bastard.
Suggestion is get on birth control and use condoms.. and never again sleep with that OLD MAN(VIEJO). AND go to a planned parenthood and get checked for pregancy and STDS. Sorry sweetie. He is taking advantage of your innocence. Be smart and realize that there is something definitely wrong here.......
2007-03-20 11:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is old enough to know better. What the hell is a 39 year old man doing with an 18 year old? If you are only 3-4 days late I wouldn't worry about it just yet. Is he married? How old are his kids?
2007-03-20 11:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by youstillcantsee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stress from the break up could cause your periode to be late. Best advice is to get a blood test to determine if you are in deed pregnant. Even things you eat could make you late. I think you should find out before you worry your self to death
2007-03-20 12:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do not want to keep the child, you can give it up for adoption. if he wants nothing more to do with you, then you are on your own. don't involve him in your decision making. it will only cause you added stress. but start by finding out if you are indeed pregnant. either go to the drug store and get a home test or make a doctor appointment. if you are not pregnant, get on the pill or some other form of birth control.
2007-03-20 11:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by luvbuggies 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to go get a test now. And it does not matter that 1) he pulled out (all it takes is one drop of pre ***) and 2) he has kids and does not want more. If he gets you pregnant, he is responsible no matter what he feels. Hope your not, for your sake.
2007-03-20 11:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get checked and if you are it sounds like youre gonna keep the baby. if you do all you have to do is go to court and get child support. he may not want to have anything to do with the baby but hes still gonna have to pay
2007-03-20 11:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by hello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋