When I was 14, I was introduced to this girl by a friend at a different school, we went out..then finished..then went out..more.....until it ended....Then when I was eighteen I met her again and it was like the good old times...and we slept together a few times...and yes I did not wear a condom ( Stupid I know )...It then fizzeled out......I went out for the night and her sister was there and a few of her mates who were of course staring at me...( The girl dumped me!! )..The sister tried to bottle me..how lovely!..I then left !...I spoke to my mate who introduced us in the first place and said that I had got her pregnant and she had an abortion..Why didn't the girl say anything to me??
2007-03-20 04:12:49 · 23 answers · asked by Jamie79 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one should really be angry at you if you have no idea. They didnt even give you the chance to do the responsible thing.
2007-03-20 04:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a number of reasons. One maybe she had hopes and dreams to accomplish and she felt it may change the out come. Another could be she just did not see her self committed to you in that way, also it could be that see may have thought you would reject her and claim it not to be yours. These a most of the reasons why. If she did not want to keep the baby she problem did not tell you in fear you would force her to keep it. In any case abortion is a hard thing emotionally to deal with and even though you too are not seeing each other any more I think you should be there for her emotionally, See if she needs a shoulder to lean on.
2007-03-20 04:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she felt too young to have a baby, there is nothing you can do about it after the fact so you must try to put it behind you. Her sister must know that you were in the dark about this so she should not have attacked you - how can you help something you knew nothing about?....but do learn a lesson from this and use protection.....for the sake of both parties and the unborn child.
2007-03-20 04:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably scared to tell you. If she was the one who broke up with you, she probably thought that you wouldn't care about her decision to have an abortion and wouldnt want to get invovlved with the child or maybe even want to keep it. It's a very hard question to make a judgement on, however it's not right of her friends staring at you and abusing you. Perhaps you may need to speak to your ex about the way they are treating you!
2007-03-20 04:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by missyemma02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not have thought that you would have cared about it.
What with the media and stuff boys are percieved as the type who would do a runner.
She was probably scared and frightened.
Or maybe simply wanted it gone so bad she didnt feel the need to tell you cause it was going to be gone anyway.
if it bothers you alot, i'd talk to her. but approach it carefully. Say you heard about it and you would have helped/supported her if you knew.
good luck
x
2007-03-20 04:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by tablesalt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she didn`t want to have the baby, cause she might thought she needed more time for her, or she is still into some other things like her profesional developement and personal grow before babies, so she considered it was better to take her desicion instead of telling you, cause it would have made things more difficult for you and her, she thought it was her baby, that`s what I think, and well too, she might have been afraid of your rejection and not having your support, so she decided for her own good, maybe she thought you wouldn`t support her, when things like that happen we get very frightened really.
2007-03-20 04:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Madison♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she didnt want any second oppinions and jsut did to get on with her life. U have been stupid not using a condom at all with her, she should have talked to u about it as it u who fathered her. Only thing I can say is try and find a way to talk to her about this, AND NO SEX
2007-03-20 04:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probably afraid to say anything, seeing as you'd broke up and she probably though you wouldn't want anything to do with the baby. It was wrong of her not to tell you but i can see her point. The sister sounds a bit nutty though. Maybe you're as well off out of that family.
2007-03-20 04:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by kit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple- she would have been very very scared. becoming pregnant when you dont want to be has got to be the hardest thing to cope with. imagine the thought of bringing a new life into the world, and not being sure that you want to do that. could you take the responsibility? i hope this helps you understand why she couldnt tell you.im sorry.
2007-03-20 05:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she thought u just saw her as casual sex and if she had told u what happened you wouldnt be intertested or else she didnt feel ready 2 have a baby and felt she couldnt talk 2 u...its a delicate subject and only she has the answers i suggest you try talking to her not an easy thing to go through
2007-03-20 04:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she didn't tell you because it was probably a lie, if a girl gets pregnant the first thing you do is tell the father,because it is his problem too and the fact that she didn't tell you could mean that it wasn't yours or she wasn't pregnant in the first place and were just lying, don't worry about it i.m sure u can find a decent girl one day..
2007-03-20 04:21:58 · answer #11 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋