My mother is not only a Christian, but she is a Pastor.. I, too, am a Christian.. I am true in my faith and do not deny her her right to her beliefs...but I feel that she carries it too far at times....
I just sent her an email to let her know that I had to put my very sick 5 mos old kitten to sleep yesterday...a kitten that I had helped to deliver and was ver special to me..
Her email back to me was, to me, very hurtful... She said that "though it wasn't written in the word, she believed that there was a "pet heaven" and that we would someday see our pets again...and that if I kept my faith, I would see her again some day" and then she went on about my b/f...saying that "just because he went to a Catholic School, does not make him a Christian"... Well, duh!! That is our belief.. but he is not a bad guy and he supports my beliefs...actually almost going with me a couple times..but what does that have to do with it?? I needed my mom, not my pastor... Why can't she see that???
2007-03-20 04:12:41 · 13 answers · asked by Termite 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I thought that was the purpose of this site, was to ask questions and get answers.... I asked the question because I JUST got the email and it upset me... I have wanted to talk to her about this for some time, but not sure how to bring it up...and asked here first, because I didn't know if I was being selfish..or if others had opinions... Thanks to those that have an honest, non-sarcastic answer...
2007-03-20 04:31:05 · update #1
I have been praying about b/f and have been "putting my best forward" for him to see how much it has helped me...but I also know that it is ultimately a decision that he has to make in his own heart and I refuse to push away a good, honest, faithful b/f, because of this... One thing, to me, has NOTHING to do with the other....
2007-03-20 05:03:44 · update #2
Tell her how you feel. She's your mother first, a pastor second, as far as your life is concerned. Let her know that it her remark upset you and that sometimes you just need the mother in her to comfort you. So sorry about your kitten, I know it's hard to lose a pet that you love. I believe in a pet heaven, too.
2007-03-20 04:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by leslie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell her that you don't want to talk to her as a pastor that sometimes you need a mom to just hug you and be a mom! maybe she doesn't understand how you feel, do you have an aunt or grandmother you can go to? I wish you luck, that is what I want I am 45 and I still want my mom to be a mom, just haven't got there yet and sometimes I feel it will never happen, you'd think she would have been there when my baby was born but no she was too busy with her own life i blame it on her mother, but I want to be the best mom for my daughter and you better believe God willing I will be there for my little girl, I guess I am trying to be the mother to my daughter that I wanted from my mother, sometimes we just have to let go and can't change the past and wounds just don't heal, maybe your mom doesn't know how to be a mom.
2007-03-20 04:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people have a hard time saying the right thing. I'm sorry you lost your kitty cat; it's always hard to lose ones we love. At least give your mother credit for telling you about a pet heaven. From this, you know she was trying her hardest to say the right thing to comfort you.
Why she added on the other stuff about your boyfriend is beyond me. Don't feel bad, my grandmother does the same. Starts off with the best of intentions and then jumps on her soap box.
2007-03-20 04:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by KS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 04:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by trip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe point her to the New Testament, where Paul says that Christians who disagree on minor issues should not judge each other or try to force their beliefs...
BUT...
Maybe you should also read the passage asking "what fellowship has light with darkness," then again, maybe you could be a good witness to your b/f, so I don't know.
2007-03-20 04:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what belief you are if you keep alive inside you and live on what's right that's, all that matters. And next time, tell your mom you need HER not a pastor. Good luck!
2007-03-20 04:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Spring loaded horsie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that! You need to let her know what you are thinking!
My Mother took great pride in herself in knowing when to be my Mother and in Knowing when to be my friend..
Your case is the same...You need to sit down and tell her EXACTLY that...That sometimes you need a MOTHER and sometimes you need her as a Pastor, but they are two different roles and she needs to respect that you need those two different parts of her....
2007-03-20 04:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by January00 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that, just the same way you explained it to us. Maybe she's just too close to the problem, and cant see the forest because of the trees in the way.
2007-03-20 04:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people have problems stepping out of their professional roles....even when it comes to something as personal as family. It's a shame.
2007-03-20 04:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well written.
I think you should return her email, apologizing that you had accidentily mailed it to your pastor, when it was ment for your mother.
2007-03-20 04:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by mgerben 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋