my 3 yr old wont stay in her own bed HELP IM GOING MAD?

Question

she goes to sleep about 8 o clock then by 11 or 12 will cary on and get into my bed but then will sleep fine i dont mind the odd oneoff but been going on for months,its got that bad her dad has to get up and go sleep in her bed while she sleeps with me its not good any ideas what i can do?

i have tried night light taking her to docsleaving main light on sleeping with her then creeping out etc she just a very clingy child thanks for the answers though im going to try that thing is i got a dislocated knee at moment so getting up to her al the time is a struggle and im on my own through the week ??

Answer 1

I would have said put her back in to her room and stay till she's asleep but after reading the extra bit you put in i see you can get up to her every night and that she's clingy, have you yet tried her with a big teddy that has your smell on it or some of your perfume in it, could it be she needs to cuddle up to your smell.

Answer 2

See if you can find out why she is doing it? She might benefit from a night light in her room or some other simple solution. If not, providing you have made her bedroom as safe and comfortable place for her as possible and she is not upset about some other problem, given her quality time (story, cuddles etc) before bed, I would just calmly return her to her room as many times as she needs to stay. You will probably end up with a few very very sleepless nights at first, but she will soon figure it's not really worth it. This is the technique touted by supernanny, but it was done long before she made it work, and with a 3 yr old it shouldn't take so very long to begin to benefit from it. Just be kind and caring and firm- it might be a good idea to try this at the w/e just in case you have to get up many times in the night!

Answer 3

You can read books with her about how to learn to sleep in their own bed. Most children are accepting of leaving the parent’s bed between ages 2-3. You should wean her to stay in her own room. Start with a futon or pad on the floor in your room, let her know that Daddy sleeps with Mommy and that she is going to need to sleep on that for a while, not in bed with you. After a while if she still won't sleep in her own room, you might want to try taking her somewhere like Toys R Us and letting her pick out a bed and matching lamp. Think Barbie, Dora, etc. Another trick I've used is turning the light on, and telling them that if they wake up and the light is still on, then it is not time to get up yet. Around 5 or 6 (or whenever you want her to get up), sneak into her room and turn it off. You can also buy a timer for lamps if you would like. Just let her know that Daddy's too big to sleep in her bed, and that sort of thing. If it just will not stop, try talkign to her doctor.

Answer 4

Do you ever watch that Nanny 911 show? There was a similar case that she was dealing with where the little girl wouldn't stay in her own bed. Put her to bed a couple hours before you go to bed at a set schedule every night. The first two times she gets up the Nanny said to tell her she needs to stay there. If she keeps getting up, immediatly take her back w/o saying anything at all, but be stern with it. Also, it helps to make her like her own bed. Decorate it with things she likes and tell her it her own princess bed.

Answer 5

No, no ,no. You need to be firm with her the first couple of nights. Stick her in her bed and tell her not to get up(in a firm voice), if she does get up stick her back in her bed and walk out of the room. She will be upset at first but she will get the idea and probably cry herself to sleep the first night. You need to get a routine down. My daughter's is bath, book, bottle in bed. She goes to sleep at 8 and does it without a fight, she is 2. She used to sleep with me too, but i'm happy she sleeps in her own bed because i have time to myself again once she is in bed. You can do it, it's going to be a little difficult at first bc ur going to want to stay in the room with her but don't she will be fine. I find that a soft lullaby CD and a night light helps too. Good Luck.

Answer 6

just keep putting in her in her bed eventually she will figure out that you won't let her sleep in your bed and stay in hers. You could also try putting her to bed a little later at night. Just make sure you stick with it once you start it'll probably take 2-3 nights to break the habit.

Answer 7

Is she scared of the dark if so show her you are checking her room and she is ok other wise when she gets up and goes into your bed you get up put her back in her bed and sit with her till she goes back to sleep let her know that she is a big girl and she need to sleep in her bed don't say it mean like get down to her level and talk to her.

Answer 8

keep picking her up and move her back t her bed no matter how many times she gets up no matter how loud she crys she needs to learn you are mommy and what you says go. You have to be constant the fist few nights you do this you might have to get up 30 - 100 times! But you got to do it.

Answer 9

welcome to the world where toddlers rule!!!...membership of millions.
My little one tried that and even smashed her head into the stair gate and broke teeth and was covered in blood, no pleasant. I tried everything I could and eventually she grew out of it.
You will have to keep trying but try to stop her from getting in her bed as that aint good for you and the other half.
good luck.

Answer 10

When she comes to get in your bed immediately take her back to her bed and leave her there. My daughters both come to my room sometimes and I refuse to let them in my bed.