My friend, who was about 9 years old,at the time is the subject. A boy a few years older than her use to give her wedgies, put something down her underwear, or pull her underwear back and poke her. He never inserted his finger inside her butt or tried to feel her vaginia. It seemed to her he wasn't doing it in a sexually pleasing way (he wasn't grabbing anything, just poking her), but to simply annoy her. She did, in a way, tell him to stop after two occasions, by simply sitting on a chair with a back on it so he couldn't give her a wedgie etc.. He did stop, and anytime she has seen him, he's been fine (I have seen that myself).
I ask this because of the growing number of child molestors out there.
2007-03-20 04:07:08 · 10 answers · asked by Katie F 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Katie, this is normal childhood stuff. In my opinion even a little bit of touching/feeling is normal. These are young kids. They don't know what is appropriate.
However, there does need to be supervision. Kids "play" can go too far. Kids have a right not to be touched inappropriately, but don't take it overboard.
2007-03-20 04:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Just bullying. Possibly a crude way of expressing a passing romantic interest.
I'd argue that molestation would have to be an attempt to satisfy sexual appetite or to live out a sexual fantasy. If the boy is under the age of thirteen I'd have to rule that out as being highly unlikely as a motivation.
I've heard of little kids being charged with sexual harassment because of adult overreaction to juvenile behavior engaged in by minors ignorance of any sexual context.
Not to say kids don't do provocative things in trying to penetrate the web of secrecy around sexual matters or to pretend knowing about or exercising questionably obtained knowledge about such things trying to affect the appearance of maturity without the substance of it.
2007-03-20 06:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by corvis_9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this much,Jimmy Swaggert had a fetish in that direction.He ruined his reputation over that obsession.Does that make a child," a potential molester" ?Where do you think he learned the behavior from?Another thing that bothers me is that irregardless,it is just mean to do something like that.He learned it from someone with cruel intentions.Why would anyone teach a boy to do that to a girl.Perhaps these actions are the beginnings of evidence of abuse for the boy who in turn abuses someone weaker than him.
2007-03-20 04:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Robert C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think molestation needs to have a sexual nature - and those actions did not sound sexual to me. Also the other person was a child not a stranger or an adult. Sounds like regular old childhood games to me!
2007-03-20 04:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he likes her, and the only way he thinks he can get attention from her, is too tease her etc..(because she's 9 yrs old, and he probably doesn't want anyone too know). That given the reason why he stopped when he realized how much it bothered her!
2007-03-20 04:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read this question 3 times & decided there is just too many details missing to give a proper answer.
it almost sounds like someone wants to make an issue where there might not be one.
2007-03-20 04:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boy was a bully. He enjoyed pestering and annoying a child. It wasn't sexual, just mean.
2007-03-20 04:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its bullying...but not really sexuall aggressive behavior
2007-03-20 04:12:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lioness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sound just like fun and games to me. And she did ask him to stop and he did.
2007-03-20 04:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be a question for a counselor, not yahoo answers...
2007-03-20 04:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by Its me!!! :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋