Advice Please?

Question

I was dating this guy for about 3-4mos, and in my entire life i've never had anyone treat me so horribly for no reason at all. I feel like i'm a good person, when in love i'm faithful, i don't argue a lot as long as i'm happy and your happy i just go with the flow, I work 8hrs, a day, and i'm currently enrolled in school two days a week. Now where i'm from that's rare because most women my age(23), lay up all day waiting for the first of the month to receive walfare, and watch soap operas all day. I do have a 6 year old son, but he's well taken care of and get's plenty of love. My question is Why was he's such an a** Hole? He never wanted to spend time with me, I had to practically beg him to have sex with me, and he never called, He was also a DJ at this club that me and my friends go to some time, so i asked him to get us in free, he said yeah, but when we got 2 the club, i was so embarassed because my name wasn't on the list. Why was he so cruel to me, i just can't understand why?

And for the record I'm a very attractive person, because men are constantly asking me for my number, I am though a plus size woman, so maybe that has something to do with it, but he knew that when he asked me for my number.

Maybe your right. He wasn't that attractive, and it wasn't because he was a DJ, it was because he worked, he took pride in himself, and he seemed like a nice guy.

Answer 1

Lol when you have to reinsure people that your attractive and you just got away from an ****** like there your dealing with some inter security issues. And I bring that up because thats the point. You insecure and he took advantage of it. I mean honestly I've got alot more respect for myself (i'm homlie for all that matter here) and I wouldn't deal with that for a week better yet 3-4 mos. I mean was it all because he was a DJ? Honest now why would you deal with that much crap was he just that cute and you were blinded by that? But yea you make yourself a victim and you'll find victimizers is what it comes down to. I mean I could go into how he doesn't know how to emotionaly bond with people but then again I don't know it could of been you, I mean you dealt with a loveless relationship for what? Ether way your doing great, your a good person, now make sure the people in your life treat you that way, its call compassion and its one of main branches of true love. Next time you don't feel it leave, its not worth it to try and understand why he couldn't love you thats would envovle you getting to know him more then he deserves. Take this as a lesson learned; We Pay The Price For Not Loving Ourselves.