Is this a sign of getting over a guy you have had a crush on for over a year?

Question

One week I can not even think of him The next week he is all I can think about.

One day I attentionally ignore him.
The next three days I watching him like a hawk.

One day I am not concerned he breaks his promises.
The next day I am pissed at him for this.

He constantly flirts and what not. Do you think that he makes it hard for me to get over him.

And he knows I trying to move on. We do not have a romatic relationship, we are just friends who work together. It seems at times he want to get serious. Realy need some advice!

Answer 1

back as far off as you can
if you dont then you'll end up back with him
tell him he needs to back off to

Answer 2

this is a hard one for you to deal with considering the history between the two of you. not least because you have to see him at work.
you need to forget him and find a guy you can obsess over. make anotherguy a better guy the object of your desire.
if your ex wanted a romantic relationship with you he would have made that clear by now, he would have asked you back, begged forgiveness for what he may have done in the past (even if he was not the reason you broke up).

but that depends on him and his personality, and how he was raised by his parents.

you are going to have to make it clear to him that you want everything or nothing to do with him (your question does not make it clear if you really want to get over him or you want him back). only you know what is right for you.

As far as this being a sign no. if you were over him or even starting to you would not give a damn about him as far as if he smiles or not, speaks or not to you etc.

if you and he are now only work mates then his smiles etc may just be a way for him to keep the work place relatively pleasant. though this is clearlly a torment for you.
if you suspect that he still has romantic feelings for you and he has made advances to that effect during work hours then see your boss and report him for harrasement.
you may like to see if either you or he can either change shifts so you are not in the office at the same time or if your firm has multiple locations see about getting you or him transfered.

but as long as you see him everyday you are only prolonging your agony which will make getting over him harder and take longer.
There is a reason you are not together anymore, remind yourself of that reason and next time you see his face remember the anger and pain he caused you. visualize something that simbalizes that hurt, see his face morph in to that image. (say if he got abusive see him as angry and agressive).
the above is said to work from what i have read over the years. and to be honest i do not know if the visualisation technique works, i have never had to try it.

to be honest if he is still firting with you he may be attempting to get you back. you need to ask yourself do you want him back?
is he worth the hassle?
i'm sure you have a million of questions to ask yourself about this guy.
just remember if he hurt you once he is likely to hurt you again (emotional or physical).

if you do not want him back then you have to turn your obsession to someone or something else!

good luck.