Missing bottle of liquer found in daughter backpack?

Question

My husband has a room where him and his buddies hang out he put's the liquer high on the shelves well a bottle went missing and he just figured his friend might have finished it well yeaterday my 5 year old found it in my 13 year old backpack and she is saying she found it under her bed and put it in her bag to bring to us but she forgot I do not believe her my husband say's it look's about the same but it could be watered down I don't know what to do other than ground her and take away possesions what do you think?

I'd like to say my husband and I aren't heavy drinker's maybe twice a year we may drink it was a left over bottle from last August and the other's are unopened it's really mostly for friends.

Answer 1

Well--you don't want to jump to conclusions--but your daughter's answer is pretty sketchy..I would keep a very close eye on her--check out her friends-what her after school activities are--Are you very lenient with her?..Are her friends the type of kids who try to show off or try to be popular, etc?...The kind that mature too fast--wear makeup--plan parties, etc?...Actually--any kind of kid can be interested in drinking---Hmmm..I would be worried--keep a very close eye on her..and unexpectedly drop by her school or plan activities with her after school so that you know what she is up to--If nothing is going on--good-- you will be relieved-But if something is--you need to catch it ASAP--alcoholism is a dangerous disease and yes--scarily enough-it does often begin with kids sneaking away their parents liquor...And don't be afraid to snoop or spy on her--that's your right and your job as her parent--You are there to protect and guide her--Good Luck:)

Answer 2

Im sorry to say but her story dosent sound like the truth. I would try sitting her down and try to get the truth out of her. Also have you husband teast the liquer to see if it is watered down. If you can get the truth tell her your going to have to talk away something. Like if she ahs an TV in her room take that out or an radio in her room take that out or even talk her she cant go on the computer. Only take it away for a week. hope this helps!
Also tell your husband to lock up his liquer from now on!

Answer 3

I remember being 13 and trying to be a big girl and sneaking in my mothers liquor, the first time I drank it I was sick! Maybe she just wanted to know what it was like to drink it. Just sit down with her and tell her when she is old enough you will allow her to try it and only then, it is not meant for a child. Tell her the ups and downs of drinking. The sickness the stupid things people do. My mom was mad at me but she understood because it loOKed cool because everyone was doing it {adults}. The drinks was fruity so I thought it was ok for me. At first I thought wow this is good, then it started to taste bad and then I got so sick and didn't try it again.

Answer 4

She is 13. Talk to her about it. At that age you begin to wonder, and seeing family & friends drinking at gatherings makes you curious. Talk to her about what it means to be respondable. That she is young now, and drinking is something when she is of age and understands how liquer can infulence ones behavior, and actions then the time will be right for her to try then. She is at that age when they are trying to sneak things around behind your back. Just talk to her and keep it open, so that when she faces other situations that kids face around these ages that she can talk to you. Do not cross the line between friends and parent. Do be the parent.

Answer 5

If your husband says it's the same amount, you should trust them both. Test if it is watered down, you will know if it's not as strong.
If it isn't watered down, I think that you should trust your daughter and leave it alone. If she did take it, she hasn't drank it so she must have realised what she was doing and planned on putting it back.
If it is watered down then punish her how you see fit.
Don't over react. Most teenagers try alcohol, I did at 13. Just keep an eye on your alcohol in the house to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Answer 6

Your daughter is in trouble for lying and stealing a bottle of liqueur and you still want to believe her. She does these things because you and your husband let her get away with them. She needs to be severely punished.

You and your husband are responsible for keeping your children out of dangerous substances; If she gives alcohol to her friends and anything happens to her or her friends; then you and your husband are responsible for damages and destruction, illness or death of any kids she gives the booze to....... and you two adults can arrested and/or she might be taken out of your home by child authorities.

Get serious and get her straightened out because she may be on drugs as well.

Answer 7

And it got under her bed how? I would ground her, but I would also give her the talking to of her life. At 13 she is going to experiment, but she needs to know the dangers of it. When my brother in law went through this stage, we marked all the bottles with a marker, then locked them up. So we knew if they were touched.

Answer 8

I would definitely explain to her why drinking alcohol at her age is not a good idea. Maybe hide or put away the liqueur completely until they are older? Someone close to me drinks quite often and as a result his kids see it and I think it sends the wrong message about alcohol. Out of sight, out of mind.

Answer 9

I agree that you should preach by example...
there is NO drinking at my house period...if I please to have a cold beer or a few rums...I go to a bar with my friends...which also rarely happens..I think spending money I need on drinks is crazy....anyhow.. I will not have my 8 yr old boy see me drinking or having liquor bottles at my place...something for you to think about..kids are kids..and u both as parents..should take some responsility for th curiosity your child has..its normal for her to go through a curiosity phase...talk with her..DO not ground..her..if she sees u both..laughing up with friends and drinks..its ONLY normal she wants to try some of that...and experience too..careful with what u got at home..u got kids..to set an example to...good luck..and do not be to hard on her....u need to have her open up to you both..

Answer 10

I tell you what I think.
Don't blame her for something that her father is showing her how to do.
If this happened in my house, I would take full responsibility for it and I would get rid of the liqueur PERIOD.
How can you expect your kid to NOT DO something that your husband is doing all the time?
I don't drink liqueur, just wine occasionally, and we use it for cooking, but if I ever caught my kids drinking the wine, I'd take the blame for it and get rid of it. Better for me to abstain from it, and set an example for them that they can follow instead of expecting them to somehow understand that "Daddy is a role model when it comes to working hard, but not when it comes to drinking".