I met this cute guy in a club. he was so hot. we liked each other a lot. I told him i was a naughty girl and he said he was too. After weeks knowing each other, we had sex twice and yeah it was great, very passionate.
One day he told me that he really liked me a lot.
As i was leaving for another state soon, I told him we couldn't be together and he knew it from the vey start that i was only here for holiday and that i would leave soon. He said he'd wait for me till i got back again. I told him not to and i hoped he could get a gf.
It had been two months since i was gone. Now, I'm back again. I met him few days ago, He was happy to see me. We kissed, cuddled up and had quite a very emotional sex. He said he missed a lot and stuffs. But deep down, he knew i was leaving soon again.
The next day, He turned to be a total different person. He didn't reply my text messages. I called him, he was always busy to talk for more than 5 mins. He seemed avoiding me
2007-03-20 03:58:40 · 9 answers · asked by Lavender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was upset and confronted him. He said he couldn't take another time if i left him again. He said it was hard to forget me. He missed me a lot. He didn't want to see me anymore. He didnt want to let himself so into me that is making him so painful.
2007-03-20 04:00:22 · update #1
He said he wanted to end this.
Why did he do that..? We had good times together and great passionate sex. We kinda like each other a lot.
I'm so missing him. What's going on?
2007-03-20 04:01:43 · update #2
and NO, he doesn;t have a girlfriend. I'm sure of it. When I got back, he was so happy and couldn't wait to see me.
He just changed after that night we spent together,
2007-03-20 04:04:13 · update #3
Okay, here is the situation. You are starting to feel the way he was feeling for you when you left the first time. Because of his persistence and of his love for you, you ARE starting to have feelings for him. This is probably something you were never used to, so you are not sure what you are thinking about with this attraction.
I think the last time you two were together made him realize that you only wanted a sexual relationship with him-nothing else. Whatever you did or say to him made him think that you do not need a relationship as much as you need someone to knock your rocks off. That is why he is avoiding you now. Because I think he was hurt to realize that his feelings for you were more than you wanted.
Now, you are feeling exactly the way he is. So, move on. Why are you still thinking about a guy you knew you only wanted sex from and nothing else? He is doing you a favor by not answering your calls. So, do him a favor and not call. move on.
2007-03-20 04:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself why do you care if he treats you like this. I mean you said it yourself that you would be leaving and that he should get a girlfriend. You basiclly told him to get on with his life and you will see him when you see him. One thing you didn't count on was that he fell for you and hard apparently. This guy is feeling you deep and he knows that you are going to leave him again so before you can hurt him he is getting out. I can't blame him because no one wants to be hurt. So now you are kinda feeling him and wondering why is he doing this to you and treating you this way. Well, he told you: he feels you and misses you but he can't play the game anymore. He probably is hurting so much that just being around you is like teasing him knowing that he can't have you. You know you like him but the distance thing is a problem. If you can't do the distance the let him go and don't just want sex from him knowing that he wants more from you. He probably feels like you are using him to satisfy your needs. If you don't want him just leave him alone and move on. God Bless
2007-03-20 04:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems such as you have have faith subjects. i'm friends with numerous exes, and, the ingredient is, i'm no longer remotely fascinated in what got here approximately in the previous. that's achieved, and that i might fairly be friends. some persons are waiting to try this, and others are not. I used as much as now a guy who could no longer additionally be in the comparable room with an ex of mine without getting extremely indignant. That grow to be a undesirable relationship, and, because it grew to become out, HE grow to be the guy who could no longer be relied on, so I broke it off. My husband is acquainted with it is all in the previous, and he totally trusts me. we're not threatened by utilising the others' exes. that's severe high quality to be waiting to all get alongside nicely whilst on the comparable gathering. in case your guy is trustworthy, i would not concern. If he's spending time on my own with those ladies, regardless of the undeniable fact that, or seeing them without you modern-day, you could think of two times. in case you have been at the same time for a while and experience you relatively understand him, this could be plenty much less complicated than once you're in a sparkling relationship. terrific needs.
2016-10-02 10:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he really like you or maybe his feeling grow deeper.Maybe he has a very tough time the first time you had left him and when you came back he had proven to himself he can't afford to let you go again and because he know its impossible thing to do and ask you he would rather sacrifice to completely letting you go to avoid any deep hurt on each other side.Sometimes we must understand that letting go doesn't mean that you want to avoid the person or your not into her but letting go can also mean " i love you " .Better to talk to him,see him if he's avoiding you on the phone but first you hav eto make sure on yourself what you also want.Maybe its possible for both of you to meet on the common ground.
Good luck!!!
2007-03-20 04:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very common gimmick acted by guys all over world ( I mean not only to you ), to get what they wanted from a Gal. Once they are satisfied, they start avoiding and pretend to be very busy ( actually they are busy in search another gal ). Do not believe in " love at first sight ".
2007-03-20 04:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by manjunath_empeetech 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you don't understand why he is not talking to you right now. Maybe he's with another girl right now and answering your text messages would be weird? I think that you might have a little bit more feelings with him than you want to admit, especially because you care about him avoiding you.
2007-03-20 04:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stole his heart, broken wings. You hurt him. It became more than just casual sex to him, and now he wants to withdraw so it won't hurt any more. It is rare to find someone just for a sex buddy. They always want more. But that is in the nature of the game....
2007-03-20 04:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u hurt him when u left him its simple, and after spending that other night with yu he has realised that if u r leaving him again then if he tries to distance himself from you it wont hurt him as much (which if he cares 4 u as much as he says he does den that wont make a blind bit if difference) if u r leaving again explain 2 him how much u liked him but let him be if its only going to end up him being hurt again but if dares something more........den dont let it slip away..good luck
2007-03-20 04:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He used you for sex, he got what he wanted when you came back to visit and that is that.
2007-03-20 04:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋