have been with my bf for 2.5 months(i'm 21, hes24)I am his first gf in 2yrs When we first met i knew he really liked me.We hung out quite a bit at first,about 4 times a week.he took me to meet his parents & friends in the first few weeks.evrything was going great,but now i barely see him,hes ALWAYS out with friends and he drinks quite often.we live about 30 min away,and only i have a car.he really opened up to me one nite and told me how his ex cheated on him(i can tell this reallyhurt him).The amt of time we spend togther has been really bothering me.I see him once a week and we are usually with his friends or his parents.I talked to him last nite abt this and he was being very understanding but said whenevr hes changed for a girl shes screwed him over,so hes scared to get hurt again then he started to get kinda angry and said he wants space!I barely see the guy!He kept telling me last nite how much he cares about me.SO wats the problem?what should i do now?how do i give him space?
2007-03-20 03:44:37 · 15 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HE ALSO SAID HE WOULD CALL ME WHEN HE GOT HOME LAST NIGHT,SO HE COULD THINK ABOUT IT BUT HE NEVER CALLED!
2007-03-20 03:45:55 · update #1
hello??? why are you asking this exact same question for the past 3 weeks???
I think the boyfriend is OK you however are not
2007-03-20 03:54:37 · answer #1 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child 2.5 months and this is going on? Look take it like a soilder and move on before your feelings get deeper than what they are. The more you deal with him the more he's gonna string you alone. The hurt he's referring to in a past relationship could be true, but to be honest with you. He's using that as a way not to take on a full commitment to you. What about your feelings what about what you want. Girl, your already in this relationship alone. You said he kept telling you last night how much he cares about you. Yeah, right. You don't treat people you care about like that. Normally when someone cares for you they would put their wants and desires on hold just to please the other person. If he cared half as much he would want to spend more time with you just the same way you desire to spend more time with him. That's something you wouldn't have to ask of him or nobody that gave a damn about you to do. It's automatic. Drop that zero and get you a hero. He is to selfish and self centered. Let us know how it goes. Good Luck and God Bless!!!!!
2007-03-20 11:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three things could be happening.
1. Cheating on you
2. Cold feet
3. This is what he considers normal
Since you've talked already, and you're waiting on him to do some explaining, you've got some time to sit back and observe him.
Here are the obvious options you've got.
1. Work on your exit speech, primarily to find out why.
2. Work on your "This too shall pass" speech
3. Work on your "I need more" speech
2007-03-20 11:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable that he is scared. a lot of people who get hurt are scared, but you have to take the risk. but why should you sit there and wait to see him once a week, if he truly likes you like he says he would want to see you more. and alone. find someone else that you can have that relationship with. good luck.
2007-03-20 10:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently he really wants to be with u but he has been hurt in the past and this really affects him. show him that u r not gonna hurt him and that u really care for him. i he kees acting like this, let him know that this bothers u and no matter how hurt he was, he needs to consider ur feelngs as well. this makes u unhappy and he has to do something about this. its not just him in the relationship. chase this. make him make up his mind.
2007-03-20 11:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Joey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor, confused man. Give him space by not calling and not talking about his "issues". If he realizes how much he misses you, he'll come back. If he can't make up his mind, move on, you deserve more attention.
2007-03-20 10:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tolds you he wants space, there's no going back.
I'm sorry to say this, but maybe, he wants to lay off the dating scene.
It's only my opinion.
Good Luck =)
2007-03-20 10:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about the way he's been treating you and tell him if you two don't see each other them you'll have to find someone who does see you. But also tell him that your not trying to break his heart.
2007-03-20 11:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by echo b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl ...hez trying to break away from u gradually. and the more u pester him about it ...the more he will pull away.
what i would say is ...to relax and let him be. i know thats hard to do ...but it will help u . focus on ur own life...school and ur family. ignore him. if he really cares for u ...he'll come running back. its male psychology.
they always give more attention to people who ignore them ;) try it out. and relax.
2007-03-20 10:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by zjk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry he is or has decided that he no longer wants to be with you ---- it does not sound like you want him to change so that sounds like an excuse --- i would think when someone says they want space what they mean is they want to find someone else before they break up --- if he is not even caring enough to call you when he said he would ............. best wishes to you
2007-03-20 10:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋