boy trouble?

Question

argh well where do i start? last summer i got 2getha with this guy we were together for a while then it jus fizzled out, i would see him around and about and would say a polite hi etc, then new years eve i made the mistake of pulling him, ever since then every nite ive been clubbin weve hooked up, he says hell text /ring me the next day but he never does, last night the same thing happennend we hooked up he asked me 2 b his girlfriend and promised 2 ring me 2day yet again ive not heard from him, i know this is a vicious circle and i need 2 get out of it, any ideas? x

Answer 1

I am doing exactly the same thing! This lad iv known years and me have been at it most fridays when wev been out. Id be happy with much more! Its so hard coz I think to myself why am i letting him use me like this Im gonna stop. Its easy for ppl to say hes using u just tell him to f*** off. But its hard because even though u want to stop at the same time...u really dont. U think carrying on will start up the relationship again. But if hes anything like this guy iv been seeing he really is using you for sex! I hope you get what you want and all guys are the same 2 be fair hunny! Hope this helps xx

Answer 2

Sweetness-You have already answered your own ? Get Out of it. It is vicious, and you will gain nothing by this kind of relationship. You have a lot of better choices you can make than to get caught in this crap. He is using ! they are Fly-by NIghters. They don't last and they are not worth it. You sound young Baby so Please take it from a wise older women- You are beautiful and loved- you have gotten all these responses so that shows you we all care. Put some thought into what you want for your Life-Is this it? I know it isn't and you want better and Deserve it too. Good Luck Baby and Don't Let no stupid guy use you or abuse you. Walk with Pride and Ambition in your Heart and it will lead you down better Paths. You have alot of living to do- Now start and get out of this mess-Good Luck Baby and I Pray you make the right Decision!!

Answer 3

Let him know you mean busines. Don't go clubbing tonight go on a different night or don't go at all. Treat him how he treats you. Play hot and cold with him. One night be all flirty with him (but nothing too intimate) and then at the end of the night go home alone and leaving him wondering.

For him its easy. He can get what evern he wants from you when he wants it and you are living in a dream world acepting that hoping that one day he will call.

You have to get tough and actions speak louder than words.

Answer 4

Girl wants a relationship, Boy wants sex. Girl and Boy meet up every nite clubbin' then have sex. Boy does not deliver on his promises for relationship. If you don't mind having just the sex, sounds to me like you'll keep him around whether you're his girlfriend or not. It doesn't sound like you're going to get a committment out of this one.

Answer 5

Hi there Lisa are you not my mate? xx
You just need to say to him next time you don't want to go down the same road again. find some one who does want to be with you and have a relationship with you and not just a load of one night stands. You are better than that. Well if you like just the sex thing then crack on with it.
Just don't bother with him when you are out and pull some one else. He might then realise what his is missing out on.
Any way good luck and remember to have fun

Answer 6

It's clearly not going to work....the alcohol tells him one thing but sober he is a different person....now you are giving him what he wants when drunk he will keep coming back when in the same state....

Don't let spending time with him mean you miss out on Mr Right who could have been out there last night and you would never have noticed.....

Clearly you can't do casual...so why are you...? Come on girl snap out of it and let's see the real you back out there....hell I might come and find you!

Answer 7

He's just after sex hunni. You need to stop seeing him and start getting him out of your system. If he was serious about you then he'd call you when he said he would and would take things slower.

You also need to hold back. Don't give him sex when he says things like this. If he really likes you then he'll wait, if not then he's a prick and you're better off without him.

Answer 8

ok firstly, you need to stand up look at yourself in the mirror and say am i only good for sex?! the answer is no!!!!!

you deserve more than this. ok so sex is fun!!! but htere is more to life, each time you meet up with this guy and having sex with him is the wrong thing to do!!

you should just tell him next time you are not interested. try seeing someone else for the night, but hold back.

you know the old saying why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, well you are giving the milk away!!!!

you need to wise up and have more respect for yourself. this guy is not for you. you deserve someone who wants to be with you and does not lie to you!!

so next time your out, say no no no no

Answer 9

look firend love is a waltz a two together kinda thing and being that im not entirely sure where he or you stand i must admit one of you have to come to a common agreement and being that i only got contact of you as i write this i ask you to end that circle and to ask him if he find what you both have is real or just 4 kicks ....hope everything works out

Truly Blessed

Answer 10

he doesnt sound like a decent guy sweetie back off just say hi when you see him and thats it , you need to get out of this habit its not healthy. if he doesn't call you today you need to work on your own self confidence, next time you see him and he tries it on just say sorry you blew your chance with me and walk on that will hurt!