I like this boy and my parents approve of him. but they stick to their word and the boy and i have spoken to our parents and they said that it's all good, but we can't "date" until im 18 so we can only call eachother friends. what my parents dont know is that we say that we're dating and we act like it, too. My "best friends" act weird around me now and one of them is jealous and she wont admit it. this relationship between me and this boy has ruined my friendship between me and my friends. i believe that if she was a real friend she would be happy for me and put the past behind her (my boyfriend asked her to be his valentine when they were six and she is still dwelling on that. he has made it clear that he doesnt like her anymore). I cant keep this a secret from them for much longer... what should i do??
2007-03-20 03:33:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And my "best friends" will tell my parents that we're doing stuff that we shouldnt be if we're "just friends".
2007-03-20 03:36:00 · update #1
first of all you need to evaluate the friends you have. they seem so backstabbing. of course they should be happy for you. if you like this boy then be with him. don't let anyone dictate your life.
2007-03-20 03:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by destiney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My mom had the same no boyfriend until you are 18 rules that you have. I am not sure if it was so much of her not wanting me to get serious too soon as much as it was her not wanting me to have sex and get pregnant. She even got upset when boys called the house. I was so pissed off at her no boyfriend until 18 rules, but I am pretty sure that is she met a guy and approved of him she would've let me go out with him. The thing is I know she would have never approved of the guys I liked, so I would go out on "social gatherings" a.k.a a group date, with my friends and he would be there and we would eventually go off and do our own thing. I am not sure if this will work for you but it is really the only way to keep seeing each other without your parents knowing. As for your friends hopefully she will get over it soon, and if she doesn't I am sure you will be able to find better friends that support you, want the best for you and are not constantly thinking about themselves. My God it was 10 years ago, what is her problem.
2007-03-20 11:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by trinigal33167 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents just do not want you to be so serious about one person at such a young age. They want you to be able to have friends and experience life so that you may grow and learn who you are in order to make the best choices for your life. Apparently you are a decent level headed young person and may need to talk to your parents about this a little bit further, they appear to be open minded and have your best interest at heart.
2007-03-20 10:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal: Your friend SHOULD be happy for you. Sounds like she's not much of a real friend and you need to move on from her. Your parents SHOULD let you date, but their house, their rules. As much as it SUCKS you have to follow their rules unless you convince them otherwise. You can let them know that you are responsible, and nothing sexual is going to happen between the two of you, and then "prove it" to them. Really talk to them about it and let them know your opinion.
2007-03-20 10:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by KMChickk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends will come and go. A best friend is someone you can have for life. Are you going to marry this 'person'? Think about who is or could have stayed around longer. Who do you you want that to be? All this of course if they still won't accept it.
2007-03-20 10:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by jason_herren@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly.......all ur frends r jerks.. how cud they do this ? The gurl who is still dwelling on the old stuff is really gonna get u into trouble...betta be away from her...
Tell ur parents that u dont date but u love each other and cant stay FRIENDS any more..i hope they'll understand....'
and tell them abt ur frends and their jealousy..(Ok i know it sounds as if u cant do anythin widout ur parents but it'll help u and people;s complaints will feel useless...u understand wat i mean ??) All my wishes for u ..
luv and luck !!!!
2007-03-20 10:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥~Samantha~♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just have to prove to your parent that you can be responsible and I'm sure they will let you date.
2007-03-20 10:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you parents, trust them, they do have what is best for you at heart.
2007-03-20 10:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Quix 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋