............ that a man/woman has ever done to you that you have forgiven.
Doing some soul searching and I remember thinking as a young girl that I'd never put up with anything bad but ........ then you find out as an adult that love or whatever else gets in the way.
2007-03-20 03:23:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Got some interesting stories so far.
The reason I ask is because a friend is really down today and she's found out her ex is treating his new girl really well when he treated my friend really badly, she'd keep on forgiving and think he'd change when he never did. Just got me thinking about how much most of us will put up with at various stages in our life.
2007-03-20 04:41:08 · update #1
Breaking the bond or trust between you....
Whatever the event might be once it has gone it is impossible to ever get back completely as at the back of your mind there is forever an element of mistrust....
It might be lieing....cheating.......bad mouthing you....whatever.....it means the dream or ideal of the perfect relationship [yes they probably don't exist but we can all dream!] has gone........
2007-03-20 03:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Robbo31 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We will all go through lots of hurtful and painful things in life, especially in relationships,and when we are younger or even older say Oh I would never put up with that when we hear of someone else been treated badly, but guess what most of us do. I think it depend on the individual and how much they are willing to and are able to deal with. Some of us go to hell and back but still hang in there because of the love or need of someone. My first relationship and the father of my three kids treated me pretty bad, but at that time in my life I for what ever reason needed him in my life, alot of people go through one bad experience and continue to have distructive relationships through out there life as they find it hard to break the chain, for me I believe that everything in life good or bad is a lesson and you must take from that experience and grow and learn from it. I may be wrong but I feel the reason you are asking this question is because you are not happy with the way you are been treated by some one at the moment, my advice to you would be if it don't feel right or it's not good then change it if it is someone treating you bad then as sad as it is they are very unlikely to change we all like to think we can be the one who will change them but the reality is we won't and we can't try to keep positive and most of all strong this is your life and you have a right to be happy no one should take that from you if it feels wrong then chances are it is wrong use the experience and move on there is someone out there who will treat you how you deserve to be treated and will love you for who you are not who they want you to be we are all the making of our own destiny don't be another stastistic of bad behaviour live for you and enjoy who you are.
2007-03-20 03:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are things i have forgiven, like the sexual abuse from a best friends brother, and the rampant cheating of the girl i lost my virginity to, but i think you are asking about what is the most i could forgive someone and still be with them. in that case the most i have forgiven is one kiss, but it was very early on in a new relationship where exclusivity had only been discussed once. if you can't drop it, and by that i mean you argue with the person and you let that fly, you haven't forgiven them. i am a pretty jealous person so i think that is the most i could forgive and remain in a relationship with, but that's just me.
2007-03-20 03:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by brainedhead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignored me and discussed me with others. Just remember adult love is about loving yourself first. This is the gage of whether or not you will let someone walk over you or not. Self love will not tolerate the same types of things as someone who does not love themselves. With self love , you know that you are worthy of kind treatment and if you do receive that from someone, you will not have a problem letting the party know to hit the road. If you do not have love self, then you will tolerate negative behavior towards yourself because you feel as though you do not deserve any better treatment.
2007-03-20 03:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband left me for someone else, that was so very hurtful at the time. Thing is I have never forgave or forgot what he did to me and my 3 boys. Since that day, I find it very, very hard to forgive anyone. But then again, no-one has ever hurt me as bad as that.
2007-03-20 03:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worst thing that i have forgiven.... My ex-fiance, she verbaly abused me, because i didn't give her, her space. She broke an engagement because she needed some "alone time", she also lied and said it was because of what i did in my past. Nothing could be further from the truth. I think it is safe to say that she got "cold feet" and so she started sleeping with the first guy she met. All i do is love this girl. I don't know what else she was looking for. I had my life going pretty good when i met her. I was going to move down to Texas, When i fell in love with her and asked her if she wanted to go, she got very angry and upset and said no. So I didn't go.(by the way i was going to sign a recording contract with a major industrial label in Austin, Texas and continue on my way to being a musician) At this point i had thought about it, and so i asked her to marry me. She said yes. Well i bought her a cheap ring because it was kind of a spur of the moment thing(as most proposals are) and planned on getting her a new one. I got her a new one after she yelled at me for not getting her a real ring.
She also made me get my car fixed(somthing i wasn't planning on doing since i was moving to texas) and all the while (about 4 months) she said "as soon as you get that car fixed i'm marrying you babe" I thought that was awesome. I really want/wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl. So needless to say, i didn't have any money when i got my car taken care of. So she got on me, and yelled about my finacial situation. I have bad credit and I am working on fixing it, but it was always about her and I not "we" as far as finances go. She didn't want the apartment in her name when we moved out, she wanted mine and her's on it. and i said thats fine but were going to have to wait a little bit. So, now she doesn't have anything to get pissed about, so she starts in on me with my past, My past is Terrible. It's not somthing i'm proud of, and I should be in Jail right now. I went through 3 years of theropy to get over my past and only shared the Nesecities of it with her. She said she couldn't be in a relationship because of my past. That fu.cked me up a lot. Because not only is that not true but she went around town and told all of her good friends about it, which is understandable, god i wish i had a good friend to talk to. But it wasn't true and what she said was "I want sex, Sans Relationship"
I forgive her, I still am in love with her, I still want to be with her the rest of my life. and if friends is the only thing I can be with her... So be it. I don't want anything else.
I am over it, I've just made a decision. I don't need companionship if it isn't from her. My door is always open for her, when she decides what she wants. and when she realizes that the person i am now is not who i was 6 years ago. People change. People do things they aren't proud of. But TRUELY realizing what true love is. You would feel the same way my friends.
2007-03-20 03:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a few people in my life have done some really bad things to me in the past...i don't care about that, but when someone hurts my kids feelings and upsets them,...then i step in....it's not a case of forgiveness, it's a case of putting them straight and putting them out of mine and my kids lives....
2007-03-20 03:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf cheated on me with a girl 4 years younger then us I have finally forgave him but it took me 2 years to do that. Its been really hard but I realized that people make mistakes and that everyone deserves a 2nd chance.
2007-03-20 03:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf never calling me and then just calling me to get his last crush's number who happens to be a close friend of mine.
Of course, I dumped him afterward but forgave him for a while....
2007-03-20 03:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by marshimaro1993 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex of mine and I lived together and moved out of state together. When it was time for us to move out of our apt., he moved someone in without telling me and I moved alone.
2007-03-20 03:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by jrhod263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋