I am 16 and my sister is 13. She is always sad and say her life sucks. She says it is my responsibility to make her happy and make her have a better life because I am the older sister. I disagree with her. She is mad at me. She said "As the older sister, it is your responsibility to make your little sister happy. If you don't carry on your responsibility as the big sister, what is the point of me having a big sister. You are a bad big sister. All my friend's have older sister that make them have a happier life and I am the only one out of them that don't have that kind of an older sister. It is so unfair. If I have a little sister, I would do anything to make her have a happier life, even if it means that I have to sacrifice my happiness and life."
My sister hasn't spoken to me for 1 month because of that. She told my parents and they agree with her that her happiness is my responsibility. The problem is I disagree. What are they that way? What can I do?
2007-03-20 03:07:50 · 10 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is certainly not your responsibility to make your little sisters life happy. I do think as a big sister you do carry some responsibility such as being a good role model for her and maybe even including her sometimes in things you do with your friends. But that is very different than being responsible for her happiness. If anybody is more responsible it's your parents. Their job is to raise her with good values and beliefs to help her make it through life and make good decisions. Try to talk to your little sister and get this worked out between you. She does need you in her life but more as a mentor rather than someone to blame for her unhappiness. I hope you can work through this and be friends again. Good luck.
2007-03-20 03:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happiness is a choice, it's not your responsibility to make other people happy because it is only themselves who could make themselves happy and not somebody else. you as a big sister have the option to offer happiness to your sister by asking her out what it is she specifically wants to happen in her life to make her happy. and when she does know what kind of happiness she wants try to the best of your abilities to provide but not beyond your capabilities so as not to burden yourself with the disgruntle of others.
2007-03-20 04:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by tangerine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make anyone else happy, and your sister needs to realize this. So do your parents. Happiness is about wanting to be happy.
Besides, check the constitution. No one ever said anyone had the right to be happy, or be made happy. You (and your sister!!) have the right TO PURSUE happiness. That means she has the right to attempt to be happy. To try to be happy. To try to make herself happy. She doesn't have the right to demand that anyone else supply happiness for her.
2007-03-20 03:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister's happiness is her own responsibility. I feel like you are leaving something out....because her attitude and that of your parents makes NO sense unless you did something mean, hateful, or really selfish.
2007-03-20 03:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What sacrifice is she expecting you to make.
The thing is she is your sister for ever and you should make every effort possible to help her out.
if she is sad and unhappy maybe you should as her big sister show you love her by talking to your mother and father and see if they can get her the help she needs. it is after all your parents job to help them not neccesarily yours. though you should help out.
2007-03-20 03:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her whatever, it is not your job to make her happy in any way shape or form. You were there first, remember! I have a big sister, she never went out of her way to make me happy.
2007-03-20 03:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by HappyGoLucky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family time creates happiness.
2007-03-20 03:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can advise. You can listen. You can participate. You can be there. You can love her. Ultimately, her happiness is her responsibility and your parents obligation. She doesn't need to be dependent on you. She can look to you for advice but she needs to think for herself.
2007-03-20 03:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her to live her life, you have your own problems.
Consider getting emancipated.
2007-03-20 03:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no its up to her and your pearents
2007-03-20 03:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by brandon g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋