I'm 52 ,he's 58 both been in long term relationships, both divorced,been seeing each other for over 2 years, both love each other very much. One works nights , the other works days,we live in seperate apartments about 30 mintues away from each other. See each other on Friday nights into saturday mornings,sometimes Saturday all day until 5:30 when he has to go to bed cause he works Saturday night.See him some on Sunday until he goes to bed at 5:00 pm. Lunch on Wednesdays. Will it work? I'm starting to feel like I live two seperate lives and I want him more in my life. He's been at same job for over 20 years but its starting to take a toll on his physical health. He hates his job, especially since we met anyway. He made a resume to apply at jobs as they come up. What do you think? I ask him today if he thought we'd ever get married and he said" You never know what the future holds" Why are you proposing to me? How am I suppose to take that? I told him I would never propose to a guy.
2007-03-20 03:07:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not met any of my family except for one of my sons and my daughter,not anyone else I've met his daughter and two brothers and their families at Christmas.I also have gone to Nusing home and see his Mother whom doesn't know me anyway. My parents are both alive but I'm not on speaking terms with my Dad right now so thats a no-no- right now, Help ? Theres this other guy who says he's going to start pesueing me after he gets his broken leg well and he can drive again. I told my boyfriend that today. Did I make a mistake in telling him? I don't like keeping things from him but maybe I shouldn't have said anything??
2007-03-20 03:13:10 · update #1
He's not met any of my family except for one of my sons and my daughter,not anyone else I've met his daughter and two brothers and their families at Christmas.I also have gone to Nursing home and see his Mother whom doesn't know me anyway. My parents are both alive but I'm not on speaking terms with my Dad right now so thats a no-no- right now, Help ? Theres this other guy who says he's going to start pesueing me after he gets his broken leg well and he can drive again. I told my boyfriend that today. Did I make a mistake in telling him? I don't like keeping things from him but maybe I shouldn't have said anything??
2007-03-20 03:14:07 · update #2
I never done that, but I think that you should take it easy and let things happen naturally. He first need to get this burden off of him with his job and you should continue to show him support while he goes through that transition. I think that he was just joking about the proposal!!! Relax!!
2007-03-20 03:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by sweet p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though for now he has no intention of marrying anyone. You should realize that he is a long term bachelor and maybe he is content with his life except for his job. I think he is doing the right thing in looking for another job that could benefit his health more. As for his relationship with you it sounds as though he likes it just like it is for now. Maybe you do want more but the question is whether he really wants more of you right now. If he were in any way thinking of marriage I think he would have said that it is a consideration in the short run or maybe said to you that marriage is something he would definitely consider and that he loved you but this is something he did not say. You should think carefully about what he did not say rather than what he did say.
2007-03-20 03:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can work if you both want it to bad enough. Sounds like the marriage issue needs to be brought up carefully, and it sounds like you need some dramatic improvement with communication. Work on opening up communications with him, to where you to are REALLY connected. The goal is to be open and honest. Get some help with this if need be. It's an investment in your relationship. If you were to get married, would you want it to last??? Of course you would, so lay a solid foundation now, instead of trying to do it later after the house is built.
2007-03-20 03:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid of being hurt.
But you want the marriage. So screw it, propose.
If he says yes, then you'll adapt. If he says no, you might be able to retain the relationship. Sounds like what you have is "okay" but you want more.
He might not have more to give. But seems like he's not opposed it's just a big change for him.
Good luck. Sounds like you both really care for each other, just have some history to resolve.
2007-03-20 03:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is true the you never know what the future hold. Just give it sometimes things have their way of working out.
2007-03-20 03:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Tummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all the best dear, he needs you as much as you need him.
i wish you both the best of all times to come.
times change, and then you do change with time too, so thats y you proposed to him, for the affection that he shows to you.
go ahead dear
do it
2007-03-20 03:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
read the book "he's just not that into you" if you both want it bad enough it will happen
2007-03-20 03:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by RIP 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋