My twin sister & I NEVER got along, & it's like we're worst enemies. She uses me, takes advantage of me & cons & threatens me out of my $$, laughs @ me, beats the crap out of me, starts dangerous false rumors about me, & makes a fool out of me. & she also puts her husband before me. That causes to fuss & argue, sometimes FIGHT in extreme cases. We're 23 yrs. old & STILL get along like this. I try to make things work out, but her retarded husband instigates to hike things up & make things worse by lying & saying I said & did stuff I didn't do & say. & when he sees us fist fighting, he FALLS out laughing!
But they don't get along either. He beat her upside the head with a wrench during her 2nd pregnancy, & also he set her up to get raped, & he brags & boast about how he just married her for her military disabled veteran benefits. She STILL loves him & won't leave him. He's a free-loader. Love Sho'le is blind!
2007-03-20 02:59:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, there is obviously a problem here. tell your sister to sit her *** down for two seconds so you can talk to her, and ask her why you guys carry on like this??? twins are supposed to fight, but nowhere near like this kinda fighting. and about that "loving" husband your sister has, i'd report abuse to the police if i were you. i don't care what he or she thinks. thats wrong.
2007-03-20 03:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Krista Nielsen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is extremely common for ANY brothers and sisters to not get along.
As for her putting her husband before she is SUPPOSED to so long as she is putting up with that crap. As for that, until she wants to leave there really is nothing you can do but tell her how you feel and then leave her to it. You will only continue to let her pull you down with her. When she has enough, and it sounds like there are children involved now, she may leave, but sadly you can;t do it for her. Since there ARE children, you can call HRS, DCF whatever it is they have where you are, and at least get THEM out of the situation.
Best of luck! I'd suggest just backing away, letting her have what she has and doing the best you can for YOU.
2007-03-20 03:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of such a thing in my 22 years of living. My opinion to this is that your sister isn't happy with herself. As soon as you get to be alone with your sister you need to have a serious talk with her. Let her know that you love her with all of your heart and that youre trying to have the close relationship that you never had with her. Love her and learn how to deal with her. Think about all of the things that triggers the fights between you two. If you really want a relationship with her you must do this. Be a bigger woman and trust me you will see a change. It may take you staying away for a while.
Now, being used and conned out of your money is something different. If you're letting your sister use and abuse you the way you are, there's a problem within. You have to put your foot down and tell yourself that you wont continue being stepped on. There is a strong possibility that your sister is just not happy with her life and need someone to react on. You are that perfect person because you let her get away with it. I'm not saying that you should be evil, but a dose of her own medicine will break her real quick. She's just as human as you are and can't do anymore harm to you than you can do to her. You have to stand up for yourself and decide that you wont be 50 and still getting knocked around by your twin sister. I know that's your sister and you want to love and have a close relationship with her. But, let me tell you, nothing is gonna change until you change.
Another thing, don't broadcast her situation with her boyfriend because that is irrelivant right now. If it's that easy for her to let him lie and cause her to react on you, she's doing it to you because she can't do it to him. The best thing I can tell you is to keep your distance for a while and let her see how much she needs you. You two are adults now and you see yourself that it's time for a change. If she's not making the change, you make it. Be a woman and stop getting knocked around. I don't feel sorry for you, I think it's petiful that you are continually letting this happen after all of these years. Remember this: If your sister is as angry as you make her out to be, it's because she does'nt know how to reach out to you any other way. When a person isn't happy they'll do anything in there power to bring someone else down. But, it's up to that someone(you) if they let that happen.
If you have done all that you can do and there's still no change, you have got to go on with your life. You can't spend your entire life trying to do something you can't do. Live your life and make yourself happy and what ever you do, don't let your sister or anyone else knock you around anymore because you are not a punching bag. Find something that interest you and set some goals to achieve. Before you know it, your entire life will be done passed you by, due to trying to make something out of what you can't.
2007-03-20 03:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like you still care about your sister...
yeah, she is a pain but she is your twin sister and no matter what she does..tell her you will always be there for her..
and when she hears this..she will probably laugh but its the right thing..even if she is a bad seed...when her husband gets done beating her she may need someone to hold her hand as it will only get worse and the beatings will come more often until she puts a end to this madness or he finally silences her for good..and then you will have all the time for remorse and guilt..even a dog should not be beaten..
2007-03-20 03:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure whilst pregnant or perhaps from month to month a woman's sexchronic can the two boost or shrink finding on sexual urge for foodstuff. on the commencing up of my being pregnant i had to have intercourse on a daily basis yet now at my thirty 9th week i do no longer desire to be touched. It merely relies upon on hormones.
2016-10-19 04:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need nothing but time away from him, one day she will realize that she needs you. iam a twin too and he treats me like sH@T! and i never do nothing to him. just like you even when he treats me bad i am still there. This is a hurtful feeling but the way to overcome this is give it time apart... she is gonna come around but dont come give time apart. She is using ,you when she needs something it seems like she comes to u and know u will give it to her and she bac to treating u like crap. U are a person to... give time apart. Sometimes twins don't get along but your sister is disrespecting u to much.
2007-03-20 03:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by michellecovil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the **** are you doing being around an adult that beats the hell out of you! When you said you fought at first, I thought you were 9 or something!
Stay away from those two, and let them self destruct. What is going on with all this violence? Hang out with other friends, PLEASE!
2007-03-20 03:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by joey k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Candy, you've changed your name but your questions still sound like your on a bad trip - I feel cold turkey would be better for you, so stop taking drugs. Say NO
2007-03-20 03:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think twins are like any other siblings - one day you love each other, the next you hate each other...just the way it is
2007-03-20 03:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need counseling u have a lo tof issues with ur family beyond sibling rivalry
2007-03-20 03:02:57 · answer #10 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋