I've been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months. We're both law students (he's from MN, I'm from VA). About a month ago, he told me he might still have feelings for his ex (they dated for 3 years, and he lived with her). Last week, we had spring break, and he went home to MN. He said he didn't see his ex at all while he was home. Ever since I picked him up from the airport on Sunday, he's been all over me! He's told me he loves me more in the past couple days than he has all semester. He also keeps telling me how lucky he is to have me and how beautiful he thinks I am. He also apologized for ever thinking he still had feelings for his ex. Now, most normal girls would be happy about this, and I am, for the most part. However, part of me is wondering why he's suddenly so affectionate. Any ideas?
2007-03-20 02:45:25 · 13 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could be a simple case of absence making the heart grow fonder. It may be the first time he was away from you for a week and he missed you.
2007-03-20 02:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Vegan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I know you asked for a guys opinion on this but the situation sounds so much like my own past experience that i had to share my thoughts.. there is a good chance that maybe he slept with his ex. and now he feels guilty hence the reason he is on an " I love you" kick..he probably does care about you but he may have been confused not knowing how to handle the feelings he had for her. So he goes home and sleeps with her had a little fling and comes back to you but now he feels guilty and is a terrible liar and is trying to hide it from you. I am not saying 100% that is what happened but htat is what I would think if I were you and that is what it sounds like from what you explain...its your decision whether that is ok with you or if you want to confront him about it..just be careful how you word things if you confront him because he's innocent until proven guilty and you don't want to go psycho on him if that didn't happen....goodluck!
2007-03-20 09:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what happened - he went back to his ex to see if he really had any feelings for her - and found out he didn't! It was something he just had to do.
Now that's the wrestling match is over in his head, he's letting you know how he really feels about you, and about having you.
Enjoy the man, but don't question him. He'll tell you the truth about this visit in due time.
Sounds like you've got a good one.
2007-03-20 09:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was with her when he went home.
He either:
Was with her and it went bad, and he feels bad for cheating.
Plans to be with her again and is trying to pump you up so that you don't fall so hard once he tells you.
I personally think it is the first.
Do this.
Ask him for her number. If he fights you tell him to go **** himself since you aren't taking sloppy seconds from his ex girlfriend.
If he does give the number up without a fight, Call her up, and say "Yeah, he confessed. I want to know do you still love him."
If she says, "Confessed to what?" Say sorry, good luck, because he's likely innocent.
If she says, "No, I don't" or "Yes, I do", Thank her, and say good luck, then put his phone down on the ground and crush it, and tell him goodbye.
2007-03-20 09:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could be guilty about contact. Or maybe he had innocent contact that really convinced him that she is just not the person that YOU are. For me it would be hard to tell tell. Be inquisitive and try and get to the bottom of it. Good luck
2007-03-20 09:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He realized that your the one he wants, being home might have made him realize what his old relationship was like and how much better yours is. Plus you know what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder, I think there is truth in that!
2007-03-20 09:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something happened at home that made him realize why he broke up with her...and that he no longer had feelings for her. Just be happy for now until you can prove anything otherwise.
2007-03-20 09:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Amberlee :D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that his ex blew him off, and he's come back to you as his one and only. If it's totally out of character for him call him on it. Honesty first! Goog Luck! G.
2007-03-20 09:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by G=ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably had some contact with her (even if he didn't see her), but probably realized what a good thing he has with you. I wouldn't worry about what caused it...I'd be glad that he's come to some resolution about it.
2007-03-20 09:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he saw his ex and realised she wasn't the one. But then the problem would be, why he wasnt honest about seeing her.
2007-03-20 09:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by Looking for the REAL answer! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋