I have a guy that I have been with or some years and he has this bad habit of not coming home at night. He does this at least twice a week and he knows that I don't like it but he continues to do it and I am so tired of it so what should I do?
2007-03-20 02:33:40 · 20 answers · asked by lady of the morning 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey girl u r lucky that u got 2 c his another face now itself do not marry a garbage wen u know u r gonna fall into it one day! he's probbaly cheating on u....a guy who doesn't give a damn 2 his girl b4 marriage itself is fit 4 nothing...do u really wanna marry this kinda guy? u better talk 2 him seriously abt this & if he continues 2 b the same insensitive snob...best... dump! him...gud luck.
2007-03-20 02:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I've read all the other answers and they've given you some good advice, but have you considered turning the tables on him? If you know which nights he is going to be home, YOU stay out all night. Even if you just spend the night with a friend, don't come home till around the time he usually comes home. When he asks where you were at, give him the same answer he gives you. Let him see how it feels. If it doesn't bother him that you were out all night, pack his stuff and throw it in the yard!
2007-03-20 10:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not coming home? Where does he tell you he's been? You really need to get some answers, There are a few things I could tell you but you haven't elaborated too much. We know you live together, BUT do you split the expenses or are you paying all the bills? Do you two say you love each other? Do you two have a baby? Have him followed by a friend who's car he does not know, find out where he is going. I've done it and it's a way to get your answers without confronting him.
Respond to me directly if you want more advice.
2007-03-20 09:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by single_mother_orlando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you know what you should do! I would never toletate that bull. Hes either in the relationship or hes not. If hes going to act like hes single then you should get rid of him. I f he knows it bothers you and still doesnt care then why stay with him?? All the signs are right there in your face and you are allowing him to do what he wants. Dont let him step all over you,,,there are guys out there that will have respect for you.
2007-03-20 09:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well considering u have been together so long already and he still does it knowing how much you dont like it shows he doesn't really care how you feel and he can still do it b/c u have already shown its not going to make you leave him. You need to make it clear that it bothers you and if he continues to do it then you are going to leave him. If he stops, just give it a little time cause that shows he is trying... if he does it again DROP HIM
You deserve someone who will respect you...
2007-03-20 09:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by BeachLvr2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you haven't already, ask where he is when he stays out and if he's done anything u should be concerened about, don't accuse him, just let him know it makes you wonder because there's no reason someone u live with is constantly staying out all night if they're not cheating-- my ex stayed out every 2 weeks or so and i found numbers & stuff so i knew he was cheating and we'd fight about it but he never admitted to anything- tell him how u feel about him and how u hate him being out all night cuz it makes u worry & the best thing is to be honest with u, if he keeps staying out let him know you won't put up with it
2007-03-20 09:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tee118 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks while he's gone. If he stays out all night he's probably with some other woman. He will continue to do that until you put an end to it.
2007-03-20 09:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting, well I've been in this situation before, and since you've already let him know that it bothers you for him to be gone over night and yet he still continues to do it, that tells me there's lack of respect there. I'd say to let him know after he does it again, that you'll be moving on. I wouldn't give ultimatums, most people don't respond to those, and since you've already let him know it bothers you and nothing's changed, you don't deserve to be continuously treated that way.
2007-03-20 09:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should jump to any conclusions. First find out whats going on. You shouldnt feel that any thing bad is going on. Because the relationship is based on TRUST. And thats a very important factor. I think you should ask him whats going on. And ask him if he is ready to commit, because if he was, he would be coming home at night
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-20 09:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by gurl20073 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his butt to the curb and find yourself a man who will respect you. And hes prob doing it bc he knows that you dont like it, and hes mabe waiting for you to tell him to leave.. Do you know what he's doing when he's out all night? Ya know if he says he got to drunk to drive home or he was out with the boys more then likely hes doing something different.
2007-03-20 09:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋