Father in VA wants to end parental rights & pay no child support?

Question

My husband wants to terminate his right to the child & pay no child support. Is that possible in Virginia? PLEASE HELP! His baby mother gives him all kinds of promblems & even tries to turn the child against him. He feels like he has no other choice.

I am young but before you judge you have to know more about the story.
I do have a child of my own and me and his father have worked things out beautifully. The father has came to these decisions on his own and love him very much so I support him. I would never tell him what to do b/c I am only the step mom not her mother I care for the child very much, but I see that she doesn't want to come to our home. We do everything in our power to make her happy(you want believe the time, money,and extent we have went to) but she stays mad all weekend long.
I think in this regard it is better for the child and it is not the fact that he doesn't love her! The mother has stalked me and her father. She called to his work place and made him loose his job w/ ball faced lies. I had to worry about loosing evrything we had b/c of her. She rubbed it in our faces and she couldn't been happier. She does this to torment him b/c he married me instead of her. He lives in fear of her and I am sick of it all

Answer 1

oh PLEASE...

todays courts dont allow a parent to just sign away their rights (or responsibilities), unless there is someone willing to adopt the child, such as a new spouse.

gone are the days of not paying support, today, arrears are forever.

tell him to suck it up, like the rest of us are. its not easy on anyone involved.

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/

ABANDONMENT (NO SHOW PARENTS)
http://www.alllaw.com/articles/family/

NOT ALL PARENTS LOVE THEIR CHILDREN
And "RATIONAL LIES"
http://www.alllaw.com/articles/family/child_custody/article7.asp



LAWS
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
(and background cks to find them)
http://www.usarecordssearch.com/
http://deadbeatsnitch.com/
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://omnitrace.com/Missing-Persons-Search.html?OVRAW=deadbeat&OVKEY=deadbeat&OVMTC=standard
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/
http://www.crimcheck.com/personalreports.htm
http://www.easybackgroundchecks.com/
http://www.abika.com/
http://www.freeprf.com/
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.netsleuth.com/
http://netonlineinvestigators.com/index.asp
http://www.backgroundcheckgateway.com/
http://www.backgroundcheckgateway.com/locate-people.html


FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://www.naag.org/issues/issue-consumer.php

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/
http://family.findlaw.com/

FIND YOUR REPS
http://www.usa.gov/
http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php
http://judiciary.senate.gov/

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html

http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar02.html#d0e563
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 2

You need to check with an attorney in your state, I know here in Tennessee, you cannot give up your rights, unless there is someone there willing to adopt, or take on the rights. Also just signing over his rights will not end his child support obligation. He is the child's father, he owes support, no matter what is going on with the babies mom. I work in a family law office, and men like your husband ask that question all the time. It makes me sick to see anyone, ask that. He needs to get an attorney and fight for his rights as a father, instead of trying to get out of his obligation. I see mothers like that also, they need to be held responsible too. No child should ever be turned against one parent by the other. They should be held liable in court, and face jail time, or parenting classes. People need to learn to Co-Parent their children, even if they do not like each other. It is in the best interest of the child. Children are not stupid, and they will figure out who the real dead-beat parent is, and decide on their own. There is more than one kind of dead beat parent too. I say if you ignore you child's emotional needs to bond and have a healthy loving both parents, you are just as bad as the other parties involved too. Parents of children should encourage strong relationships with the other parent, children need this. They need to put their own emotions about the other parent to side, and get over the hurt that one may have cause the other. They need to grow-up and stop being selfish.I see these cases all the time. One parent against the other, not allowing a relationship between the other parent and child, but it is not in anyway a reason not to pay support. Good luck. Assuming that you husband in not a total piece of crap, and the child is better off not having a relationship with him. If that is the case, He could still owe child support, even after he gives up rights. I have seen it happen, and laugh, because then they do not have the right to be a parent, and are still under court order to support the child.

Answer 3

I've learned from living in this state, that anything is possible. I know that when I consulted a lawyer in MD, I was told that a father can not give up his rights unless there is a step parent willing to adopt him. You need to find out what the custody and support laws are in VA. I do know that a father or mother can not give up their rights just because they can't pay child support. Thank you and good luck.

Answer 4

i don't no about VA but i will say this, and I'm sorry if you get offended by this but first of all i don't care how the baby's mom is acting, if he knows that the child is his blood than he should want the child to no his father and the baby's mom didn't lay down and make the baby by herself so he needs to pay his child support. I don't no what kind of women you are yourself to support this instead of encouraging your husband to take care of his child, not act like the child was never born and to disown the child, it's not that child fault that it's mom and dad are acting immature and so is the step mom. you must be young with no children's cause if you was older you would no better an i you had kids you wouldn't want to be going through this with your children's grow up.He has to be the bigger person so his child want grow up and say dad just gave up on me and didn't want me,believe me if he's being the father that he should nothing that the baby momma say will matter to that child cause it will no who has been there for them, and it's possible that the child will rezent that mother for that too. So encourage him to pay his child support cause that child has to live to an it didn't ask to be in this world also tell him to just do what he can as for as spending time with the child but please don't you too be an selfish b***h like the baby momma ok.

Answer 5

Yeah he can terminate his rights but he will still be financially obligated to the child. Either the state of VA will make him pay or the child can come back at the age of 18 and demand it. Contact a lawyer and have him explain what can happen if he does this.

Answer 6

i don't think you can just end your parental rights unless someone else adopts the child especially if he is already paying. and really think about what that would do to the child? what kind of long term effects they could have knowing that their dad just gave them up. if he feels his child is turning against him then he should put in some more time and make sure the child knows that his/her mom is wrong

Answer 7

Terminating his rights so that he doesnt have to pay child support is a "cop-out" If he wants to see the child, he should file for visitation---- not give up. He needs to get a back bone! it IS HIS CHILD and that child deserves to know his/her mother and her father. I sure hope this isnt your man cuz if it is, you better not have a child with this man. He may do the same thing to you. Who wants to be left holding the bag when it comes to raising a child? NO one. He needs to Step up!

Answer 8

He can probably give up his rights, but not his responsibility to support. He should contact a lqwyer.

Answer 9

Don't judge her. I've been in the same situation and if you haven't you can't say what she should or shouldn't do. its hard to raise a child these days and it's even harder when the custodial parent is a *****. If he wants to sign over his rights because she's an ungrateful ***** who makes life hard for him when he's trying to do the right thing then so be it. But don't judge her people if you haven't walked a day in her shoes.

Answer 10

see an attorney the child is th eone u should b concerned about not the adults