My girlfriends uncle just passed away...
im not sure on proper funeral etiquette... i have never met this person but am i supposed to go just in support of my girlfriend and her family?
is it proper for me to go or not to go?
2007-03-20 02:28:52 · 25 answers · asked by specialxknc22 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your girlfriend will need you, but you need to make sure she wants you there, you have to ask her gently. Allow her to decide.
2007-03-20 02:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Hosebeast-ess to be 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question really has nothing to do with it being proper or improper. If you wish to show support for your girlfriend, then go. This is also another way to get to know some of the family (I'm not being funny here.)
You mustn't turn up in the funeral just because you feel you're obliged to.
2007-03-20 02:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dowland 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly proper to attend. You're not going for the deceased. Funerals are a way to support and comfort the family members.
2007-03-20 02:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funerals and viewings are for the sake of the living who are left behind. It doesn't matter to her uncle if you're there; it doesn't matter if you knew him or not. You'd be going to support the family.
I'd say you should ask your gf what she'd like you to do. That would be a kind, admirable gesture. If she'll be very busy greeting people who attend, she may not want you to have to be there. But if she needs/wants your support, she may appreciate your presence. Tell her you're very willing to attend the funeral, if she'd like you to, and let her take it from there.
2007-03-20 02:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always proper to pay respects to the deceased and to the family of the deceased.
If there is a viewing/wake, please go to that and stay with your girlfriend. Ask her if she would like you to go to the funeral as well. You probably should go to it as well.
Even though you did not know the uncle, you know your girlfriend, and you need to be there for her and her family.
2007-03-20 02:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by aivilo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd go in support of her. I've been to several funerals where I didn't know the person who died at all, because I was close friends to one or more of the relatives. Funerals are more for the relatives than for the deceased anyhow; they're the ones who are still around to grieve, they're the ones who need comfort.
2007-03-20 03:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've been with your girlfriend for a long time, it would be proper for you to go in support of her and her family.
If you've been dating for just a short time, the decision to go or not, would be entirely up to you.
2007-03-20 02:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend wants you to go, you should. She might want you to be with her, for the support.
On the other hand, your girlfriend might feel the need to be with her family only, and not need to introduce you around. In that case, don't go.
Ask her what she wants you to do.
2007-03-20 03:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, even if you've never met the person you should go in support of your girlfriend.
2007-03-20 02:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My rule is generally if I did not know the person, I do not go. If your friend was really close to her uncle, then as a friend, you can go for her, but dress appropriately.
2007-03-20 02:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is - especially if your girlfriend is in need of the support right now. It shows your sensitive side :)
2007-03-20 02:38:07 · answer #11 · answered by mtcsenff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋