Like there is something wrong with you? I keep getting guys that either I have no interest in (for good reason) trying to push me into relationships or guys that are avoidant of relationships. I am an nice sweet girl and not bad looking. I like sports and have interests of my own. I don't feel like I have to have someone else to define who I am. So why do I feel like there is something wrong with me?
2007-03-20 02:24:10 · 11 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with you,,,there is something wrong with the men these days. Dont look for love it will come to you when you are least expecting it. It took me up until 2 yrs ago to find the love of my life and im now 36. A good man takes time and it might take a long time but he will find you. Dont rush into things. Be the person you are and never change for anyone.
2007-03-20 02:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you don't have someone around to tell you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you or that you are a rare breed who has a good clear head on her shoulders as well as positive sense of her own identity. Or perhaps you are feeling isolated or alone knowing what you want out of life when so many others around you struggle for even the slightest glimpse of reality. The only thing wrong would be to believe that you need to have emotional drama or to be involved in negative situations in order to feel right about yourself. It may be easy to buy into this slanted view especially when you see how others behave or how they may try to drag you down to their level. It's difficult not to have self doubts when so many others are sending mixed messages to try to get you to compromise your integrity or to lose sight of goals that you are trying to achieve for yourself. It brings up the saying " it's hard to fly with eagles when you're surrounded by turkeys".
So don't kid yourself. Being a self assured, free thinking, assertive individual, such as yourself, never goes out of style. It takes courage, fortitude and higher ideals of self determination to continue to define who you are without needing others tell you who or what you should be. All you need to know is that you should be proud of yourself and to understand that there is nothing wrong with you for having these qualities which have become apart of you and are instilled in in you own true being. So don't stop being that sweet pleasing looking girl. In times to come you will realize that there was never anything "wrong" with you but that you were right all along!
2007-03-20 10:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might be because of who you are looking FOR. Many women hunt for the Quarterback, or the Star of a social circle. without seeing the true worth of the guy next door.
I think your question defines you as independant, yet picky if I may say. it sounds like you are the girl dressed sexy at the club for all to see, but get mad when you dont like who looks..
It sounds like you are using the wrong bait. or you are in the wrong pond. and you dont like what you are catching.
loosen up and decide if your "good reasons" might just be "shallow" reasons because Joe Nobody might not fit the profile of who you want to be seen with.
2007-03-20 09:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by original5thguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to what you said.. u keep on getting in relationships... why not try to relax a bit and find some quality time with friends and yourself.. or your family.. reflect on yourself.. maybe what you need is some space.. try to be single for the meantime..maybe that's what you need.. anyway, if you keep on getting into relationships u really don't like, you'll only be frustrated.. anyway, if it's love it will come your way right?... hope it helped..
2007-03-20 09:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by khat_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. It's perfectly normal to feel that way. One day you'll find a guy who is perfect for you, but just give it time.
2007-03-20 09:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ashleigh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with u, your getting the wrong men. just be patinet the right man will come Along, don't be in such a hurry to choose a mate, and don't settle for less than u deserve.
2007-03-20 09:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U R normal. It's life. You will find the right one and it will happen naturally. You are right to not let anyone define who you are. good luck.
2007-03-20 09:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by chazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU... IT HAPPENS TO ALL OF US... TRY TO LOOK FOR A DIFFERENT KIND AND DONT EVEN BOTHER DATING A GUY ONCE YOU REALIZE THE IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU DONT WANT... ANALYZE YOURSELF AND MAKE A LIST OF ALL THE THING YOU WANT IN A GUY,,, THEN LOOK FOR THAT WITHOUT MAKING ANY EXCEPTIONS
2007-03-20 09:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by BUTTERFLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course..... it's normal for you to feel that way....
it's because your mind is growing maturely.... someday it's gonna leave your mind.... so just take as many friends as you can... next time you'll be needing it.....
2007-03-20 09:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by JC18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to feelin feelings its part of life
2007-03-20 09:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋